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In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes neurodivergent coach Vida Carey, who specializes in sex and relationships. Together, they dive into conversations about sexuality, intimacy, and the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in these areas. Vida shares her experiences and provides insights on discussing sex openly, defining kink, exploring different relationship structures, and addressing sexual desires in a shameless and authentic manner. The episode emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding personal needs, and fostering intimacy while managing ADHD. Additionally, the podcast highlights resources and support available through ADHD reWired's coaching programs and virtual community. ** Learn more about ADHD reWired's Coaching and Accountability Groups ** Navigating ADHD and Intimacy: Conversations with Neurodivergent Coach Vida Carey In episode 539 of ADHD reWired, host Eric Tivers welcomes Vida Carey, a neurodivergent coach specializing in sex and relationships, who emphasizes comfort through humor and candid vulnerability. The discussion delves into the unique challenges of navigating sexual intimacy for those with ADHD, including overcoming societal norms, advocating for oneself, and understanding hyper- and hyposexuality. Vida shares her insights on redefining sex, utilizing intimacy menus, and having open conversations about one's desires. Additionally, the episode addresses the importance of developing healthy communication practices in relationships and offers a humorous yet candid look into making sex a more comfortable topic for neurodivergent individuals. The episode closes with reflections on how neurodivergent couples can better understand and support each other's needs. 00:00 Introduction to ADHD reWired 01:08 Meet Coach Vida Carey 02:36 Navigating Sex and Relationships 05:13 Understanding Kink and Communication 07:31 Advocating for Yourself in the Bedroom 10:16 Exploring Sexual Desires and Intimacy 18:33 Sex Rewards and Intimacy Menus 22:33 ADHD reWired Coaching Groups 28:38 Hyper and Hyposexuality in Neurodivergent Brains 30:44 The Reality of Life and Sex 31:48 Hypersexuality vs. Sexual Addiction 32:49 Exploring Relationship Structures 36:32 Navigating Intimacy and Communication 38:27 The Journey to Intimacy Coaching 41:41 Common Questions About Sex 47:51 The Importance of Communication in Sex 56:01 Final Thoughts and Resources

Episode 538 of the ADHD reWired podcast, hosted by Eric Tivers, addresses the complexities and intersections of neurodivergence (ADHD and autism) and LGBTQ identities. The episode features a panel discussion from a NeuroDivergent Pride event, co-hosted by Chris Wang from Shimmer. The panel includes Eric, Nate, and Vida, who share their personal journeys of coming out as queer and neurodivergent. They discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, masking, and the importance of supportive communities. The episode also emphasizes the impact of visibility and advocacy in both the ADHD and LGBTQ communities, encouraging listeners to join supportive spaces and take steps to be proud of their identities. 03:24 NeuroDivergent Pride Panel Introduction 09:14 Panelists Share Their Stories 22:34 Exploring Neurodivergent and Queer Identities 31:55 Impact of Heteronormative and Neurotypical Expectations 38:04 High-Level Masking and Personal Experiences 38:50 Coming Out and Family Reactions 40:40 Navigating Identity and Cultural Expectations 43:37 Unmasking and Embracing Neurodivergence 46:06 Challenges of Masking and Survival Strategies 53:30 The Continuous Process of Coming Out 01:04:12 Getting Involved in Neurodivergent and LGBTQ Communities 01:13:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

📣Registration is OPEN for our Summer Coaching and Accountability Groups - Learn more at www.coachingrewired.com 🏳️‍🌈Free Neurodivergent Pride Month Panel is this Thursday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET - Register at www.adhdrewired.com/pride2024 This week we focused on the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities, with what Eric likes to think of as "Big Heart Week." The coaches emphasized the need to direct energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment and shared their personal experiences with setting and achieving goals. The discussion also revolved around creating and reviewing bucket lists as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. Prioritizing Meaningful ActivitiesIn the latest episode of the Adhd Rewired podcast, Eric, Coach Kristen, and Coach Brian discussed the importance of planning for the future and prioritizing meaningful activities. The theme of the week was "Big Heart Week," focusing on issues that might be difficult to confront. Brian emphasized the significance of directing energy towards activities that provide a sense of purpose and emotional fulfillment rather than just productivity. Eric concurred, stressing the need to recognize the unpredictability of life and carve out time for activities that matter. The coaches shared their experiences of helping clients approach these topics and encouraged listeners to reflect on their own priorities. Discussing Personal Bucket Lists and Goals Eric encouraged members to plan for their long-term goals and dreams, and initiated a discussion about personal bucket lists. Coach shared that she has noticed a pattern among members where practical considerations, such as creating a will or planning for children, often come up when making bucket lists. This realization has led to more intentional goal-setting and planning. The group also recognized the value of sharing and knowing each other's dreams and aspirations. Shared Projects, Accomplishments, and Motivation An anecdote was shared about a person's enthusiasm and eagerness to move forward with a shared project. Eric then discussed the joy he found in seeing group members sharing their accomplished bucket list items, finding it both entertaining and inspiring. Brian, who participated in an annual bikeathon fundraiser for the Aids Life Cycle, shared his personal experience of setting a goal to participate in the event, initially hesitant due to self-doubt, but eventually realizing his capability to achieve it. His accomplishment provided him a sense of enrichment and motivation in all areas of his life. Creating and Celebrating Bucket-List Experiences Eric emphasized the importance of creating and reviewing a bucket list as a way to connect with one's inner desires and plan for meaningful experiences. He suggested that people should be intentional about their bucket lists, allowing themselves to enjoy the anticipation of upcoming experiences and celebrating achievements along the way. Coach Kristin added that unexpected experiences also qualify as bucket-list items and should be recognized and celebrated. The team also shared personal bucket-list items, including Eric's story of a delightful experience at a clothing-optional campsite.

