Welcome, everyone, to a somewhat different episode of the ADHD reWired Podcast. If you’re new here, I'm your host, Eric Tivers, and today we're going to dive into a topic that's both personal and universal. And I’,m gonna get kinda vulnerable with you here. But before we get into that, I wanted to let you know, that our spring Coaching groups which start on thursday, is experiencing lower than typical enrollment this season, which is why with group starting this Thursday, April 11th, 2024, we’re giving you the the chance to join us for only $999. That’s 50% off my section, and $650 off Coach Brian and Coach Kristin’s section. Sign up by this Wednesay, by attending our last registration event wedneday at 12 pm pt / 3 eastern, or by going to coachingrewired.com and scheduling a 1:1 registration interview. Come join us for our lowest price since 2017, only 999. And with if you qualify for paypal credit, you can break it up over 6 months interest free. That’s only $166 a month. It’s the same great program, at a shockingly low price. Go to coachingrewired.com to get started with pre-registration. Add your name to the interest list. And we’ll be in touch. Our episode is titled "When What Was Working, Stops Working," and it's a reflection on the journey of ADHD reWired over the last decade, where we are now, and we’re going to end this short reflection with 10 tips that you can use when what was working, stops working. For those of you who have been with us from the beginning, you know that we've experienced an incredible journey together. We were the #1 ADHD podcast for 8 consecutive years, a title that we held with pride and gratitude. Our coaching groups grew consistently, and we were even featured as one of the innovative programs at the international conference on ADHD back in 2019 and we built a community that has been a source of support, inspiration, and transformation for so many. But as with all journeys, there have been twists and turns, unexpected challenges that have forced us to reevaluate and adapt. In the world of ADHD, this is a familiar theme. We find strategies that work for us, routines that bring stability and productivity, and then, for reasons often beyond our control, those strategies stop working. It can feel like hitting a wall, and it's a feeling that many of us in the ADHD community know all too well. In the past year, ADHD reWired has faced its own set of challenges. The landscape of ADHD support has changed dramatically, with a surge in new podcasts and coaching programs. When I started ADHD reWired in 2014, I beleive there were 7 or 8 other ADHD podcasts. I just counted on apple podcasts, 120 ADHD specefic podcasts! This influx, combined with the economic uncertainties that have affected so many, has made it more difficult for us to fill our coaching groups as we once did. And from talking to a number of other ADHD coaches out there, it looks like this is happening across the board. It's a situation that has prompted a lot of reflection and reevalution and has required me to make some really difficult decisions. For a decade, we've been on a trajectory of growth and success. We've built something truly special. During the peak of the pandemic we were doing 5 groups, and built a team to support this heightened demand. And over the last year or so, things have have changed. Over the last few seasons, due to decreased demand, we’ve went back to 3 groups, and even those have not been easy to completely fill. So we’ve lowered prices, which have helped, but I think between the economy and the current influx of other ADHD programs out there, what was working is no longer working. And, man, it’s hard when when what had been working for so many years, just stops working. But it's also an opportunity, a chance to revisit what we stand for and how we can continue to serve our community in meaningful ways. Our mission has always been to provide a space where individuals with ADHD can come together to learn, grow, and support each other. It's been about more than just strategies and tips; it's been about building a community that understands the complexities of ADHD and offers a sense of belonging. As we navigate this period of change, we're reminded of the importance of resilience and adaptability. We're exploring new ways to reach and connect with our audience, to provide value and support in a changing world. We're looking at how we can innovate both within our coaching groups, and in other ways to ensure that ww continue to meet the needs of our community. And most importantly, we're reaffirming our commitment to you, our listeners and community members. Your stories, your struggles, and your successes are what drive us to do what we do. We're here to navigate the ups and downs of ADHD together, to celebrate the wins and learn from the challenges. So, if you've been thinking about joining our coaching groups, or if you've been a part of our community in the past, know that we're here for you. We're evolving, we're adapting, and we're optimistic about the future. Is it uncomfortable? Sure is. But I still believe that we can do hard things. So "When What Was Working, Stops Working" is not just a reflection on our journey, and a check in about where we are at right now, it's a call to action for all of us to embrace change and continue to grow. And now, I'd like to share with you 10 strategies that can be helpful when what was working stops working: Pause and Reflect: Take a moment to assess what has changed and why the old strategies are no longer effective. Seek Feedback: Reach out to your community or a trusted advisor to get a fresh perspective on the situation. Embrace Flexibility: Be open to trying new approaches and adapting your strategies as needed. Break It Down: Simplify your goals into smaller, manageable tasks to regain a sense of control. Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure you're taking care of your physical and mental health to maintain resilience. Revisit Your Values: Align your actions with your core values to stay motivated and focused. Set Boundaries: Define clear limits to protect your time and energy as you navigate change. Practice Gratitude: Focus on what is working and express appreciation for the progress you've made. Stay Curious: Approach challenges with a mindset of curiosity and a willingness to learn. Celebrate Small Wins and practice gratidue: Acknowledge and celebrate each step forward, no matter how small. And here’s one more: And i’m serious about this one. Don’t struggle alone. Remember, change is an inevitable part of growth. When what was working stops working, it's an opportunity to explore new possibilities and deepen our understanding of ourselves and our journey with ADHD. Want to talk about this or any other ADHD related topics with me? Join us for Tusday’s live q & a. You can register at our newly designed website at www.adhdrewired.com

Mix together cello, ADHD, and an insatiable need for sushi, and you get Steven Sharp Nelson–one of the most watched musicians in the world!  A self-titled “dorky dad”, Steven attributes his hard-earned “unlikely” success story to his unending love for helping people feel the worth of their own soul through music.  Name a concert venue–he’s sold it out!  Name an iconic place in the world–he’s filmed a music video there with The Piano Guys!  His content is watched and streamed over 3 million times every day!  He’s performed and spoken to two million people around the world; as much as he loves all of this, his favorite thing in the world is one-on-one time with his wife and each of his four children who “tolerate” and sometimes even love his quirky creative persona!  He is passionate about music education and its critical role in our culture.  Learn More about Steven Sharp Nelson: Find him on ThePianoGuys.com Find Steven Sharp Nelson on Instagram @stevensharpnelson Find The Piano Guys on Instagram @thepianoguys In this episode, you’ll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: Steven’s fascination with music’s power and effect on the brain “Perpetual burnout can often be a result of unhealthy hyperfocus and overdriving your overdrive.” - Steven Sharp Nelson Burnout as an indicator of your strengths rather than your weaknesses Practicing the art of self-awareness and healthy hyperfocus vs. unhealthy hyperfocus “A perfect balance does not exist!” Self-suggestibility and attention abundance “Not being present is the easiest way to be depressed.” / “Face down, chin up!”  The parable of the spinning (too many) plates and chronic burnout  The space between the notes / The meaning of life is in between our expectations; the space between our expectations is where we find meaning Music, mutualism, edification, and the role of intention Toxic positivity vs. a genuine desire to appreciate and be grateful “You are like a cello” and navigating our unique gifts, variables, and expressions of ADHD When too many options become too much Cataloging what you’re working on and what you’re not working on The wax and wane of motivation / The muscles of discipline and consistency Book :: Atomic Habits by James Clear (link here)  Removing obstacles between us and the things we’re working towards Hyperfocus, pros and cons, expecting internal pushback, and creating a virtual cliffhanger for yourself  How do you interact with your hyperfocus?  Website :: Arthur Brooks https://arthurbrooks.com The toxic belief that everything in our lives should “always be on an incline” Arc jumping and how to go from mid-life crisis to mid-life crescendo  Are you bored or are you unfulfilled?  A practice of fulfillment scores and finding out where your next sense of fulfillment will be YouTube Video :: Me and My Cello - Happy Together (Turtles) Cello Cover - The Piano Guys The importance of becoming friends with your instrument A message to you, our wonderful listeners, from Steven  🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ TheADHDCreativesPodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 🌟 Find out what we’re talking about in our coaching groups by checking out our YouTube channel!  Just search for “ADHD reWired” when you go to YouTube!

