Turns Out I'm Into It!

#84: What Turns You On—and What Turns You Off! Understanding Your Sexual Brakes and Accelerators


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Do you ever feel like your body just isn’t showing up for sex—even when your mind is totally on board? Maybe you want to feel turned on, but nothing’s happening down there. Or maybe you feel ashamed, confused, or frustrated when your desire doesn’t match what your partner (or you!) expect.

In this episode, Harley Rabbit introduces the dual control model, a powerful framework from the world of sexology that could change the way you think about arousal forever.

You’ll learn how your sexual accelerator and brakes work, and how understanding these systems can help you navigate issues like low desire, erectile difficulties, body shame, and performance anxiety with more compassion, clarity, and confidence.

Journaling Prompts:

📝 Do I know what my core desires are? Am I getting them met in my sex life?
 📝 Are there any external or internal threats pressing on my brakes right now? Can I do anything about them?

Resources Mentioned:

  • Emily Nagoski’s Book: Come As You Are
  • Previous Episode: #83: What If You Could Be Anyone? The Magic of Kink Personas

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