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The journey through betrayal trauma often feels like navigating a minefield of uncomfortable emotions. Many of us instinctively avoid these feelings, creating a pattern of emotional suppression that prevents true healing. As someone who rode this emotional roller coaster myself for years, I'm passionate about helping others break through this barrier.

Emotional discomfort isn't something to fear or avoid—it's a necessary pathway to recovery. When betrayal leaves you emotionally numb, the first challenge becomes simply reconnecting with your feelings. Your body will tell you when you're suppressing emotions through sleep disturbances, weight fluctuations, emotional outbursts, or displacing anger onto others (like snapping at your kids or the drive-thru attendant when your real issue is with your spouse).

These uncomfortable conversations with your partner might feel terrifying—like walking into a lion's den—but they're essential for rebuilding trust and connection. Start by noticing how discomfort feels in your body. Is it tight, heavy, or restless? By becoming familiar with these sensations, you develop the ability to tolerate discomfort rather than immediately trying to escape it. If verbal conversations feel overwhelming, try writing letters, recording voice messages, or sending thoughtful texts to express yourself.

Remember that emotions themselves aren't good or bad; they simply are. Both you and your partner will experience different feelings simultaneously, and creating space for this emotional complexity is crucial for healing. Physical movement helps release emotional energy, which is why walking during difficult conversations can make them more manageable.

If navigating this emotional landscape feels consistently overwhelming, coaching can provide the support and structure you need—consider it a gym membership for your emotional wellbeing. The willingness to walk through discomfort rather than around it ultimately leads to deeper connections, stronger relationships, and the happily even after you deserve.

Past episode I did on being uncomfortable: 

https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/1772565/episodes/11425430-becoming-uncomfortable

Ready to transform your post-betrayal experience? Follow me on Instagram and Facebook @happilyevenaftercoach or email [email protected] to learn how we can work together on your healing journey.

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