Today we tackle the hardest skill in any marriage - especially after the devastation of sexual betrayal - honest, open communication.

We frame true intimacy as a three-legged stool built on transparency, vulnerability and rigorous honesty, then soften the seat with a cushion of humility so the whole thing doesn’t collapse under the weight of pain and suspicion.

Our goal is to move from theory to practice, from talking about intimacy to living it out daily. That shift requires the right tools. Enter the FANOS Check-In, by Debra Laaser. The acronym FANOS stands for:

Feelings

Affirmations

Needs

Ownership

Struggles/Sobriety.

In this episode, we’ll walk you through how two bruised spouses can sit down, share a safe space on that 3-legged stool, and walk away with clearer hearts, sharper boundaries, and a rebuilt connection.

We pray this blesses you,

Johnny and Emily

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FANOS CHECK-IN

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Episode 10. When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough: 8 Steps to a Healing Apology

Episode 80. 7 Caveats for an Effective Healing Apology

Episode 106. From Furious to Curious: How the ‘Emotions Wheel’ Unlocks Deeper Conversations

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