Somewhere between kids, career stress and shifting hormones, many couples realize their intimacy doesn’t feel the way it used to. We talk about perimenopause and hormones, but we rarely talk about how these midlife transitions reshape desire, connection and the daily rhythm of long-term relationships.

In this conversation, sexual wellness coach Alisa DiLorenzo shares simple ways to revive curiosity, bring back playfulness and rebuild closeness without adding pressure. She also names the emotional patterns that tend to surface in this season, from old frustrations to the feeling of not being fully seen.

If you want to feel closer to your partner and move through this moment with more presence and intention, this episode offers a gentle place to start and a reminder that you don’t need a new relationship, just a new chapter inside the one you already have.

Alisa DiLorenzo is an international marriage coach, speaker, best-selling author and the co-host of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, downloaded in 180 countries. She is the author of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy, and her work has helped couples rebuild emotional and sexual connection for over a decade.

We Also Discuss:

• (04:54) Why desire often shifts for both partners in midlife
• (05:32) How men also experience hormonal changes that affect intimacy
• (07:02) When sexual challenges signal physical issues versus relational ones
• (08:58) Rediscovering pleasure and bringing curiosity back into intimacy
• (10:19) How communication shifts in midlife and ways couples can reconnect
• (18:02) The impact of emotional patterns, frustrations and feeling unseen
• (35:43) Simple micro-habits that rebuild connection in long-term relationships

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