A HOLY MESS | Nervous System, Somatic, Regret, Exhausted, Burnout, Boundaries, Emotional Healing, Christian Mindset, Recovery

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You're at the happiest place on earth, you open one email, and your brain goes straight to worst-case scenario. That's where Dani was when a surprise tax bill landed in the middle of a family trip to Disneyland. This one comes from inside her coaching community, shared because it was too good to gatekeep.

The tool that helped her find her footing came from Betty, a prayer warrior in her 90s, who calls it Triple A Faith: Acknowledge, Appreciate, Allow. Name the hard and fight just as hard to name the good. Find the lesson and the people God brings through a rough season. Then let God be God. Dani lands the whole thing on Guardians of the Galaxy, the ride where she once pulled a shoulder muscle holding on, and this time rode it with her arms in the air.

Every season asks something hard of you. It's either hard to heal or hard to suffer, so choose your hard. If you're ready to stop white-knuckling and do the healing kind of hard with real support, 1:1 coaching with Dani is where that starts. Book at aholymess.com.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here, Dani

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who's been holding on too tight. 🤍

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What do you do when someone you love judges your faith or questions your calling from God? Dani recorded this one in the car on the drive home from LA, still processing a moment from the night before. A family member called her faith "Diet Coke" to his "Coke," and it hit a nerve. She gets honest about why it triggered her, and about what she found in herself once the sting wore off.

The opinions that cut deepest rarely come from strangers. They come from the people you love and respect most. Dani shares the story of a client who was at the top of his career in his 30s, felt called into ministry, and got pulled back into business because family and colleagues drowned out his own voice. She also revisits the priest whose words at 16 carried more weight than God or her own intuition, and what that cost her.

Here's the truth: your call from God is not a conference call. The people who love you don't get a vote. If you're ready to hear your own still small voice again, 1:1 coaching with Dani is where that work starts. Book at aholymess.com.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here, Dani

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who's been waiting on someone else's permission. 🤍

You're taking care of everyone else's needs, grinding through obligations, and somewhere along the way the simple stuff got buried: sleep, water, a walk, the massage you keep pushing off. Dani recorded this one fresh off the massage table, frizzy hair and all, and she came with something on her heart. Your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health are not optional maintenance. They are the work.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here, Dani

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

📞 Ready to talk? Book a free discovery call with Dani → https://calendly.com/danisumner

Dani is fired up today. Fair warning: if little kids are nearby, AirPods in.

You can't numb your pain without also numbing your joy. When you go numb on one end of the emotional spectrum, you go numb on all of it. Real healing means building the capacity to feel all of it, and here's what Dani knows for certain: we've all survived 100% of our worst days so far. C.S. Lewis said it best: you can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. For years Dani wanted to rewrite her story, undo what happened, undo what she'd done. That was a fool's errand. The work was never going back. It was learning to embrace the broken, fragile parts that had lived through hell and letting God breathe life into them. And here's the thing that changes everything: God wants to use the hardest things you've been through to help someone else. You don't need to be fully healed. You might just have a little limp. That limp is a war wound, and it taught you something. Revelation 12:11 says it plainly: by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony, people are healed. Your mess is not for nothing. Helping others is the medicine. That's exactly why Dani created the Messy Life Transformation Life Coach Certification: for the people who've lived through the school of hard knocks and are ready to turn that wisdom into something that helps others do the same. Joel 2:25: God will restore the years the locusts have eaten. He's not done with you.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here, Dani

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍

📞 Ready to talk? Book a free discovery call with Dani → https://calendly.com/danisumner

You've prayed for everyone else. For your family, their health, their marriages, their hard seasons. But when it comes to your own life, your business, your calling, your finances, you're either praying crumbs or not praying at all. Dani was right there with you. Then came a Friday night at the Cheesecake Factory, a $5 bet with her old-school Catholic dad, and a parking spot that opened right on cue, and something cracked open in her.

This episode is a faith story, a recovery story, and an invitation to stop settling for scraps. Dani unpacks why so many of us default to "thy will be done" and quietly forget we're allowed to pray specifically and boldly for the desires God already planted in us. She names Psalm 37:4, walks through the three schools of life where God wants to meet you (relationships, finances, health), and lands on a real question: are you actually praying for what you're called to do? Dani is, and she is praying out loud for 20 people to join her Life Coach Certification by year end. If you have been feeling that pull, this episode just might be your answer.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here, Dani

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍

📞 Ready to talk? Book a free discovery call with Dani → https://calendly.com/danisumner

You've been through things that were never supposed to happen. And if you're still carrying the weight of it all, wondering when God is going to do something with all that pain, this episode is for you.

