Polycurious

38. Twelve Lessons in my Polycurious Journey

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In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey.


  1. Be Patient. Go as fast as the slowest person
  2. Find the right time to talk
  3. Check with your partner before making plans with other people
  4. Feeling guilt at first is normal
  5. Don’t sugarcoat. Be honest with your partner
  6. Determine how much you want to share with your partner
  7. Meeting your partner’s partners (metamours) helps with jealousy 
  8. Jealousy and insecurities are likely to decrease with time
  9. You can’t control your feelings for other people
  10. Infatuation and New Relationship Energy can be fleeting
  11. Be careful where you invest your energy
  12. Non-sexual intimacy can be powerful 


    13. Resources discussed in this episode:

    • Fer & Seth’s episode 
      • Jessica’ Esfandiary's episode
        • Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
          • Rachel Krantz episode
            • Dr.Zhana's episode
              • Mariah & Fer's episode
                • Tory and Jackson's Monocurious episode


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