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Have you ever felt crazy when your intuition was screaming that something was wrong in your relationship? Jeni Brockbank's story will validate those feelings and show you there's a path forward through betrayal trauma.

Jeni, Executive Director of Her Wings Unfold, joins me to share her journey through a 25-year marriage marked by betrayal, and how she transformed her pain into purpose. After discovering her husband's double life just nine months into their marriage, Jeni spent years trying to hold everything together while raising six children and maintaining the appearance of a perfect family. Her powerful awakening came when she realized she wasn't the one breaking covenants or destroying their relationship.

What makes this conversation particularly valuable is Jeni's insight into the unique challenges of leaving an abusive relationship when religious beliefs emphasize eternal marriage. She candidly discusses how abuse often escalates after separation, sharing her own experience of temporary homelessness when her ex-husband convinced a court to place all their home sale proceeds into escrow.

The heart of our discussion focuses on Her Wings Unfold's revolutionary approach to healing through trauma-sensitive 12-steps. Traditional recovery models often pathologize natural responses to betrayal as "codependency," inadvertently blaming victims. Jeni's program instead validates survivors' experiences, emphasizing safety, self-compassion, and community healing to address what she calls the Four A's: abuse, addiction, adultery, and abandonment.

Whether you're navigating betrayal yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers a compassionate framework for understanding the complex trauma of broken trust and the possibility of healing beyond it. As Jeni puts it, "I wasn't the one who broke the covenants" – a powerful reminder that taking back your life isn't breaking your promises.

To get in contact with Jeni:

Here are a few links:

Find a Trauma-Sensitive 12-Step meeting

H.E.R. Wings Unfold

Relational Trauma SOS

Also, something that I didn't mention is that I did author a betrayal trauma book for members of the Church.  Feel free to not use the link but here it is in case: Healing In Christ's Light From Patterns of Sexual Betrayal

I'd love to keep in touch!  You are doing amazing and brave things.  <3

Warmly,

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Jeni Brockbank
Executive Director
H.E.R. Wings Unfold
435-339-3561
herwingsunfold.org / ts12anon.org

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