Recording from a hotel room at Disneyland (messy beds and all), Dani drops everything after a call with a man who has walked through the fire and is now on the other side, asking what so many of you are asking: what do I do with everything I've been through?

The answer isn't more processing. It's not more waiting. It's service. Your story isn't just for you. The comfort you've received is the comfort you're built to give out. And that nudge you feel to help others with your exact mess? That's God.

For some of you, the thing that's been missing from your healing isn't another tool. It's giving away what you've been given. And for those who feel called to do that as a life coach, the Life Coach Certification is exactly where this goes. The most powerful coaches aren't the ones who had it easy. They're the ones who've been through the fire and came out with something to say.

Dani doesn't waste a damn thing. And neither does God.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here, Dani

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍

📞 Ready to talk? Book a free discovery call with Dani → https://calendly.com/danisumner

Life is lifing. Hard in multiple directions at once. Parents, friendships, grief, the mess you didn't sign up for and the mess you created yourself. Dani recorded this one in the middle of her own intense season and didn't pretend otherwise. She's navigating her parents needing more support, two friends with stage four cancer, and a shitty committee that would love nothing more than to drag her into every storm. Her response? "I'm unavailable for that chaos." Not because things aren't hard. Because she knows you can only do what you can do, and emotionally stepping into what you can't control is just another way to abandon yourself. This is the kind of work 1:1 coaching with Dani is built around: getting your nervous system right, your vision clear, and your permission to believe that better is still coming.

She closes with a guided white light meditation, a Habakkuk 2:2 vision exercise, and a C.S. Lewis quote that lands like a deep breath. Book a discovery call at aholymess.com, or grab a spot right now at calendly.com/danisumner.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here,

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍

📞 Ready to talk? Book a free discovery call with Dani → https://calendly.com/danisumner

You know your husband's love language. You know your best friend's. But when's the last time you actually used one on yourself?

Gary Chapman's five love languages (quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, acts of service) were built to help you understand how people feel loved. Somewhere along the way we started applying them to everyone except the one person who needed them most. You've been loving everybody else in their language while running on empty -- and that's exactly why you're depleted.

Dani's been teaching this inside her coaching groups for years and finally brought it to the podcast: figure out your top two love languages, then do those things for yourself. Quality time? 30 minutes of solitude, not errand-running. Physical touch? A massage with intention, not just obligation. Acts of service? Clean out the drawer that's been hanging over you. Gifts? Buy yourself the flowers. It's not selfish. It's the opposite of self-abandonment.

And if words of affirmation is your language and your shitty committee is out of control -- that's not a coincidence. You're getting hit hardest in the exact place you need the most love. That's the work. And if you want to go deeper on it with someone in your corner, 1:1 coaching with Dani or the Life Coach Certification is where that happens.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here,

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍

📞 Ready to talk? Book a free discovery call with Dani → https://calendly.com/danisumner

You have a story. And if you're honest, parts of it still have a grip on you. The childhood stuff you thought you processed. The religious conditioning that told you you'd never be enough. The way your business tanks when your inner world is a mess. Dani recorded this one right after getting off the phone with a client who knew she was the bottleneck in her own business but couldn't figure out why. The answer wasn't a strategy. It was the same thing Dani sees over and over: unprocessed stuff left to run the show.

Here's the truth: your history doesn't disqualify you. It qualifies you. But only if you deal with it instead of dragging it behind you like an anchor. If you've done the therapy, read the books, tried the groups, and still feel stuck, the missing piece might be learning to use your story to help others. That's what the Life Coach Certification is built for: taking what you've lived and turning it into something that actually helps people. Because when you help others, you heal yourself. Book a discovery call at aholymess.com and let's find out what God can do with your mess.

In this episode, Dani talks about:

Glad you're here,

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍

📞 Ready to go deeper? Book a free discovery call with Dani → https://calendly.com/danisumner

If scripture has ever been used against you, as a weapon or a warning, this one is for you. Psalm 139 is one of the most intimate passages in the Bible, and Dani reads it here the way it was always meant to land: as a reminder that you are fully known, fully seen, and held in grace from before you were born. This is a brief scripture meditation, about four minutes, designed to slow you down and let the words do their work.

Dani has been on her own journey of redeeming scripture for years, and this kind of quiet, restorative practice is at the heart of the work she does with her coaching clients and inside her programs. If this speaks to something you've been longing for, a free discovery call at aholymess.com is a beautiful place to start.

In this episode:

Glad you're here, Dani

Book a free discovery call at aholymess.com (or jump straight to calendly.com/danisumner to grab a spot right now). 1:1 coaching for the deep work. Life Coach Certification if you feel called to do this for others. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, leave a review and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not where they used to be. 🤍