When we think that someone is better or worse than we are, we are engaging in one-upping or one-downing, and it's really harmful for our relationships. To really created connection and intimacy with those in our lives, it's important to start learning how to create equality, to see each other as equals, whether this be in a marriage relationship, a parent/child relationship, or a friend or co-worker relationship. All of these can benefit by learning how to step out of one-upping and one-downing.