A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret

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A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret episodes

December 12, 2021 8. Holiday Blues. Feeling Sad Around The Holidays? Navigating Grief & The Triggers That Come With It.
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Hello my friend!
Christmas & the Holidays can intensify our struggles and trigger grief. Finding gratitude within the season for the little things that bring joy, peace and hope, even through our struggle is the Holy Grail for the season.
Adam Grant in his Ted Talk mentions and encourages us not to shoot for mile long gratitude list--because if we don't have a zillion things to be grateful for, it will feel like it's never enough! Cue the sound track from The Greatest Showman! "Never Enough"

But a more productive and soul-fulfilling way is to find 3 things are you actually genuinely grateful for, and press into those gifts with gratitude. It's never about more things to be grateful for, it's about the quality of things we are actually grateful for. :)

Here's a link to his talk:
Adam Grant Ted Talk

Also, holy moly Andrew Garfield and his beautiful quote on grief:
Andrew Garfield “Grief is all the unexpressed love.”

Here's a few thoughts to help us navigate the sadness that comes up this season:

-Expect it, and give space and room in your heart and mind to experience it. Sadness is not our enemy.

-Self Care, you have permission to take care of your heart and mind. Find things to nourish to your heart. And it will help you not be a grump to those around you. ;)

-Permission to enjoy what you do have. Jesus is with you, He adores you and He will get you through this.

Much love,
Dani
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25 min
December 01, 2021 7. Messy Middle. You have permission to be in process, enduring hard times & moments. Don‘t quit before the miracle happens. Ephesians 5
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Hello my friend! Today's short episode is about the "Messy Middle" we find ourselves in at times. We are all stuck in the middle of some season or circumstance and it can drive us crazy! At times the messy middle can be so frustrating! But there's hope! Remember the story is not over, you have permission to be in process and to keep going--don't quit before the miracle happens!
Ephesians 5:18b "Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit." TPT says "instead be filled continually with the Holy Spirit."
Much love,
Dani
All. The. Things.-->
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16 min
November 19, 2021 6. Finding Peace When Your World is Not Peaceful. When struggling w/ strong emotions or situations in life - depression, anxiety, regret, fear, etc.. Jim Beebe LMFT shares tools to help you thrive!
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Jim Beebe LMFT shares more insights about how to live in really uncomfortable situations and emotions you may be struggling with. No matter what you are walking through, there are tools and tactics to help you live well throughout that season.
Sometimes we are so reactive to a situation, it’s good to take a step back and recognize what is truly going on. Jim shares a tool called the “RAIN technique”that helps us get through these tough times and learn how to move forward in a healthy way.
Jim’s quotes from the show:
"That which we resist, persists."
"We are body, soul, spirit. They’re not three separate parts of us, they are all of us. We are all body, all soul and all spirit."
Link to Jim’s article
Link to The RAIN Technique
Books mentioned:
Change Your Brain, Change Your Life
Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN
Verses mentioned:
2 Corinthians 4:8-9 “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.”
Matthew 5:45 “He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”
Need a great Therapist or want to get in touch with Jim? Jim Beebe 818-747-1242
Much love,
Dani
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24 min
November 15, 2021 5. Accepting Life on Life‘s Terms. When life‘s not easy - whether it‘s our internal struggles or situations. How to find healing & peace through it all? Conversation w/ Therapist Jim Beebe LMFT
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Conversation w/ Therapist Jim Beebe LMFT. This is part 1 of a conversation with my therapist Jim Beebe who has been a Therapist and working with people for 38 years.
Jim is the real deal and has so much experience and awesome perspective!
My friend, this is one of those episodes you will want to listen to over and over again, and take notes! And maybe even talk it through with a friend!
Jim digs into some practical ways on how to live well when living in really difficult circumstances or when things about ourselves are driving us bonkers! If we are struggling with acceptance of our lives or any part of ourselves or circumstances we may be facing— we are typically caught in a painful cycle of effort, failure and shame. Judging ourselves and/or shaming ourself or others for the struggles will never bring the healing Jesus wants to bring us.
When we begin to accept our life and our stories, that is when God begins to transform our pain into purpose and not just suffering.
But acceptance can be a process. So let's be patient with ourselves through it all.
Link to Jim's Article
Verses mentioned:
2 Corinthians 12:8-9 “Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
Romans 2:4 “Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God's kindness is meant to lead you to repentance?”
James 1:2 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,”
My husband Gary says about Jim - “Jim has a masterful way of giving practical application not just theoretical philosophy.”
Jim’s quotes from the show:
We live in that silent wish, all the while living a duel citizenship between the world as I want it to be and the world that is.
We are all just trying to learn how to live in our life, well. And find love, joy and peace along the way.
We live this side of the veil, we are human… everybody can tell you that they have challenges in their life.
God game us feelings to teach us.
It’s good to be honest with yourself, about yourself.
Judging ourselves will get you to work hard, but it won’t lead you to healing.
Judging yourself for being yourself, will get you no where.
We all are victimized, we have to fight to not be the victim.
Expectations are premeditated resentments.
Books mentioned:
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
Man’s Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl
Get in touch with Jim Beebe 818-747-1242
Much love,
Dani
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34 min
November 08, 2021 4. Mind, Body & Spirit Beings. Finding Healing in our mind, body and spirits as Christians and learning to take care of our whole being.
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One of the most impactful books of my life! Bessel explains in detail how we hold trauma in our bodies as well. Bessel Van Der Kulk "The Body Keeps The Score"
Also, I once heard an impactful message by Dallas Willard talking about how just like the Trinity-- The Father, Son and Holy Spirit--We are triune beings as well. We are Body, Mind and Spirit. We are spiritual beings, we are mental beings and we have a physical body. But in the West we tend to separate them out. Sometimes we over emphasize one aspect one way or another. I share a story of a time when I had a crazy panic attack when a woman touched my neck in a kind gesture to pray over me, but because of unresolved trauma I went into straight panic attack. I didn't remember the trauma in my neck until that moment when she touched me. PTSD is very real and very difficult to walk through.
Verses mentioned:
"We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ."-2 Corinthians 10:5
"Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance?" - Romans 2:4
Quotes:
- Sometimes Jesus heals us in a moment, but sometimes Jesus uses a lot of little moments to heal us as well.
- If the Trinity confuses you, you are in good company! But the Trinity is absolutely real.
-Awareness helps us find healing.
-Empathy ushers in healing.
-What is repentance? It's just turning to Jesus.
-Is there something in your life that you need to bring a little more compassion to yourself for?
-You have permission to be complex, welcome to being human. And Jesus loves you because He created you that way.
Much love,
Dani
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24 min
November 04, 2021 03. Whac-A-Mole. How to Stop Sweating the Small Stuff. Find Freedom from Overthinking as a Christian! Psalm 32
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Things are always popping up in life, like playing the game of Whac-A-Mole. We seem to always have issues popping up out of nowhere at times. I share my thoughts about how to deal with things that tend to take up too much of my brain space. Sometimes our thoughts can hold us hostage, and it's really helpful to bring them to the 'light' and share them with someone. Processing out loud can be so helpful! The power of bringing things in to community and friendships can be so powerful.
Quotes:
-"our brains can be like a dark alley at night, don't go in there alone."
-"we don't have to carry this stuff alone and we are meant to do this life together in community."
Inspiring vere:
Psalm 32:3 "when I kept silent my bones wasted away, through my groaning all day long."

