Happily Even After with Life Coach Jen

160: Jill Pack with Seasons Coaching and I have a Conversation: Healing from Betrayal


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What happens when the foundation of your marriage crumbles through betrayal? Jennifer Townsend knows this territory intimately. After 26 years of marriage punctuated by her husband's affairs, Jennifer discovered the transformative power of coaching that ultimately gave her the clarity and strength to rebuild her life.

The journey through betrayal trauma is unlike any other. Jennifer shares how she initially believed she could "think her way out" of the pain, and how she mistakenly carried the weight of both her own shame and her husband's. "I was surviving my life," she explains, describing the frozen state many betrayed spouses experience. This numbness becomes a coping mechanism when the reality feels too overwhelming to face.

Jennifer's perspective as both a survivor and a coach offers unique insights into the healing process. She challenges common misconceptions about betrayal recovery, particularly the idea that marriage counseling should be the first step. "Healing needs to be separate until you are healed enough," she explains, noting how trauma shuts down the cognitive part of your brain, making productive couples work nearly impossible in the early stages. This counterintuitive approach allows individuals to gain clarity before attempting to rebuild the relationship.

The most powerful revelation? Understanding that your partner's betrayal was never about you. This shift in perspective removes the burden of self-blame that many betrayed spouses carry. Jennifer now helps both men and women navigate this difficult terrain, teaching them how to establish boundaries, rebuild self-trust, and determine their own needs rather than focusing solely on the relationship.

Whether you're currently navigating betrayal or supporting someone who is, Jennifer's compassionate guidance offers a roadmap through the darkness. Her message is clear: healing is possible, and with the right support, you can move from merely surviving to genuinely thriving again. Take the first step toward your own healing by recognizing that you deserve support, regardless of what decisions lie ahead for your relationship.

Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom.

Email me: [email protected] for any comments or questions.

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My website is www.lifecoachjen.com



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