HOW TO KEEP YOUR PROMISES TO YOURSELF

PODCAST #258

In this episode of #TheConfidencePodcast we’re chatting about:

* How to be someone of your word – to yourself

* 7 sneaky reasons we break our promises

* Identifying the #1 promise you want to keep right now

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WHY ARE WE TALKING ABOUT PROMISES?

“It’s too easy to break your promises to yourself, after all, no one knows but you.”

Brandon and I were talking about this topic one day driving to the gym. He wanted to know what made it so easy for me to always follow thorugh – and it’s because I learned to keep my promises.

Pinkie promises – Ellie is learning this – I loved this concept growing up and I was that kid obsessed about keeping a promise.

HOW TO KEEP PROMISES TO YOURSELF

BE SPECIFIC.

Your promise is like a contact – and it needs to be clear and specific. Shoot, write out a contract.

TELL OTHERS.

CREATE A LOGICAL, SUSTAINABLE GAME-PLAN

HAVE CONSEQUENCES OR REWARDS.

TRACK SOMETHING DAILY

(Consistency Tracker)

EXPECT RESISTENCE / TEMPTATION

Plan ahead

WHAT WORKED FOR ME:

I made promises to myself that I broke for years – because I didn’t value myself. I also didn’t trust myself once I broke enough promises.

So, to change, not only did I change how I thought about myself (but that took time) … but I needed an immediate help to assist and propel the change, so I got others involved who would help me keep my promises.

Jenny Hokestra (binging and therapy)

Melissa Marquez (recycling)

Brandon Synan (life)

7 SNEAKY REASONS WE BREAK OUR PROMISES:

* We get distracted.

* We don’t schedule time for what we need.

* We let fatigue shout in our ears.

* We create “tomorrow” as a magical place.

* We expect instant results and get discouraged when it takes time.

* We let peer pressure speak louder than our wants

* We use the “lazy” card

IDENTIFYING THE #1 PROMISE YOU WANT TO KEEP RIGHT NOW

What matters the most to you?

And it needs to be for you, not because others told you you should care.

Now, strip that goal back and answer,