Accidental Swingers

Accidental and unexpected. Myrina's relationship with a playmate heats up, especially as they spend more time getting to know each other between playdates. Their relationship transitions from playmates to lovers to boyfriend and girlfriend and Myrina and Tristan must face the first enormous obstacle in living and experiencing the swinger lifestyle on their terms. Tristan and Myrina meet a new lady-friend and sparks fly between her and Tristan. Their play escalates quickly and Tristan has his first solo playdate. However, a breakdown of understanding and communication causes big problems for Myrina. It forces Tristan and Myrina to take a long hard look at the issue and figure out what went wrong when everything should have been so right.

Deciding to push their boundaries a little further, Myrina and Tristan check another item off their "bucket" list with a visit to an adult bookstore and theater with another couple. But were they ready for all that this adventure had to offer? Myrina and Tristan also discuss Myrina's first real solo "date" with a single guy in the lifestyle. Tristan talks about how he felt, waiting at home, watching baseball while his wife went out to dinner and a playdate.

It was going to be awesome; until it wasn't. We've all done it. Built something up in our minds, just knowing how great the experience is going to be. The excitement. The buildup. The anticipation. And then, it falls apart. Myrina and Tristan share stories of dates that did not go as planned and learn a very valuable lesson in managing their own expectations for relationships they are building with other swinger couples.

"How do I get my partner into swinging?". This is the number one question we receive from listeners. We invited Dr. Justin Lehmiller, social psychologist and author of the book "Tell Me What You Want" to join us to talk about sexual fantasies, how to talk to your partner about your fantasies, how to listen (and react) when your partner tells you their fantasies, and how to move forward and act on some of your fantasies.

Our first four-way!!! Podcast, that is!

Meet Phoenix Phyre and Crimson Dragonfly - our playmates and quarantine couple - in our round table discussion about playdates, pressure and performance. Together, the four of us share stories and laughs as we discuss the different times we've all felt the pressure to perform for our play partners.

The guys talk about the common reasons they experience performance anxiety and what they do when they can't perform for their partners. The ladies talk about how they experience pressure and performance anxiety too and how they've handled these experiences in the past.

We take a deep dive into the head games and the stories we tell ourselves when things seem to not be going as planned. Then the four of us discuss ways that men and women in the lifestyle can let our play partners know that things aren't going well for us or that our time with that person is over - a tough conversation to have!

And be sure to stay tuned to the outtake at the very, very end ... it's a good one!

We spent 5 days at the "largest open-relationship lifestyle event" in the US in 2018; five days that changed our entire concept of what our life as swingers would look like. We met amazing people, ate fantastic food, had lots of sexy & hot play time, and learned even more about ourselves.

Listen in as we talk about what happened and began to discover what type of swingers we wanted to be and what being in a non-monogamous marriage was going to look like for us.

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Myrina spends the last night of Naughty in N'awlins creating some steamy, hot and sexy times with Tristan and two of their new friends. More importantly, Myrina and Tristan spend time together to decompress and talk about their adventures and the lessons they learned.

They begin to understand that swinging, for them, is going to open them up to even more experiences and that this journey has become more than about having sex with other people. Myrina and Tristan realize that they are, in fact, rediscovering and redefining themselves and their sexuality.

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The adventures continue when these two new swingers attend the "largest open-relationship lifestyle event" in the US. Each day held new surprises, new experiences, new screw-ups and new friends! We credit this experience as a defining moment in creating and shaping our entire lifestyle journey.

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The sparks fly when we meet the most amazing couple! Wonderful conversation and wonderful food lead to wonderful sex. But, in true Accidental Swinger style, we go with the flow but end up breaking some of our "rules".

Myrina has a life-changing experience, literally. She also describes in detail her night with a man who pushes all the right buttons. Tristan realizes how much he loves to watch Myrina and begins to understand much more about his compersive nature. This 2018 trip began to shape conversations and realizations about the things we wanted to experience our journey into the lifestyle.

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Two newbie swingers travel to "the largest open-relationship lifestyle" event in the US in New Orleans. We didn't know what to expect or what we were doing. The experience ended up changing our entire perspective of what our lifestyle journey would look like.

Join us as we share our hot and sexy stories about our trip to Naughty in N'awlins (NiN), the event that helped build the foundation of our transition into non-monogamy. (Click here more information on Naughty N'awlins and to make reservations for the next event.)

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Excited yet totally terrified, we were determined NOT to show up to Naughty without "knowing" couples in advance. Myrina devised a way to connect with people in Florida were going to NiN as well, and could be potential playmates for the future!

Day 1, we arrived bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and dove right in to bar takeovers and parties. Having been in the lifestyle for only about 4 months, we'd never been to a house party, a group party or done anything more than have a foursome with another couple. Yet here we were in NOLA with approximately 1,000 couples and a laundry list of things we wanted to try and experiences we wanted to have.

We talk about finally meeting, in person, some of the folks we'd connected with in the weeks leading up to the trip as well as one special connection we made with another couple. You'll hear about our tour of the amazing playrooms at the hotel and whether or not we decide to play their on our first night at NiN!

Even savvy Swingers can't always avoid drama. In situations when things may not be going exactly as planned, just realizing when to slow down, when to step back and knowing when to say "when" can help keep you from stepping on landmines and getting caught up in some drama.

But, we're the Accidental Swingers and, as usual, we learned these lessons the hard way.

We talk about three back to back dates with different couples; we learn the value of trusting your instincts and the importance of sticking to the plan. Unfortunately we didn't know any better and flubbed our way through some uncomfortable situations!

A vanilla date with a lifestyle couple turns into a playdate, that, honestly, should have stayed a vanilla date. We run into some drama with the wife of one of the couples that we play with. And, in a moment of weakness, Myrina ignores her inner voice and allows a meet and greet date to turn into a playdate. We definitely have some sexy fun but honestly, we should have stayed at the bar!

As always, we talk about what we could have done, we laugh at our mistakes and vow to do better next time!

Read our most recent blog post here: Naked Fun in the Florida Sun

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We also begin to understand and explore our desire to have a deeper, emotional connection with our swinging partners. We dubbed it Social Swinging vs. Sexual Swinging. Sexual swinging is more about the physical sex: you go to a club, find a couple, have sex and maybe you'll see each other again, maybe not. Social swinging, to us, is developing more of a relationship; going out together and doing more than just having sex. It's about building connections and creating friendships. In our journey, we quickly realized if we really connected with a couple, that we wanted to explore the possibility of more than just a sexual relationship with them but perhaps form a friendship as well.

Full of sexual energy and hormones, Myrina starts communicating with a single guy as they build up to their MFM playdate. We're the Accidental Swingers, so true to form, things don't quite go the way we planned!

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