August 01, 2025

234 — Stop Pressuring Yourself to Bounce Back After Trauma: The Surprising Truth About Post-Traumatic Growth

21 minutes

Have you ever felt like you needed to bounce back fast after something traumatic happened? Or felt pressured to show people that you've actually grown and become better because of what you went through?

Post-traumatic growth is real. But the concept is often misunderstood, and it leads to unrealistic expectations and unnecessary guilt. In this episode, I explore what it really means to grow after trauma — and why your growth isn't proof of how mentally strong you are.

Some of the things I share are:

The biggest misconceptions surrounding post-traumatic growth.

What post-traumatic growth actually means.

Why we shouldn't jump to look for a silver lining or strive to bounce back overnight.

How growth and pain can coexist — and why it’s okay to have ongoing emotional scars.

Why resilient people actually experience less growth compared to people who lack resilience.

Why you shouldn't pressure yourself (or anyone else) to find meaning in your trauma right away (skip the '"everything happens for a reason" speech).

Five areas where growth often occurs after trauma — and why growth looks different in different people.

How to work through a traumatic experience and the science-backed strategies that can help you grow and recover.

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