The EMDR Doctor Podcast

27. 4 Things I Hate About Therapy


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In this deeply personal episode, Dr. Caroline Lloyd reflects on her own experiences as a therapy client and a therapist. She explores what makes a great therapist, critiques outdated methods like the "all-knowing" distant therapist and the "silent treatment" approach, and shares why she prefers EMDR over traditional CBT. Dr. Lloyd passionately explains how EMDR fosters change without conflict, allowing clients to process trauma at their own pace.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

  • The qualities that make a therapist truly effective and compassionate.

  • Why outdated therapeutic methods can sometimes harm rather than help clients.

  • How CBT's thought-challenging techniques may not suit everyone — and why that's okay.

  • The unique benefits of EMDR therapy, including how it promotes lasting change without creating conflict.

  • The difference between weekly talk therapy and EMDR's more solution-focused approach.

    Key Highlights:

    • The "Super Therapist" Ideal: Dr. Lloyd's early ambition to become a compassionate, effective therapist — balancing empathy, knowledge, and care.

    • Therapeutic Approaches She Critiques:

      • The distant, formal therapist who offers little feedback beyond a "hmm."

      • The silent treatment approach, which she likens to gaslighting and finds counterproductive.

      • Conflict in Therapy: How growing up in a conflict-avoidant household shaped her discomfort with CBT's "thought-challenging" techniques, making it feel like an argument rather than support.

      • Why She Prefers EMDR:

        • EMDR creates a non-confrontational space for clients.

        • Change happens at the client’s pace — without forced thought corrections.

        • Sessions often bring about a sense of resolution and progress, whether small or large.

        • Therapy Models: She contrasts the slow progress of traditional psychotherapy with the often immediate, tangible changes experienced in EMDR sessions.

          Resources Mentioned:

          • Dr. Lloyd’s Heal Your Past online EMDR program – Register at emdrdoctor.com.au/heal
          • Research on PTSD treatments and why EMDR is faster and more effective than traditional talk therapy for trauma
          • Contact and Feedback:

            • Thinking about trying EMDR for PTSD? Reach out to Dr. Lloyd at emdrdoctor.com.au.
            • Note: This podcast provides general information and is not a substitute for individual medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider for personalised recommendations.
            • Subscribe & Stay Connected:

              • Don’t miss next week’s episode to gain fresh insights into the world of therapy and why EMDR might just be the "bee's knees" for fostering real, lasting change.
              • Follow the podcast to stay updated on the latest insights and expert discussions.
              • Join Dr. Caroline Lloyd as she demystifies PTSD and provides hope for recovery, showing that healing is possible with the right tools and support. Thanks for listening!

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