Sex Upgraded

My entire perspective on women’s sexuality recently shifted — especially around the idea of containment. In this episode I share a personal realization that changed how I understand arousal, dominance, submission, deep pleasure, and the layers of shame many of us carry around sexuality.

This is NOT meant to be a teaching episode.

It’s more of a reflection on my own personal revelations and new practices that have changed how I relate to women and sex.

I’m still actively learning and integrating these ideas, so take this as a window into my process - rather than a polished explanation of everything.

If you're a man who loves women, what I share here could be one of the most important things you learn about sex.

I would genuinely love to hear your thoughts and reactions - please let me know what you're thinking in the comments section of this episode on youtube, so we can explore this and learn together.

Thank you.

— Taylor

TOPICS DISCUSSED: Containment in relationships, women's arousal, masculine leadership in intimacy, sexual polarity, dominance and submission, shame around sexuality, and how to get your wildest fantasies met as a man.

**NOTE: You can expect more videos from me about the concept of containment, because I believe it's one of the most important ideas when it comes to sex and relationships.

Upcoming topics may include:
• how to contain a woman sexually
• how to contain yourself
• why YOU need containment
• why offering containment matters as a man
• and much more.

CONNECT:
https://www.taylorjohnson.life/
https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson

🔸 UPCOMING SEXUAL LEADERSHIP TRAINING:
Applications for The Embodied Sexual Leadership Training will open mid-march. The retreat will be held in Asheville, NC, on the days of July 8-12. Learn more and get on the waiting list to apply here.

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I just completed the “Tantra Meets BDSM” 7-day training with Om Rupani and Laurie Handlers. And wow... This episode is a personal integration — what I experienced, what blew me away, and what I’m still unpacking.

If you listened to my previous episode before attending, this is the follow-up. And if you’re new here, this is a candid look into my own personal growth as a sexual human. Welcome.

*NOTE: The background noise is the ocean. I recorded this with the intention of publishing the video to youtube. You can watch it here.

TOPICS:
0:00 A Turning Point in My Life
2:30 Containment
7:56 BDSM Scene Creation
10:40 Problematic Man/Woman Archetypes
15:29 I LOVE Being a Dom
18:51 Your Attention is Your Most Valuable Resource

CONNECT:
🔸 2026 Men's Retreat (July 2026)
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course
🔸 Instagram: @taylorclarkjohnson

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RETREAT INFO:
*Tantra Meets BDSM is a 7-day, in-person retreat - taught by Om Rupani and Laurie Handlers. It's primarily a BDSM training, taught through a lens of tantric/energetic understanding. The program is intense, challenging, and it has been one of the best retreats I've attended (this last round was taught at a beautiful retreat center on the coast of the Dominican Republic). You can check out the program here.

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This is my personal update just before diving into 7-day BDSM retreat taught by Laurie Handlers & Om Rupani. It’s called “Tantra Meets BDSM” - and I’m 90% excited and 10% feeling edgy. Seems like the perfect ratio. Let me know your thoughts & questions if you have any. 

CONNECT WITH ME:
🔸 Website: https://www.taylorjohnson.life
🔸 Insta: https://www.instagram.com/taylorclarkjohnson

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The Orgasmic Mastery Course is now open for self-study enrollment.

This short episode is a clear, grounded overview of the course - what it actually is, who it’s for, and how it works - so you can feel into whether this is the right next step for you.

This is a 10-week sexual self-mastery training for men who want:

• Deeply embodied sexual confidence
• The ability to last as long as they want during sex
• Stronger, longer-lasting erections
• Full-body orgasms and a grounded pathway toward non-ejaculatory orgasmic states
• The skills to generate, circulate, and harness sexual energy
• The joy of shamelessly owning their desires

This course is not about tips, tricks, or hacks.

It’s about training your nervous system and sexual response system through consistent, embodied practices—so real change happens in your body, not just in your mind.

The self-study version includes:

• Full access to all 10 weeks of the course
• Long-term access to the material
• Monthly live group calls
• Access to a private community of men who’ve gone through the work
• The option to join a future live group round at a discounted rate

If you’d like to learn more or enroll, visit the course page here.

**And - the self-study version is available at a discounted rate from the typical large group price.

There’s no rush.
Take your time.
Trust your yes.

