When you first explore submission, it’s easy to get caught up in labels and stereotypes—but what if those don’t quite fit? Do you have to love obedience, service, or degradation to be a sub? Or maybe you’re drawn to pain or bondage, but don’t feel like surrendering control?

In this episode, Harley Rabbit helps you untangle your submissive identity, exploring the many ways submission can look. Whether you’re a good sub, brat, masochist, or rope bunny, this episode will guide you in discovering what truly excites you—without forcing yourself into a box that doesn’t fit.

This one is for both subs and dominants, as we’ll also discuss how to recognise different submissive styles and find play partners who are the right match.

Journaling / Discussion Prompts:

• Do I crave giving up control, or am I more drawn to sensory experiences?
• Do I get turned on by praise, punishment, resistance, or being cared for?
• How can I communicate my unique submission style with my partner(s)?

Resources Mentioned:

• Previous Episode: #81: Am I Kinky Enough? Breaking Free from the Stereotypes
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