When we over-function, we are stepping into other people’s lanes and taking responsibility that is not ours. When we under-function, we are stepping back and inviting people into our lane to do things that we are responsible for doing. These one-up and one-down behaviors are so detrimental to our relationships and not only stem from our own insecurities but also feed the insecurities of others and promote resentment in everyone involved. This conversation with fellow mid-life relationship coach, Jane Copier, discusses the impact of over- and under-functioning and provides great examples to help you see how you might unknowingly be adding to the dysfunction of your relationships.

Want to find Jane?

Podcast: ‘Happy in the Middle’, and specifically episode #83 How to Stop Over-Functioning

Website: https://janecopiercoaching.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachformidlifewomen   IG: https://www.instagram.com/jane.copier.coaching/   FB: https://www.facebook.com/LDSChristianMarriageCoach   Email:  [email protected]

 

Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts:

#110 The Cost of Being Right

#216 One Up and One Down Relationships

#271 Equal Partnerships

#272 Stay In Your Own Lane

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility

#287 Equality In Your Relationships and Your Self-Worth

#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives

#309 What An Equal Relationship Looks Like

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