On today’s episode, Clutterbug’s creator Cas Aarssen joins Eric on the podcast!  Cas’s Clutterbug is a home-organizing business which provides education, inspiration, and support to over half a million families worldwide through her YouTube channel, podcast, and various other social media platforms!  Cas is also the author of four best-selling books about organization (listed below)!  As a self-professed recovering “super-slob”, she discovered that through her own journey with clutter, that organization is not one-size-fits-all!  She’s identified four unique organizing styles and developed the Clutterbug method to help individuals discover their type and implement customized solutions that will finally get them organized long-term!   Learn More about Clutterbug: Check out the website at Clutterbug.com where you can take the free quiz to identify your organizing style! Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/clutterbug.me/ Instagram @clutterbug https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ YouTube Channel – search for Clutterbug Clutterbug’s Tough Love Find all of Cas’s books here https://clutterbug.me/books In this episode, you’ll hear tips, stories, and discussions about: What it was like being a hyperactive girl with ADHD From being 15 years old and homeless to becoming an adult and experiencing serious consequences   How Cas became interested in home organization and being an ADHD mom – “My house was a wreck!”  Big categories vs. small categories and having your house reflect the way YOU organize How an ADHD diagnosis helped change and shift a sense of self  “Maybe I’m doing all this cool stuff because I have ADHD!”  Having higher education does not necessarily mean you can’t be great or do great things, such as having a TV show or having 4 bestselling books  Cas’s four different types of organizing, how you store your things, and how you sort your things Just because you’re a visual person doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a “cluttery” person Turning subconscious tendencies into actionable and functional organization  Visual homes vs. piles and taking advantage of how you naturally sort things  How perfection can turn into procrastination and paralysis  Being detailed and detail-oriented vs. being a perfectionist Learned behaviors, environmental behaviors, and other things that make our organizing styles unique  Containers, bowls, boundaries, and self-awareness  “We are gathering more than our brains can manage.” / “Everything you own is something you have to remember…”  The actual differences between tidying, cleaning, decluttering, and organizing How to start decluttering, the anxiety around getting rid of things, and scarcity mindsets Having a tidy home that fits your organization style is a form of self-love and self-respect  Clutter-blindness / Safety, security, and mindset around money vs. accumulating things Selling on eBay or Facebook Marketplace isn’t always the answer Standing up to your clutter / You are not your stuff!  🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ TheADHDCreativesPodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 🌟 Find out what we’re talking about in our coaching groups by checking out our YouTube channel!  Just search for “ADHD reWired” when you go to YouTube!

This week, Dr. Nate Page joins Eric on the podcast! Nate has many titles, including Ph.D, licensed psychologist, certified group psychotherapist; but his education on burnout has come through his own painful journey with burnout.  He began presenting on burnout seven years ago after witnessing the devastating impacts of burnout and compassion fatigue on his own life, the lives of his colleagues, and the lives of his therapy clients.   He soon was specializing in individual and group therapy services for healthcare professionals who are caught in the depths of burnout.  Nate dedicates a significant portion of his career to providing education and training on these topics, which was how Eric was introduced to Dr. Nate Page - at the CHADD conference in 2023 when presenting on burnout!   Get in touch with Nate: Check out his website at GroupTherapyCentral.com In this episode, you’ll hear tips and/or discussions about: The stigma around burnout and reducing the stigma and shame Burnout: Not “if” but “when” The idea of burnout as an injury and re-scarring burnout wounds Compassion fatigue as bruises in the soul The good, the bad, and the ugly of stress  Paying attention to burnout cues Context-driven depression, workplace, and situational depression Boredom and stress Addressing “a” problem vs. identifying the right problem to create appropriate solutions “Am I on the path to burnout or am I already burnt out but am ignoring/avoiding the signs?” The importance of taking restorative breaks  Preventing the cycle of burnout / Healing and recovering from stress fractures Relationship dynamics, fairness, finding pebbles in the shoes, and potential extra stressors Maximizing the restorative nature of taking time off  Creating structure during a break and getting the “recharge” effect Can you really “speed up” recovery? Compassion during healing and recovering from burnout The importance of engaging with what makes you feel alive Resources & Honorable Mentions  Paper :: “Compassion Fatigue as Bruises in the Soul: A Qualitative Study on Nurses” DOI: 10.1177/09697330211003215  ADHD reWired episode :: 429 - Growth Cycles - with (ADHD reWired Coach!) Brian Entler ADHD reWired episode :: 452 - Overcoming Burnout - with David Greenwood ADHD reWired episode :: 507 - Neurodiverging, Masking, Burnout, and More - with Danielle Sullivan ADHD reWired episode :: 512 - Creativity for Healing - with Melissa Seldon ADHD reWired episode :: 514 - Introducing The ADHD Creatives Podcast - with (ADHD reWired Coach) Kristin Marts, LCSW Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at   🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 🌟 Find out what we’re talking about in our coaching groups by checking out our YouTube channel!  