A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret

By Dani Sumner | Christian Life Coach, Spiritual DirectorHealth & Fitness Mental Health Religion & Spirituality Christianity Education Self-Improvement

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A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret episodes

July 12, 2025196. When Life Feels Like a Maze: Finding God's Peace in Overwhelming Seasons
Ready to go deeper? If this episode resonates with you and you're seeking healing and purpose in your life, Dani would love to connect! Schedule a free call to explore how working together might help you on your journey. [Schedule here - link]
Does your life ever feel like you're navigating a maze? Then I hope this episode encourages you! I'm just back from a retreat and a white water adventure, and I'm sharing a few insights today. I'm also talking about Exodus 14:14 - "The Lord himself will fight for you; you need only be still." If you're feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about your path forward, I hope this episode blesses you.
A gentle reminder: You don't need to have everything figured out right now. Sometimes we're not meant to have all the answers yet, and that's perfectly okay.
What You'll Discover:
Why taking breaks is essential for personal growth
How to navigate life's challenges when feeling stuck
The practice of active surrender and staying present
How nature can provide healing and clarity
Finding your purpose and embracing self-discovery
Remember: Your past doesn't have to define your future, and you're not alone in your struggles.
Grateful,
Dani
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22 min
July 10, 2025[Take 2 🤦‍♀️] 195. The Body Keeps the Score: How to Care for Your Body When Stress Takes Over
Ever feel the stress in your body? Welcome to the club! ;) A club I’d rather not be in, but I am here, so here we are. ;)

This by no means is an exhaustive list of ways to help, but I thought I would bring this subject around again on the show because so many of us are feeling the stress of life in our bodies. And I don't want to be a ‘victim’ of that stress and have been on a journey to really learn how to care for myself in this. It’s been quite the process, but soo worth it!

I mention "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, a phenomenal book that triggered me the whole way through. But it taught me so much about why my body was feeling it and “keeping score.”

I hope this episode blesses you.
Key Topics Covered:
Understanding Body-Stress Connection
How stress manifests physically in the body
Personal examples of stress patterns (shoulder tension, hip pain)
The importance of acknowledging rather than shaming physical stress responses
What Doesn't Work
Self-shaming and harsh self-talk
"Suck it up buttercup" mentality
Ignoring your body's signals
Personal Evolution in Self-Care
How body needs change over time
Transitioning from ice baths to heat therapy
Listening to your body's changing needs
Honoring hormonal changes with age
Key Takeaways:
Your body keeps score - Physical symptoms often reflect emotional and mental stress
Permission to prioritize - Self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary
Adaptation is normal - What worked before may not work now, and that's okay
Gentle approach - Choose loving, nurturing ways to care for your body
Individual needs - We're not one-size-fits-all; honor your unique body

Feeling a tug towards finding your purpose and learning to how prioritize yourself without the guilt? It’s probably time to deal with what’s actually holding you back so you can move forward with more joy and harmony in life. We invite you to schedule a complimentary call with Dani to explore if working together is the right fit for you.
Book Your FREE Discovery Call

Glad you’re here,
Dani

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16 min
July 09, 2025195. The Body Keeps the Score: How to Care for Your Body When Stress Takes Over
Ever feel the stress in your body? Welcome to the club! ;) A club I’d rather not be in, but I am here, so here we are. ;)

This by no means is an exhaustive list of ways to help, but I thought I would bring this subject around again on the show because so many of us are feeling the stress of life in our bodies. And I don't want to be a ‘victim’ of that stress and have been on a journey to really learn how to care for myself in this. It’s been quite the process, but soo worth it!

I mention "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, a phenomenal book that triggered me the whole way through. But it taught me so much about why my body was feeling it and “keeping score.”

