A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret

By Dani Sumner | Christian Life Coach, Spiritual DirectorHealth & Fitness Mental Health Religion & Spirituality Christianity Education Self-Improvement

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A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret episodes

March 18, 2025 177. 👉🏻Unlocking Strength: Boost Your Resilience, Courage and Clarity
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When we're going through hard times, it's nearly impossible to see the forest through the trees sometimes.
We forget God's faithfulness to us in the past. And sometimes, we just need to anchor and remember how we've gotten through things before.
Today, I'm sharing a short story that I hope encourages you.
Verse:
Psalm 77:11 reminds us to "remember the deeds of the Lord; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago."
Song:
"Count Your Blessings"
No matter what you're facing, you're not alone. Your story isn't over. As long as you have breath, there's time for more healing.
Don't give up on yourself or the healing process.
Much love,
Dani
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Thank you for being here! I'm so grateful for you.
Keywords: Christian purpose finding, Faith during difficult seasons, Remembrance stones Christian meaning, Finding meaning in suffering Christian, God's faithfulness in hardship, Christian spiritual growth through trials, Biblical remembrance practices, High-achiever Christian struggles, Christian executive spiritual journey, Faith for professionals in crisis

22 min
March 14, 2025 176. Healthy Boundaries in Faith: Protecting Your Peace. Hebrews 12.
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In today's episode, I'm talking all about BOUNDARIES - something that can feel super uncomfortable for those of us who are helpers, servers, and especially for us Jesus-loving folks who think we need to sacrifice to the emotional/mental/physical death!
What You'll Learn:
- Why boundaries are actually HEALTHY and HOLY (not selfish!)
- How I'm implementing boundaries in my own life (especially with family)
- My hilarious new favorite quote: ""I'm not tall enough to ride on your emotional rollercoaster""
- Why guarding your time and emotional capacity is crucial for the people you're ACTUALLY called to steward
- How to stop feeling guilty when you set healthy boundaries
Scripture mentioned:
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us... so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."- Hebrews 12:1-3
We're not spiritual robots! God created us with limitations and limited capacity. The sooner we honor that, the sooner we can find more joy, peace, and purpose.
Boundaries aren't about keeping people out - they're about protecting you and the people you're called to steward. You can't give from an empty well, friends! ❤️
Much love,
Dani
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Keywords: Christian Boundaries, Holy Boundaries, Faith And Boundaries, Christian Wellness, Boundaries Without Guilt, Christian Self Care, Faith Journey, Biblical Self Care, Mind Body Spirit, Christian Women Podcast, Emotional Health, Spiritual Growth, Faith Over Fear, Intentional Living, Christian Mindfulness, Wellness Journey, Self Care For Christians, Christian Mental Health, Faith And Mental Health, Emotional Wellbeing, Christian Women, Faithful Boundaries, Holistic Faith, Run Your Race, Godly Self Care
23 min
March 11, 2025 175. Hot Tub Time: 🧖🏽‍♀️Permission Granted For Self Care & Soul Healing
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Welcome to this spontaneous episode, where I'm literally recording from my hot tub! I'm sharing all about my approach to 2025 and why I'm focusing on a more holistic, gentle approach to well-being this year.
Much love,
Dani
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Keywords: holistic wellness, Christian self-care, body mind spirit connection, soul care, gentle approach to health, permission to rest, integrated wellness, Christian wellness, faith-based self-care, nervous system regulation, burnout prevention, Christian women, intentional living, recovering perfectionist, mind body soul, spiritual practices
13 min
March 06, 2025 174. ⏰ Welcome to Lent: Grace & Tools for Surrender
Welcome to Lent!
I just wanted to share some quick tools and share how I'm approaching this Lenten season.
Sending you much love,
Dani
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15 min
February 24, 2025 173. Permission to Rest (Yes, Really!) - A Story About Burnout & Grace
What if rest didn't make you feel guilty or lazy? That's the question I've been wrestling with during this intense season of life. I'm discovering that those "time out" periods aren't just nice—they're necessary!
I've been walking through some really challenging times lately, but instead of just trying to power through, I'm learning how to not only survive but actually find little moments of joy along the way.
When we give ourselves permission to rest, something beautiful happens. That guilt we've attached to slowing down? It's not serving us. What if taking that break is exactly what your mind, body and spirit need to show up fully in all the other areas of your life?
Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is simply pause. I hope this encourages you wherever you are today!
Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.
Much love,
Dani
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26 min
February 18, 2025 172. Real Talk About Anger, It's Okay to Be Angry: 2 Practices To Help & Encourage You
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Hey friend,
Today, I'm talking about anger. I know anger can be an issue for a lot of us. And sometimes, in our culture, it's difficult to talk about.
Key Points:
- The two main sources of anger: injustice and grief
- How childhood conditioning shapes our relationship with emotions
- Understanding the connection between anger, fear, and control
- The importance of self-awareness in managing anger
- Practical breathing techniques for diffusing anger in the moment
- Why anger can be a valuable teacher in our lives
- Finding balance between spiritual practice and emotional healing
I hope this episode helps you.
