The One You Feed

124: Dan Harris and Oren Sofer

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This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren Sofer about
mindful communication
Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer.
 
Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10%
Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekend
edition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline.

 

He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10%
Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer.

 

Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation,
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialist
in the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation.

 

This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABC
Studios in New York.
 
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In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:
  • The One You Feed parable
  • Why mindfulness is useful in communication
  • The
    • 10% Happier app
  • Learning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve the
    • relationship
  • How our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/Lose
    • paradigm
  • How we have a strong negative conditioning against
    • confrontation that becomes hard-wired
  • How mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor our
    • emotional reactions in conversation
  • The role of curiosity in communication
  • How to become more curious
  • Learning to ask "What matters here" when listening to
    • others
  • Learning to say that we don't feel like talking instead of just
    • pretending
  • The minor discomfort of being real
  • How to say things in a way that the other person can hear and
    • understand
  • Learning to hold our tongue in certain situations
  • How being silent can lead to its own challenges
  • The importance of timing in choosing when to address
    • issues
  • Context sensitive communication
  • The two criteria of good communication: does the other person
    • understand and does it lead to connection
    Dan Harris Links

    10% Happier Homepage

    Twitter

    Facebook

    Oren Sofer Links

    Homepage

     

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