A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret

Ever feel like you've tried EVERYTHING—therapy, retreats, prayer meetings, all the books—but you're still struggling? This episode reveals what might be the missing piece: integrating your body into the healing process.

👉If you’re tired of feeling lost, unheard, or disconnected from your purpose, AND you’re feeling a pull toward “something more” but can’t seem to find your way there, let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary Discovery Call and we’ll gently explore what’s getting in the way of the life you know you’re meant to live.

Still feeling stuck after prayer, therapy, and all the self-help? You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I still feel this way after everything I’ve done?” I hope this episode helps. 

Today I’m joined by one of my favorite humans on the planet (and my longtime therapist), Jim Beebe.

Jim’s a wealth of wisdom, life experience and compassion. AND he’s the real deal! I’m so grateful when he shares his time with us on the show! Today we’re talking about my new Coaching program The Third Act, and about why so many of us still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or quietly disconnected on the inside… even though we’ve spent years trying to heal.

We break down the real reasons you might feel stuck, including:

The 3 Acts of your life story, and why so many of us end up circling in Act Two far longer than we need to.

We also dive into what The Third Act really means, and how to step into a more grounded, purposeful, peaceful chapter of your life… one that actually feels like you.

If you’re spiritually-minded, love Jesus, and feel exhausted, invisible, or quietly lost inside (even though your life looks “fine” or even great on the outside), this conversation will bring clarity, compassion, and a deep sense of hope.

👉 Ready for your Third Act? Schedule your complimentary Discovery Call with me here and let’s explore what’s possible for you in this next season.

So grateful you’re here,

 Dani

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Hey friend! Today we’re talking about growing our relationship with our Creator, AND why the phrase "quiet time" makes me cringe and how I learned to connect with God in ways that actually work for who HE made ME to be.

If you've ever felt like you're not doing devotions "right" or that your relationship with God doesn't look like everyone else's, this episode is for YOU.

 It's time to let go of the shoulds and discover what actually feeds your soul.

What You'll Learn:

✨ Why traditional "quiet time" doesn't work for everyone (and that's okay!)

💪 What a "spiritual workout" looks like and how to create your own

🏃‍♀️ How movement, dancing, and even naps can be part of intimacy with God

📖 Permission to skip scriptures that bring shame instead of empowerment

🧠 The mind-body-spirit connection you can't ignore

"You may have been your mom's accident, but you are not God's accident. You are here for such a time as this."

"I don't believe my thoughts until I move my body."

"Scripture was meant to empower you. If there are scriptures tearing your soul apart, don't read them right now."

"I'm so exhausted from trying to figure everything out on my own."

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If this episode resonated with you, let's talk! I work with women who are tired of religious "shoulds" and ready for authentic intimacy with God.

During our call, we'll:

No pressure. No shoulds. Just honest conversation.

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Remember: There's no formula for connecting with the Lord. You have PERMISSION to do it differently. You have permission to evolve.

God bless you! 💛

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What's up my people! Today marks my 15th sobriety birthday! 🎉

In this episode, I'm getting real about recovery, purpose, and why your hardest moments don't disqualify you from living a life full of joy and meaning. If you're struggling with feeling unworthy or like your past has disqualified you from your future, this one's for you.

✨ Your darkest hours can become your greatest purpose

✨ Nothing you've been through disqualifies you from helping others or having purpose

✨ You don't need to publicize your story to live out your purpose

✨ Healing takes time—be patient with yourself

✨ You're not a vending machine—set boundaries and prioritize yourself

✨ It's OKAY to be happy, joyful, and walk confidently in your purpose

If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to work through past pain, find your purpose, and build genuine confidence—I'd love to support you!

Let's talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how life coaching can help you get there.

Schedule your complimentary discovery call

You don't have to do this alone.

Grateful,

Dani

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Are you ready to show up as the best version of yourself? Know you need support getting there? Schedule your complimentary call with Dani here. 

Ever notice you show up as different versions of yourself depending on who you’re with or what’s going on?

In this episode, I’m sharing how to recognize the versions of you that show up in different seasons — and how to gently choose the one that feels most peaceful, authentic, and you.

You’ll hear:

This isn’t about doing more. It’s about coming home to who God made you to be.

Much love,

Dani

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Keywords: 

🐸 THE FROG IN THE KETTLE:

Why do high-achieving, empathetic women (and men) wait until their 50s, 60s, or 70s to find their voice?