- Taylor

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This episode is for any man who is interested in learning about my upcoming Orgasmic Mastery Course that starts on October 16th. 

It's a recording of a live Q&A call I led on October 8th - for anyone to ask me anything about the course. We got into some great conversation, and if you're considering joining the course, this should be a helpful listen.

If you have any questions about the course after listening to this episode and checking out the course page, please either shoot me a DM on instagram (it's easy to reply with a voice message there) or send me an email.

Thank you!

-Taylor

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Get my free guided practice here: https://learn.taylorjohnson.life/embodiment - and know this: Most men trying to improve their sex lives are missing one crucial ingredient: embodiment. And this is one of the main reasons why so many men have "tried all the techniques" but still struggle with premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and sexual performance anxiety...

To overcome these challenges, you HAVE TO do some kind of embodiment practice - in addition to learning the direct sexual techniques that address the sexual "dysfunctions." The techniques alone won't cut it...

*NOTE: This episode was originally filmed for Youtube, but I decided to put it here as a podcast episode as an experiment. You can watch the video on youtube here.

 FREE RESOURCES
🔸 Ejaculation Control Training
🔸 17-Minute Sexual Embodiment Guided Practice
🔸 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge

UPCOMING TRAINING FOR MEN:
🔱 Consider joining my upcoming 10-week sexual self-mastery training for men called the Orgasmic Mastery Course. It starts October 16th, 2025.

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NOTE 2: The free practice I've linked to above combines elements of Qigong, breath work, Yoga, mobility training, Taoist sexual practice, and somatic awareness exercises too. This kind of practice is what I do for my main regular/personal practice. It's not entirely qigong, so I don't call it that. And it's not entirely yoga either...  It is what it is. :)
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CONNECT & LEARN MORE:
Sex Upgraded Podcast
Website
Instagram

#embodimentpractice #embodiment #menshealth 

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This episode is a very personal story from a workshop I attended 6 weeks ago... During the workshop, I had an experience that broke me open in profound ways that have changed my life for the better. *(Important note below)* And I'm definitely still integrating what happened, but at this point I've spent enough time in integration to feel excited to share the story with you.

**IMPORTANT NOTE: What I forgot to mention in the episode was that the experience was so strong for me, I had to spend the rest of that evening back at my AirB&B, going back and forth between laying down on the bed crying with emotional opening/release - and getting up to do intentional movement practice to feel everything fully and integrate. I didn't eat, I didn't distract myself with social media or tech... I just spent the evening & night solo - feeling, integrating and then went to sleep. It felt like the comedown of a profound psychedelic medicine journey... that's the best analogy I can come up with.

If you're someone who's interested in personal transformation, and different ways that can happen, I think you'll really enjoy this episode.

🔴 - You can also watch this episode on Youtube here.

HAVE A QUESTION?
I'm open to any questions about anything I shared in this episode (please ask me in a comment on this video). This work is absolutely fascinating to me... and I'm into discussing it with people who are also interested in the world of somatics & transformation.

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 Somatics Explained
02:53 The Strozzi institute (Where I'm Studying)
04:39 Somatic Bodywork Explained
06:45 The Story: My Heart-Opening Transformation
23:45 Advanced Somatics Retreat Update (Rescheduled)
27:40 Sex & Heart (My Biggest Challenge & Growth Areas)
30:00 The Potential of Somatics & Movement in Men’s Work

WORK WITH ME:
🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025):
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (September, 2025):
🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge

THE STROZZI INSTITUTE
If you want to check them out, here are the courses I've taken with the Strozzi Institute:
🔸 Embodied Transformation (April 2023)
🔸 Embodied Leadership Pathway (Weekend 1 Only) (September 2024)
🔸 Somatic Bodywork (April 2025)
🔸 Somatics, Trauma & Resilience (June 2025)
The upcoming training I'm taking with Strozzi:
🔸 Somatic Coaching Training (October, 2025)

*NOTE: Sadly I dropped out of the Embodied Leadership Pathway program because hurricane Helene hit my home in Asheville during the first weekend of the training, and the recovery effort was too intense and all-consuming to do the needed coursework. It's a great program, and I'd like to re-enroll in the future when schedule permits!

