Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy Morin

312 - Avoiding a Hard Conversation? 3 Plays to Help You Address the Issue Head-On


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Have you ever rehearsed an uncomfortable conversation in your head over and over again? Maybe you want to ask for a raise, address something that hurt your feelings, or share bad news—but you keep running the words on a loop, hunting for the perfect way to say it.

While we like to practice, rehearsing isn't actually helping. It's worrying in disguise. Today, I'm sharing three plays that work a lot better, so you can stop dreading the conversation and find the courage to actually have it.

Some of the things I talk about are:

  • The webinar I almost got roped into—and how I finally spoke up after weeks of staying quiet.
  • Why rehearsing a conversation in advance often backfires and keeps you stuck.
  • How "Flip the Script" stops your brain from treating the worst-case scenario like a prediction.
  • Why generic affirmations like "you'll do great" don't work—and what to use instead.
  • How to create a statement that works for you when the pressure is on.
  • The play that takes the hardest part of a tough conversation and moves it to your prep phase.
  • What to do when you've waited too long to raise an issue and it feels too late to speak up.
  • Why you don't have to feel 100% ready to walk into the room.
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