Life is messy. That's not the problem. The problem is when we believe life shouldn't be messy, that we should always be in control and that people should always say and do the right things. That people should get addicted or have affairs or get divorced or separate out from the family. I'm not saying those things are easy, but they are part of life. When we can learn to accept the messy as the part of life where we get to continue on our journey to becoming who God created us to be, then we can begin to see the mess as beautiful.