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Have you ever wondered why an unanswered text can send you into a spiral? Or why you keep having the same fight with your partner over and over again? It might be your attachment style. And the good news is, you can actually rewire your brain to feel more secure in your relationships.
My guest today is Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, molecular neuroscientist, and the bestselling author of Attached. He's back with a brand new book called Secure, where he shares how the small, everyday moments of connection can change your brain on a molecular level.
Some of the things we discuss in this episode are:
Why you can be securely attached to one person in your life and anxiously attached to another — and what that reveals about you.
The "cyberball effect" and the surprising reason your brain reacts to being left off a group text the same way it reacts to physical pain.
The shocking experiment that proved exclusion hurts even when the people excluding you aren't good people.
The 5 pillars of a secure connection — and the simple acronym (CARP) you can use to evaluate every relationship in your life.
Why even a nod from a stranger in an elevator matters more to your brain than you think.
The "CARP intervention" — what to do when someone in your life isn't showing up for you.
Why you don't need years of therapy or a massive breakthrough to become more secure.
The fascinating science of why some people are wired for closeness and others aren't — and what a microscopic worm can teach us about it.
How to "reshuffle your social media" (the people in your life, not the apps) to create a secure bubble around yourself.
The reason recalling childhood memories in a secure environment can actually edit those memories — and heal them.If you've ever felt like you're too needy, too distant, or just bad at relationships, this conversation will change how you think about connection — and give you the tools to start feeling more secure today.
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