Also, if you've been feeling the need for extra support and direction, AND you resonate with what I talk about on the Podcast--Book a FREE-(on me) discovery call for us to connect and see if working together one-on-one for a season could help you.
Go to www.danisumner.com/discoverycall, or here's the link to my calendar to sign up. I look forward to connecting!
So much love,
Dani
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20 min
February 14, 2025 171. Beyond the Mess: Discovering Your True Identity
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Hey!
I'm super excited to share this episode with you! After my birthday recently, my amazing family helped transform my office from a paper graveyard into this beautiful, tranquil space (if you're on YouTube, you can see the glow-up!). Huge shoutout to Chad Bohi for getting my audio and lighting locked in too!
I'm sharing a few thoughts that have inspired me lately, and I hope they inspire you, too.
The quote mentioned: "You will never outperform your own self-image."
Verse mentioned: Isaiah 43:19
The Song mentioned is Hard Fought Hallelujah by Brandon Lake.
I talk about how sometimes we have to fight for our peace.
Whether you're wrestling with your next steps in life, feeling stuck, or need someone to walk alongside you, I want you to know you're not alone.
God's making streams in the wasteland, right where you are!
I also mentioned that I'm opening up more time for one-on-one clients.
If you've been feeling the need for extra support and direction, AND you resonate with what I talk about on the Podcast--Book a FREE-(on me) discovery call for us to connect and see if working together one-on-one for a season could help you.
Go to www.danisumner.com/discoverycall, or here's the link to my calendar to sign up. I look forward to connecting!
So much love,
Dani
Your friend,
Dani
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24 min
December 25, 2024 170. Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas! I just wanted to send you all some Christmas love. I know this time of the year can be so difficult for some of us. If you find yourself wading through a rough Christmas, I'm sending you some extra love. And I hope this episode blesses you.
Wherever you find yourself this Christmas, the good news is God is NOT done 'birthing' good things in you or your life.
Merry Christmas,
Dani
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13 min
November 27, 2024 169. Christian Recovery: Finding God's Grace When Healing Feels Hard. With Therapist Jim Beebe
Hi friends,
Today we have Therapist Jim Beebe with us and we're talking about his perspective and what healing ACTUALLY looks like at times for most of us.
Not the Instagram highlight reel. Not the "I've got it all figured out now" testimonies.
The real, messy, one-day-at-a-time journey that most of us are living. I hope today blesses you so much!
HERE'S THE HOLY TRUTH BOMB:
You're not doing recovery wrong because you're still struggling. You're not doing Christianity wrong because anxiety still visits at 3am. You're not doing life wrong because you haven't "fixed" yourself yet.
IN THIS EPISODE WE'RE DIVING INTO:
- Why "solving yourself" isn't the goal (and was never meant to be)
- The beautiful paradox of being okay with not being okay
- What happens when we stop shaming ourselves for being human
- Why Paul admitted "I do that which I should not do" (spoiler: because he was human too)
- How to embrace your journey without expecting perfection
- What it means to love yourself back to life
TRUTH MOMENTS THAT MIGHT MAKE YOU CRY (IN A GOOD WAY):
- "If things outside of us could fix us – enough money, the right relationship, the perfect church – it would have happened by now"
- "Even if you never change, you're still insurmountably loved by God"
- "I'm not a puzzle to be solved, but an experience to be lived"
- "The journey itself is the destination"
FOR ANYONE WHO:
- Wakes up some days feeling like they're back at square one
- Measures themselves against the fruit of the Spirit and comes up feeling short
- Is tired of trying to fix themselves into worthiness
- Needs permission to be human while also being Christian
THIS IS YOUR INVITATION:
To step into a grace that's big enough for your humanity. To find community in the journey. To know that your struggles don't disqualify you from God's love – they qualify you for His grace.
Remember, even Paul had a thorn in his side. Even Jesus was a man of sorrows. Your humanity isn't a hindrance to your holiness – it's the very place where grace meets you.
Love you,
Dani
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34 min
November 22, 2024 168. Are You Too Hard on Yourself? The Truth About Shame vs Guilt for Christians
Hello you awesome humans!
We're diving deep into something not many are talking about: the real difference between shame and guilt.
You know that feeling when you mess up (like forgetting to mail thank you cards for four months... yes, I'm calling myself out) and suddenly you're spiraling into "I always do this" and "I'm not enough"?
That's not just guilt, friend.
That's shame talking.
And there's a bigggg difference.
In this episode, we're unpacking:
• Why feeling unworthy isn't because you're unworthy (it's because shame's got a grip on you)
• one holy truth about guilt vs shame
• What King David teaches us about shame. His bones were literally wasting away...
• How to show yourself some sacred compassion when shame tries to steal your peace
If you're exhausted from being your own harshest critic, this one's for you.
Let's break free from shame together, shall we?
Remember: You get to be human AND holy at the same time. And nothing - absolutely nothing - can separate you from God's love. Not even those unmailed thank you cards. 🤍
Grateful YOU'RE here!
Much love,
Dani
P.S. To look at your life, no one would ever guess at the regret and secret limiting beliefs inside. If this is you, email me at [email protected], and I will send you a link to an upcoming free workshop I'm hosting that you won't want to miss. Just email the "workshop link," and I will get you the Zoom link.
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Keywords for today:
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20 min

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