The Modern Manager

42: Deep Listening with Oscar Trimboli

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Are you a good listener? Like breathing, listening is something we do every day yet most of us struggle to do it well simply because we were never taught how. A lack of listening skills in combination with the many distractions vying for attention can have a profound impact on our ability to work effectively, make good decisions, and connect with other people.

This week, I speak with Oscar Trimboli, speaker and author of Deep Listening: Impact Beyond Words. Oscar is on a quest to create 100 million Deep Listeners in the world.

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Read the related blog article: Going Beyond Active Listening to Deep Listening

 

Key Takeaways:

  • Deep listening involves listening to what isn’t said in addition to what is said. It means making space for and exploring the thinking behind the words.
  • People can think much faster than they think. Often what we initially say is only part of what we’re truly thinking.
  • In order to listen well, you must quiet your mind. The worse distractions are our own brains.
  • Put your phone on airplane mode so you won’t be tempted to sneak a peek at it.
  • Drink plenty of water so your brain can function at its best.
  • Take deep breaths. Your mind follows your breathing.
  • Make space for silence. Silence allows people time to think and go deeper.
  • How we listen impacts whether people feel heard, whether a group generates insights that lead to good decisions, whether a team is aligned and works harmoniously.

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