Coaching the Whole Educator

#130: Why "Kill Them with Kindness" is Killing Your Culture of Belonging


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If your school avoids hard conversations, you don’t have belonging. You have politeness.

We confuse being nice with building belonging. But “nice” often means silence, avoidance, and surface-level smiles. Comfort isn’t the same as safety. Harvard researcher Amy Edmondson coined the term psychological safety—the ability to speak up, take risks, and be vulnerable without fear.

In “nice” cultures, people feel comfortable... but not safe. Real belonging requires vulnerability, not just harmony.

 Listen to this episode to find out how to move your culture from polite silence to real belonging—and why discomfort might be the missing piece.  

Want more on this?
 👉 Head to the blog:
The Culture of Niceness is Not Belonging for a deeper dive and practical ways to shift your school culture. 

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Take the Catalyst Mindsets™ Quiz to uncover which mindset is missing—and what to do about it.
Because sometimes, the problem isn’t the people. It’s the mindset gap.

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