Much love,
Dani
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12 min
October 31, 2021 02. Bitter Creek. No Matter What You Are Walking Through, You Will Get Through It!
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Embracing the reality that difficult situations will not set us ablaze. Sometimes it takes some time and distance from certain situations we walk through to realize He was with us and providing for us through it all.
Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."
Jeremiah 31:3 "I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness."

Much love,
Dani
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22 min
October 31, 202101. The Priest. Life can be so difficult to manage at times, but you are not alone! From Addiction and Brokenness to Hope, Wholeness & Freedom
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Life can be so difficult to navigate at times! But sometimes the deepest hope is that we are not alone.
Welcome to A Holy Mess podcast episode 1. We want this to be a place for you to fully embrace your life, struggles and all. And find such deep hope in the process. After going through my own battles addiction and hitting rock bottom, by the Grace of God I was able to come through and find deep meaningful hope, joy and peace in my life. And I know it's out there for you too!
So feel free to join us on this wild ride as we jump into important topics. Today's episode is mostly an overview and a bit of my journey of what led me here. We have some awesome guests planned in future episodes to help you find hope and joy in your life, no matter what you are walking through in your life. You are NOT alone!
Episode Highlights
What this podcast is going to be all about
My story
When I experienced the presence of God
What I want my podcast to do for you
How my struggles affected me
My prayer for you
Check out the full list of Brennan Manning’s books here.

Special shoutout to my friend, Joe, who’s been so supportive of me starting up this podcast. Check out his podcast: Failure To Launch Podcast, with Joe Ramirez
Quotes:
Hope is learning to live within the struggle
The sooner we embrace who we are, the sooner we can begin to walk free again

Much love,
Dani
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28 min
October 18, 2021 Welcome To A HOLY MESS - Let‘s Keep It Real! [Trailer Episode]
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Welcome to A HOLY MESS, a safe place for everyday Christians, who knows there's more for them! If you have been feeling stuck, lost, exhausted, tired or just drowning in a life that seems unfulfilling, broken or like there’s something missing, THIS is the podcast for you. IN this show I am bringing you absolute raw, unfiltered and authentic truth.
Can't wait to journey with you!
Much love,
Dani
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7 min

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