I hope this episode blesses you.
Key Topics Covered:
Understanding Body-Stress Connection
How stress manifests physically in the body
Personal examples of stress patterns (shoulder tension, hip pain)
The importance of acknowledging rather than shaming physical stress responses
What Doesn't Work
Self-shaming and harsh self-talk
"Suck it up buttercup" mentality
Ignoring your body's signals
Personal Evolution in Self-Care
How body needs change over time
Transitioning from ice baths to heat therapy
Listening to your body's changing needs
Honoring hormonal changes with age
Key Takeaways:
Your body keeps score - Physical symptoms often reflect emotional and mental stress
Permission to prioritize - Self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary
Adaptation is normal - What worked before may not work now, and that's okay
Gentle approach - Choose loving, nurturing ways to care for your body
Individual needs - We're not one-size-fits-all; honor your unique body

Feeling a tug towards finding your purpose and learning to how prioritize yourself without the guilt? It’s probably time to deal with what’s actually holding you back so you can move forward with more joy and harmony in life. We invite you to schedule a complimentary call with Dani to explore if working together is the right fit for you.
Book Your FREE Discovery Call

Glad you’re here,
Dani

🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/
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18 min
July 05, 2025194. How to Stop Absorbing Other People's Emotions & Protect Your Own
Ever walk into a room and instantly feel the weight of someone else's sadness? Me too! Today I’m talking about practical steps to protect your energy and not pick up what others are putting down.
Key topics:
Galatians 6:2 - "Carry one another's burdens"
The difference between carrying WITH someone vs. carrying FOR someone
How to steward your sensitivity as a gift, not a burden
Practical Steps for Energy Protection:
Recognize - Notice when emotions aren't yours (taking your temperature before/after interactions)
Pray for them - Use your sensitivity to pray more specifically for others
Release it - Pray for protection and ask God to remove what isn't yours
Reset - Take action to recalibrate (walk, water, music, movement)
Action Steps:
Before your next difficult conversation, take note of how you're feeling
Practice the pray-release-reset method when you absorb others' energy
Identify relationships that consistently drain you and prepare accordingly
Set healthy boundaries around news and social media consumption

Also, feeling a tug towards finding your purpose? It’s probably time to deal with what’s actually holding you back so you can move forward with more joy and harmony in life. We invite you to schedule a complimentary call with Dani to explore if working together is the right fit for you.
Book Your FREE Discovery Call

Enjoy!
Dani
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18 min
June 30, 2025 193. The Spirituality of Imperfection: Embracing Your Flawed Humanity & Living By Grace. Guest: Jim Beebe
What if I told you that feeling incomplete, anxious, or sad isn't a sign you're broken—but a sign you're beautifully, perfectly human?
Today we're talking about embracing our triggers as teachers instead of enemies. Therapist Jim Beebe is with us and you're going to LOVE his Grace filled honest approach. Enjoy this conversation and our time with Jim.
So grateful you're here.
Much love,
Dani
Ready to dive deeper and find your purpose and with it more joy and peace? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help. Book Your FREE Discovery Call
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35 min
June 26, 2025 192. Mindset Shifts That Work- Transform Negative Self-Talk and Silence Your Inner Critic
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Hi!
Are you struggling with that negative voice in your head telling you you're not worthy? In this episode, I'm talking about some practical ways to help you with the negative self-talk that's holding you back. Learn why traditional affirmations often fail, how to identify the root of unworthiness beliefs, and practical steps to stop fighting yourself and start fighting for yourself. If you're dealing with self-doubt, imposter syndrome, or feeling unworthy of God's love and calling--this episode will help!
So glad you're here!
Dani
Ready to dive deeper into your healing journey? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help. Book Your FREE Discovery Call
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20 min
June 22, 2025191. What If Your Negative Thoughts Aren’t Your Fault? How to Finally Transform Your Thought Life
Hello you beautiful soul!
If you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts, stuck in loops of fear and self-doubt, or just plain exhausted, this episode is for YOU.
We're talking about God's incredible power to transform the wilderness places in our lives into streams of living water.
What You'll Discover:
✨ Why you're NOT broken if you struggle with negative thoughts
✨ How to begin the process of rewiring your brain from negative patterns to healthier thinking.
✨ The vision of boats on the lake - letting resentment and anger sail on by
✨ Why healing takes time and that's perfectly okay
✨ The difference between pouring out empty vs. giving from overflow
Key Scripture: Isaiah 35
"The desert and the parched land will be glad. The wilderness will rejoice and blossom... Water will gush forth in the wilderness and streams in the desert."
Real Talk:
You're not doing anything wrong if transformation feels slow
Your overactive imagination can be trained for good instead of fear
God wants to speak to ALL of us - you're not a unicorn!