Because they're like the frog in boiling water—so adaptable to suffering, they don't realize they deserve better.

This episode explores:

If you've spent decades putting everyone else first and finally realized "I'm not even on the totem pole"—this is your wake-up call.

You're not selfish for wanting peace.

READY TO STOP BEING THE FROG IN THE KETTLE?

If you want support finding more joy, harmony, and purpose in your next season, schedule a discovery call with Dani here.

So glad you're here,

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Sick and tired of the past holding you back?--Schedule your free call with Dani here, and talk about your next steps working with her directly. 

Hi friend,

This may be one of my favorite episodes I’ve ever put out there. If you’re struggling with shame and regret, please put your airpods on and listen to this episode twice. And if you feel the stirring from God and you want to step into your future without the past controlling you, schedule your free call with me and we can see what your next steps are.

May this episode bless you and help you.

Grateful you’re here,

Dani

Remember: God's not done with you. That longing in your heart is still there for a reason.

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Hey beautiful friends! Ever feel like you're supposed to have it all together but you're secretly struggling? 

This episode is your permission slip to be human. 

Fresh off an incredible trip to Ireland, I'm getting real about hitting a melancholy patch and why that's totally okay and most importantly, how to get through it!

Remember: This too shall pass (it may pass like a kidney stone, but it's gonna pass!)

If you're thinking "Dani, I don't know how to take care of myself," I've got you!

Book Your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call 

In just 30 minutes, we'll:

✅ Identify what's draining your energy

Grateful you’re here,

Dani

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Welcome back, friend!

I just returned from an incredible trip to Ireland, and while I was there, I heard a poem I had to share with you. It’s by Emery Hall, and I believe it will bless you as much as it blessed me.

If you’ve been beating yourself up for past mistakes, or wishing you could erase whole seasons of your life, this poem will give you a fresh, freeing perspective. Instead of carrying resentment toward your past self, you’ll begin to see her (or him) with compassion — and find peace for the road ahead.

✨ Ready to find the clarity you’ve been longing for but don’t know where to start?

Together, we’ll:

Don’t wait another day weighed down by regret. Your next chapter is calling — and I’d love to walk with you into it.

Best,

Dani

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Ready for Your Next Chapter--your very own Third Act? Book a FREE Discovery Call with me! Perfect for anyone ready for "more" but unsure what that means. 🔗 Schedule now

Do you have big emotional reactions that don't seem to match the situation? 

Feel like you're "too broken" to heal?

Maybe you've been telling yourself you're fundamentally damaged when life gets messy.

In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story about having an intense reaction to my husband's playful tickling—and the powerful revelation it sparked about healing and identity. 

I’m hoping this conversation will shift your perspective from feeling "broken" to understanding you're God's masterpiece being restored.

We'll explore the beautiful Japanese art of Kintsugi and how it perfectly illustrates God's healing process in our lives. 

You're not broken—you're buried under life's hardships, but your foundation remains strong.

It's time to move from "I'm a problem to solve" to "I'm an experience to live." You are God's masterpiece, created for good works, and your healing journey is part of His beautiful design.

So much love to you,

Dani

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Hey beautiful soul!

Welcome to Episode 197 of A Holy Mess Podcast! 🎉

Quick note: Yes, I mentioned episode 200 in the recording, but some things shifted with our posting schedule—and honestly, what's more fitting for a podcast called "A Holy Mess" than a little mix-up? 😉

I hope today's episode encourages you wherever you find yourself on this journey of life.

I'm officially launching The Third Act—a coaching program to help you step into your future with more confidence and clarity.

It's designed for those ready to release life's conditioning and step into who they were created to be before the world told them who they should be.

This is for those of us who have done a lot of the personal growth work—read the books, done therapy, attended the workshops, etc…—yet still long for the "more" from life.

I genuinely believe YOU and I were created with purpose, and sometimes navigating our next steps can feel overwhelming. That's exactly why I created The Third Act.

If you're ready to stop playing small and stop letting your circumstances control you, let's talk. Schedule a free discovery call and see if The Third Act is right for you.

$1,000 OFF any six-month coaching package throughout the month of August!

Schedule a complimentary call with Dani to learn more about one of her programs or working with her one-on-one.

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With love,

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