In this episode, Anne Bland discusses the 4B movement from South Korea that focuses on autonomy, self-respect, and self-empowerment. The 4B movement stands for four ‘no’s: no marriage, no childbirth, no dating, and no sexual relationships with men until women have the same rights and opportunities as men. But this isn’t just about saying ‘no’; it’s about saying ‘yes’ to living life on one’s own terms, creating space for true happiness, liberation, and fulfilment. After the presidential elections, 4B (and 5B, 6B and 7B) movement has gained momentum in the USA where women's sexual health rights are in jeopardy. Anne explores how the 4B movement’s message of radical autonomy aligns with Selfishly Happy Revolution and how reclaiming pleasure can become a powerful, positive force.

Anne explains what it means to embrace autonomy and pleasure in a world that often prioritises economic productivity and performance over self-care and conformity over individuality. Drawing on concepts from Tantra and therapeutic self-empowerment, this episode speaks to anyone ready to embrace a life that aligns with their deepest values, regardless of gender.

What’s Covered in This Episode?

1. Understanding the 4B Movement: Its origins, principles, and what it represents for self-empowerment.
2. Moving Beyond the Dominance Model: How societal "dominance model" coined by Dr Riane Eisler impacts personal autonomy and the relevance of challenging it today.
3. Selfishly Happy Revolution: Why autonomy and pleasure are empowering choices that can redefine well-being.
4. Concrete Steps to Embrace Autonomy: Practical ways to bring autonomy and pleasure into everyday life, including:

• Rethinking consumer habits and addressing the pink tax

• Supporting women-owned businesses

• Reclaiming pleasure and self-connection as paths to well-being

5. Three Transformative Practices: Grounding Breath, Heart-Centred Visualisation, and Emotion-Naming Body Scan to help listeners reconnect with themselves and process emotions in a healthy, empowered way.

Key Takeaways

• The 4B movement isn’t about rejecting relationships but about prioritising self-respect, well-being, and authentic connection for a period of time.

• Embracing autonomy and pleasure allows each person to break free from societal expectations that don’t align with their true values.

• Simple practices can help reconnect with oneself, redefine relationships, and find greater happiness and fulfillment.

Call to Action

Anne encourages listeners to reflect on where they might be saying ‘yes’ out of obligation rather than joy. Could you start choosing what brings happiness and peace instead? This episode guides listeners in taking concrete steps toward a life that’s Selfishly Happy: avoid the "pink tax", support women- and ethnic minority-owned businesses, and celebrate pleasure as a path to well-being.

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