Ready to Go Deeper? 🚀
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Join us for a FREE Workshop

Glad you’re here,
Dani

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24 min
June 18, 2025 190. Dr. Sandra Richter: Finding Purpose and God in Our Struggle and Brokenness
In this episode I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Sandra Richter, author of the Deborah Bible study to discuss finding God's grace in our broken stories and answering His call to reclaim kingdom territory.
She shares part of her story, and you guys, she’s one of us. She’s amazing and God is doing so much good work through her. I hope hearing her story and her heart and passion for her work inspires you on your journey. God’s NOT done with YOU!
About Dr. Sandra Richter:
“Dr. Sandra Richter is the Gundry Chair of Biblical Studies at Westmont College and a graduate of Harvard University, she’s dedicated her career to making Scripture accessible and relevant to contemporary audiences." And she has! :)
You can learn more about her here as well.
Today as we talk you can tell her approach combines brilliant theological insight with authentic vulnerability from her own journey of healing from childhood trauma. Her passion is making Scripture accessible while challenging believers to step into their kingdom purpose.
We’re talking about her bible study, “Deborah Bible Study Guide plus Streaming Video: Unlikely Heroes and the Book of Judges (Epic of Eden)”

Ready to Find Your Kingdom Purpose?

Are you struggling to reconcile your past with God's calling on your life? Do you feel God nudging you toward something but fear or shame’s holding you back? I'd love to help you uncover your kingdom purpose and find healing in your story.

Book a complimentary 30-minute discovery call at and let's talk about how coaching can help you say "Yes" to God's invitation and deeper healing in your life.

I’m so grateful you’re here and I hope this episode encourages and blesses you.
Much love,
Dani

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56 min
June 10, 2025 189: Finding Purpose in the Messy Struggles: Navigating Faith, Forgiveness & Surrender
Ready for clarity on your next steps in life and want to learn more about working with Dani and how she can help you get there? Schedule a complimentary call with her to explore your options.

Hi friend!
Today, I'm covering a few things… We're talking about one-day-at-a-time healing, why forgiveness isn't a "pray once and done" situation, and how to feel your feelings without letting resentment poison your soul.
Also, just a friendly reminder, God hasn't forgotten those dreams He planted in you long ago... I think sometimes we need that loving reminder. ;)
Take care of yourself this week - do something that makes you feel alive. You're worth it.
Life is such a journey! I hope this episode blesses you.

Interested in one of Dani's retreats? Email me at [email protected]
Glad you're here,
Dani

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23 min
June 10, 2025 188. Relapse doesn’t mean failure: When old habits return. How to rewrite your recovery story.
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Hi!
I’ve spoken with a few friends lately who have relapsed with their addiction struggles.
Relapsing can be so difficult and really pile on the shame.
I want you to know—you are not alone, and it’s going to be okay. Please reach out and find a support system to help you get back to your sobriety. You deserve the help you need!
If you’re struggling deeply with a destructive addiction, please reach out to a local recovery group near you. There are amazing resources for every type of addiction. Remember, you are not alone!
👉🏼💛 If you’re looking for more freedom and personal growth in your relationship with God, or if you want to find more peace with yourself, reach out for a discovery call. We can explore together if working together could help.
Love,
Dani
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21 min

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