Many of us were impacted by the Book The 5 Love Languages in our earlier years. For me, I was impacted negatively because I used the concepts as a weapon against my spouse, a way to prove he wasn't doing it right. In reality, focusing in on how he was or wasn't loving me was the problem. The solution? Learn to focus on the law of love, the commandment to love and learn to love better, rather than the non-commandment of receiving love from others. Love isn't the reward, love is the law.