Just search for “ADHD reWired” when you go to YouTube!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You can also find bonus questions, get full answers from this recording, and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more!  Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon!   In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: Personal positive experiences, nuances, and psychology of body doubling  The positive effects of being connected vs. being alone to get things done Morning routines and strategies for an ADHD household to guide a child without a lot of struggle or frustration Morning routines, time management, getting out of the house and transitioning  Incorporating and utilizing different human senses to help with time-awareness and transitions The differences in ADHD presentation between kids and adults and addressing outdated views of what ADHD looks like and how it can present Reasons why it may be difficult for friends and loved ones to shift their perceptions when discussing an ADHD diagnosis Self-love and self-acceptance with ADHD How sleep, exercise, nutrition, and overall well-being can affect our executive functions Finite and practical examples to help with time-blindness / Discovering pain-points and what creates avoidance of transitions  Reframing what a break can be if you’re resistant to taking breaks  Task-batching / The effects of technology on transition time / Mindfulness with transitions “How can I get over the mindset that somehow I can’t actually have money without spending it?” Emotional responses vs. value-based responses  “Burnout is the body taking the rest it needs by force.” Planning and structuring for self-care / Meditation to re-regulate our nervous systems  “Self-care time is productive time!” ADHD and emotional dysregulation, trauma, and bouncing back faster from dysregulation “There’s nothing wrong with expressing your emotions.”  “What would you tell a best friend if…”  ...and so much more!  Resources & Honorable Mentions Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired’s Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 444: ADHD Tax Stories & Strategies with Rick Webster Podcast Episode :: ADHD reWired Episode 338: Money Management with Rick Webster from RenaFi Article :: Adlerian Theory https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/Alderian-Psychotherapy-Intro-Sample.pdf App :: Brili Routines - Apps for Families & Adults with ADHD https://brili.com Website :: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff https://self-compassion.org Website :: RenaFi with Rick Webster - for money management when you have ADHD https://www.renafi.com Book :: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff Book :: Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport   Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) Tool :: Time Timer 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews  🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧 📺 Check out ADHD reWired Coaches Eric, Kristin, and Brian on their latest livestream of ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table here → https://www.youtube.com/live/3Q3uxP552Gc?si=tICadz0oREb2_YJ5

In this episode, Kristin Koliha joins Eric on the podcast!  Kristin, who was diagnosed with ADHD later in life, is a clinical social worker with a background in working with those who also have an ADHD diagnosis.  She’s a mom of two kids who also have ADHD and is also a business owner!  Kristin works as a coach and educator for those with ADHD who struggle to manage their ADHD homes, working with them to create individualized strategies to help with home keeping.  She focuses on mindset shifts, ADHD diagnosis education in the context of home environment, and also focuses on support for those who want to take their homes from chaos to calm!  Find more from Kristin Koliha:  Website :: https://www.welcomehomeadhd.com (where you can also take a quiz to find out your organizational style!)  Instagram :: @welcomehomeADHD https://www.instagram.com/welcomehomeadhd/ In this episode, you’ll hear tips and/or discussions about: The reasons for Kristin’s interest in homekeeping for ADHD brains and struggles that a dependent encounters when beginning to “adult” Is Kristin an organized person? Discovering your “default” and how clutter can have a different effect on different people Decision making and decision fatigue How does Kristin help folks with the “decisions” of their stuff? Being intentional when bringing things in your new home and finding out where those things will live before you get them The frustration of organization and being experiential learners “Don’t go buy the thing to solve the problem; think about how you can solve it without buying the thing, and what else needs to happen?”  Scheduling regular maintenance sessions / How your environment can affect your mood Organized for display vs. organizing for function Defining and discussing the different strategies for the pile-r, the stuffer, and the magician The “touch it once” rule Perfection, energy management, expectations, all-or-nothing thinking, and “good enough” Flexibility with values and needs to help with mental health / Can you be “green” with ADHD?  Strategies for working through the I-Don’t-Wannas / Thinking about your future self  Finding your pain points in a home that have different levels of care in different areas of cleanliness  Honoring your tidying needs while honoring another person’s tidying needs  Being caring, kind, and alleviating shame / Why asking for what someone needs isn’t always helpful Resources & Honorable Mentions  Tidy-up tip from the editor:  Do you have extra dryer sheets?  Put a dryer sheet in your sink of hot water when soaking caked-on dishes to help loosen up the grime!   🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews  🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

