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Welcome to Turns Out I’m Into It. In this unforgettable episode, I’m joined by special guest Cruciator to explore one of the kink world’s most taboo topics: fear play.

Cruciator has been active in the BDSM community since 1992 and is the owner of Fetlife’s Fear Play group. With decades of experience conducting high-intensity scenes—including multi-day abductions—he brings a grounded, thoughtful approach to a kink that is often misunderstood. He’s also a seasoned educator, offering in-depth online classes on the psychology, technique, and safety of fear play.

We explore:

• Why fear can be intensely erotic—and even healing
• The altered states and flow experiences fear play can evoke
• The arc of a scene: from immersion to cathartic release
• The neuroscience of subspace 
• How to evoke realism in long-term dynamics
• How tops manage responsibility, subtle cues, and emotional safety
• Why cultural fear of dark fantasies causes more harm than the desires themselves

🎓 Want to explore further?
Cruciator is offering an online class on fear play in August—designed for tops, bottoms, and anyone curious to go deeper. You can find the Fetlife event here. Tickets are available through Eventbrite here. I’ll be attending too.

You can also find Cruciator's Extreme Scenes Protocol here, as well as more information on his negotiation word. 

📚 Book Recommendation: The Lover’s Pinch – a fascinating history of BDSM across cultures and eras.

🎧 Whether you’re fear-curious or simply fascinated by the deeper psychological layers of kink, this is one of my favorite conversations on the podcast so far!

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xx Harley 🐰

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