All of us tend to have manuals for how we believe other people should behave. What we find, is that our expectations for them are a way to try to control their behavior so that we can feel better. When we seek to control other people's behavior, it never turns out very well. They feel manipulated and we feel horrible because they're not doing what we think they should and then we're angry or frustrated on top of it. It's time to figure this one out!