In this episode, Eric is joined by Justine Clay!  Justine, who is a neurotypical mom of a neurodivergent kid, is also a speaker, writer, business coach, and ADHD coach, for creative entrepreneurs and freelancers.  Using her actionable-profitable-by-design framework, Justine helps established creative professionals and business-owners identify and articulate their unique value, position themselves to high-quality while paying clients, and build a fulfilling, efficient, and profitable creative business!   Find more from Justine! Website :: justineclay.com Instagram ::  @justine_clay LinkedIn :: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justineclay  In this episode, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: Helping people articulate what they want among a sea of ideas and different ways of co-collaborating Getting down to what someone needs vs. what they think they need & finding the fundamentals What do you do when you’re procrastinating? / Monetizing your zone of genius and accepting your gifts What is unique about the ADHD entrepreneur vs. a neurotypical entrepreneur?  Starting three things as a way to get unstuck and finding the “goldilocks” amount of pressure Creating structure with flexibility and options / “Don’t check your email first thing in the morning.”   The importance of understanding your own tendencies / the power of the pause  “So many ‘fires’ are just bright shiny objects that don’t actually need our attention right now.”   “If you don’t run your own attention, someone (or something) else will run it for you.”  Identifying an area of focus / Building on longer term goals and long-term coaching  Who am I, who am I for, and how do I serve them? /  “Be in community with other people who are doing what you’re doing.”  The benefits and immense value of having diversity of life, experience, and ideologies within a team Mindset hurdles that show up for ADHD entrepreneurs and addressing negative thoughts and noise in our brains “What are you actually afraid of? What’s the worst that could happen? What is within our power?”  Creating a, “You’re Awesome!” folder to mitigate negative messaging  Addressing the topic of money with compassion / “Numbers don’t define who you are as a human being.” “A moment spent worrying about money is a moment you’ve stolen from yourself where you could be working on your unique brilliance…” Finding a good financial advisor who will meet you where you’re at, who understands your needs, understands your ADHD, and understands your goals   The importance of taking away 3 actionable steps and a deliverable roadmap Systemizing to make things easier so we’re not constantly reinventing the wheel  Burnout and dealing with the stressors vs. processing physical stress Benefits of a morning journaling practice, using it as a brain dump, and addressing limiting beliefs How to start a morning journaling practice / Handwriting vs. typing  “The things that pay the most dividends can tend to have the hardest onramp.”  “Just try harder” doesn’t work / “Why might this help?”  Resources & Honorable Mentions  Article :: How to Find your Zone of Genius Article :: How to Get Into the Zone of Genius and Unlock Your Highest Potential (on Forbes)   Article: Gay Hendricks and Andy Wang on the Inspired Money Podcast Website :: Hendricks Institute @ hendricks.com   Website :: Ten Percent Happier @ www.tenpercent.com Podcast :: Ten Percent Happier @ www.tenpercent.com/podcast App :: Loom - for video recording and collaboration - at loom.com Book :: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - by Emily (PhD) and Amelia (DMA) Nagoski (at www.burnoutbook.net) Book :: The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity - Julia Cameron 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews  🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast!   In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with!  Find more from Dana: All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? In this episode, you’ll hear discussions and tips about: Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict  How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation?  Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of ‘problems’ Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we’re not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past “We don’t have to agree with a person’s perspective.” / It’s not WHAT we’re disagreeing about – it’s about HOW we’re disagreeing. The importance of acknowledging the other person’s feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person?  Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present  Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?)  Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn’t necessarily healthy The power of the pause, non-judgmental awareness, and recognizing one’s own tendencies and patterns of behaviors  Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating  Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions  Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one’s role in a conflict without blaming Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you’re telling yourself Identifying and tuning into emotions / “The story I’m telling myself is…” / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion Resources & Honorable Mentions  App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org   Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away at gottman.com  Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown Website :: The Center of Nonviolent Communication at Information :: Esther Perel: Understanding and Resolving Conflict How to Resolve Conflict (Esther Perel) Masterclass Information :: Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews  🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You can also find bonus questions & answers from past recordings and get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more!  Check it all out at adhdrewired.com/Patreon!   In this Q&A, you’ll hear tips and discussions about: ADHD and long COVID mimicking ADHD symptoms Being a business owner with ADHD and hiring / training processes  How involved one should be in helping a partner with their medication regimen  Codependency vs. interdependency Observing, support, relationships, and not falling into codependency roles Being an accountability partner for a significant other  Chronic pain and negative feedback cycles Negative feedback spirals vs. negative feedback loops Mindfulness in the body and mind and mindfulness-based stress reduction The importance of being transparent about chronic pain with loved ones  Feeling safe, expressing needs, and accommodations around chronic pain  Can ADHD exacerbate pain?  Pain as part of our sensory system, ADHD, and different thresholds Different types of paper planners and accounting for transition time  SHART: Sh*t Happens; Adjustment Recovery Time Point of performances  Placeholders and flexibility when planning Tips for task-switching instead of avoiding moving from one task to another Practicing taking breaks at least once an hour Sleep, exercise, general self-care, and task-shifting abilities  Identifying obstacles then creating and/or accommodating around those obstacles “What are you fearing if you stop now and [transition] to the next thing?” and pattern interruptions The importance of having a growth mindset and seeing setbacks as opportunities\ Resources & Honorable Mentions  Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW!  At theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎉 ADHD reWired Episode 516: ADHD reWired’s Coaches Round Table with Kristin Marts and Brian Entler Article: Potential New Treatment for “Brain Fog” in Long COVID Patients Article: Successful Treatment of Post-COVID-19 ADHD-like Syndrome: A Case Report (PMC) Webinar: The Science of Power and Hope from ADDitude Website: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com   App: Jon Kabat-Zinn Meditations at jkzmeditations.com/the-app/ TV Show:  Community Tool: Erasable Frixion Pens 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews  🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧

In this episode, Emerson Jordan-Wood joins Eric–in person at ADHD reWired HQ–on the podcast!  Emerson is a 27-year-old queer, non-binary, trans human. They are originally from Illinois, but have lived brief stints in Iowa, Texas, and most recently Minnesota! They studied civil engineering at The University of Iowa currently work in non-profit construction. Emerson was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and self-diagnosed with autism in 2022! They're also an active Alumni member of ADHD reWired’s coaching and accountability groups! In this episode, you’ll hear experiences, struggles, and discussions about: “Transitions are hard” and transitioning gender identities  The overlap of ADHD, different means of transitionings, and barriers to access Hoops, hurdles, and executive function nightmares Experiencing gender dysphoria and body disconnect Navigating the medical system and knowing your options “This feels like me.”  “Your transition is your transition and it doesn’t have to be based on anybody else’s.” Masking gender, masking as a neurotypical person, then unmaking gender identity Acceptance, freedom, and fully being your authentic self in the world  “I was doing what I thought I ‘should’ be doing.”  Different perceptions of gender, how people respond and interact with those perceptions, and fitting in Experiencing gender privilege and gender discrimination in the workplace Understanding pros, cons, patterns, and social cues between the gender roles  Being misgendered, coming to terms with your identity and doing the work towards acceptance Navigating and learning how to process irritability, anger, frustration, and general emotional dysregulation Struggling with task initiation, living in a constant state of flight, and not “panicking” through life From TikTok to the doctor  Feelings of being unprepared, social expectations, and navigating new environments Social cues, dynamics in conversations, and autism The helpfulness of labels and language to describe different struggles to take action and better communicate 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching?  Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews  🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