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Most people don’t realise just how much gender shapes the way we play in BDSM. Whether we’re leaning into traditional roles—like masculine dominance and feminine submission—or subverting them entirely, gender dynamics influence kink in ways we often don’t even notice.

In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, we dive into:

🔹 How gender roles show up in BDSM
🔹 Masculine dominance vs. feminine submission – Why it turns us on
🔹 Subverting gender norms – Femdom, feminisation, and sissification in play
🔹 The shadow self & kink – Why our desires often contradict our vanilla life values
🔹 De-shaming gendered kinks & embracing what excites you
🔹 Practical ways to explore gender roles in BDSM

Journaling Prompts from This Episode

🖊 Want to explore gender in your BDSM play? Use these prompts to reflect on your desires:

• Do I feel more aroused by reinforcing traditional gender roles or subverting them—or both?
• Are there fantasies I’ve been afraid to explore because they challenge how I see myself?
• What aspects of gender am I curious about playing with in a kink setting?

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xx Harley 🐰

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