#somatics #menswork

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What if the reason you keep choosing the wrong partner… is a belief you picked up at five years old? Much of our adult life we're actually acting from unconscious patterns that shape who we’re drawn to, how we show up in relationship, and why many men feel stuck chasing chemistry instead of building conscious connection... THIS is a moment when the boy or the prince within us has to grow up into a man.

🔴 - You can also watch the video interview here on Youtube.

This is a rich episode, and I truly hope you get a lot out of it.

TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 Intro
01:08 Max's Story of Transformation  
02:47 What Is a Core Wound?  
04:02 Personal Story of a Wound 
07:10 How Childhood Shapes Love  
08:36 Dating from Your Wounds  
10:57 Visualize Your Ideal Partner  
13:46 Why We Choose the Wrong People  
17:16 Chemistry Isn’t Connection  
18:58 Discernment in Dating  
25:23 Own Your Truth & Lead  
27:04 From Prince to King  
34:37 Purpose, Love & Fatherhood  
39:23 Leading Your Family as a Man  
45:12 Intimacy After Kids & Keeping Desire Alive
50:18 Creating Real Chemistry  
56:04 Reclaiming Joy  
01:00:02 Why Men Need In-Person Work  

Thank you Max for taking the time for this chat, and thank YOU for reading this and listening to the episode. If it touched you in some way, or if you got something useful, please let me know - and pass it along to another man who might need this conversation.

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WORK WITH MAX:
🔸 Max's Instagram
🔸 Max's Website

WORK WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025): 
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (September, 2025):
🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge


#menswork #menshealth #growthjourney

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🔱 PROGRAM DATES (9-week hybrid online & in-person retreat program):
🔸 Online Monday evenings from 6-8pm, starting August 4th
🔸 Retreat: August 28th-31st - just outside of Asheville, NC, USA.
🔸 Learn more and apply to join here.

You can also watch last year's interview with Thomas and I on Youtube at this link.

🔱 EPISODE TOPICS:
00:00 Intro & Context
02:26 What This Program is Really About
04:59 The Magic of Combining Online & In-Person Work  
10:53 How Patterns Actually Change 
13:46 Thomas & Taylor Share Their Backstories
21:45 Healing with Men (& Perceived Danger of Men)
26:08 Sexual Clarification (What We Will & Won't Do)
28:22 I Have a Busy Life, Can I Still Do This Program? 
32:15 How is this Different from the Orgasmic Mastery Course?
34:35 Can a Man in His 70s Join?  
39:23 Why This Isn't Therapy (But Still Deeply Transformative) 
44:13 The World Needs You 

I'm here if you have any questions.

• Shoot me an email here.
• Or send me a DM on Instagram here.

-Taylor

🔶 UPCOMING ORGASMIC MASTERY COURSE LINKS 🔶

• Live Q&A on October 8th @ 1pm EST
• Orgasmic Mastery Course (Starts October 16th)

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Dave Asprey is controversial figure who says semen retention helped him make hundreds of millions of dollars... and I'm inclined to believe him. It's not a black and white situation though, and I'd like to explore that with you today...

🔴 - You can also watch this episode on Youtube.

In this unique episode, WE are going to listen to an interview between Dave & Caitlin V - together for the first time (about semen retention, sexual energy and money) and I'm going to react to their interview and share my thoughts with you in real time.

TIMES & TOPICS:
0:00 Intro
3:30 The Power of Sex & Sexual Energy Transmutation
9:55 Ejaculation Frequency (How Often Men Should Ejaculate)
11:30 Ejaculation Hangover
14:36 Semen Retention Lifestyle
18:40 Technique to Stop Premature Ejaculation
26:20 Semen Retention & Money
32:20 Your Feedback? (Should I do more videos like these?)

QUESTION FOR YOU:
Do you like this kind of episode? It's a first for me (doing a reaction video), and I enjoyed it a lot - but I wonder - was it useful for you? I'd love to hear your thoughts.

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WORK WITH ME:
🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025)
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (September, 2025)
🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025):
🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge

CONNECT WITH CAITLIN :
🔸 Caitlin's Youtube Channel
🔸 Caitlin's New Music-Responsive Sex Toy
🔸 Caitlin's Website

CONNECT WITH DAVE:
🔸 Dave's Website
🔸 Dave's Instagram
🔸 Dave's New Book: Heavily Meditated

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