Our natural tendency as humans is to go into a one-up or a one-down approach in our relationships, especially when there is conflict.  And yet, this tactic is incredibly ineffective in helping us to communicate clearly and get on the same page.  In addition, when we engage with one-upping or one-downing the other person, we are attacking our own sense of self-worth, which then exacerbates our tendency to go up or down.  Let's clear this up, shall we?