Introduction to the Episode: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners back and introduces the current season (36) of the coaching groups. Main Topic: The discussion focuses on self-care and numbing behaviors. Eric emphasizes the importance of understanding the differences between intentional self-care and behaviors that serve as emotional numbing. The context is week 6 of the program where these topics are explored in detail. Intentional Self-Care vs. Numbing: The dialogue underscores the need for mindfulness in distinguishing between self-care activities that genuinely contribute to well-being and behaviors that might temporarily mask emotional distress. Impact of Self-Care: The conversation also touches on the positive impacts of being intentional about self-care practices, possibly suggesting strategies or insights into improving mental health and managing symptoms of ADHD through mindful self-care rather than numbing. These insights reflect an ongoing commitment to addressing complex emotional behaviors in the context of managing ADHD, with a focus on improving overall mental health and awareness. *This summary was generated using Ai

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Welcome back to another episode of ADHD reWired! This episode is part of a special series we're calling the Coaches Roundtable, where ADHD reWired Coaches Brian Entler and Kristin Marts join me to discuss what's happening in our coaching and accountability groups each week. This week we're diving into the content from the 4th week of our coaching and accountability groups. This week, we're discussing importance of building strong foundations around habits and routines as an essential precursor to more effective daily and weekly planning. Come join us for our Summer Coaching and Accountability Groups. Take advantage of Early Bird Pricing by registering before May 27th. Learn more at www.coachingrewired.com Key Topics Discussed: Introduction: Eric Tivers welcomes listeners and introduces the special series focusing on the content from the 4th week of the coaching and accountability groups. Foundational Strategies: Eric, Kristin, and Brian discuss the importance of establishing routines as a strong foundations for managing ADHD. They share personal experiences and professional insights on creating routines and habits that support productivity and well-being. Tracking Progress: The conversation shifts to the significance of tracking progress. Eric explains how tracking can provide valuable insights and help in adjusting strategies for better outcomes. Kristin and Brian share their favorite tools and techniques for effective tracking. Sleep Management: Brian discusses the critical role of sleep management and shares tips on establishing a nighttime routine. The importance of consistent sleep patterns and how they can impact ADHD symptoms is highlighted. Engaging in Routines: Kristin shares her group's experiences with engaging in morning routines and how small adjustments can lead to significant improvements in managing ADHD symptoms. Personal Stories: Eric, Kristin, and Brian share personal anecdotes about their own routines, sleep management, and tracking progress, providing relatable and practical advice for listeners. Closing Remarks: Eric wraps up the episode with key takeaways and encourages listeners to implement the discussed strategies in their daily lives.

Episode Overview: Welcome back to Week 3 of the ADHD reWired Coaches Round Table! This episode dives into the intricacies of to-do lists and how to adapt them for ADHD brains. Eric, Kristen, and Brian explore how traditional productivity tools often fall short for neurodiverse individuals and share strategies to make them more effective. We're kicking off early bird registraton this week for our summer coaching groups. Take Advantage of our Early Bird Special - Join for only $999. Offer ends May 27, 2024. Learn more at www.coachingrewired.com Key Topics Discussed: Emotional Connections to ADHD and Productivity: Recap of last week's discussion on writing letters to ADHD. Importance of addressing emotional issues to enhance planning and productivity. Reimagining To-Do Lists for ADHD: Brian explains the common struggle with to-do lists designed for neurotypical people and the need to tailor these tools for ADHD brains. Exploration of different approaches to using to-do lists effectively, including bringing real-life data into coaching sessions. Common Pitfalls and Solutions: Challenges with traditional to-do list items like vague entries (e.g., "doctor") and how they create confusion and resistance. Introduction of "vision verbs" to provide clear, actionable steps. Importance of specificity and context in to-do list items to reduce the mental energy required to activate tasks. Personal Experiences and Group Insights: Kristen shares her group's emotional and vulnerable discussions about old to-do list items and the associated shame. The benefits of having accountability teams and how they integrate with to-do lists. Scaffolding and the 'Why': Eric introduces the concept of including the "why" in to-do list items to connect emotional importance with tasks, boosting motivation and activation. Examples of how understanding the "why" can make it easier to tackle tasks, such as scheduling a vet appointment for a beloved pet. Practical Tips and Next Steps: Encouragement to experiment with new strategies and understand the trade-offs in time and executive function. Teaser for next week's topic on daily and weekly planning, routines, and managing transition times between tasks. Quotes: "Think about how long we sort of wrestle with things that are just sticking around on our to-do list, or even worse, start working on a task we've already done." - Eric Tivers "Tasks often create tasks. It's just called adulting." - Eric Tivers "You can spend time on the front end or the back end, but one of them makes you feel bad." - Kristin Marts Final Thoughts: The episode concludes with a reflection on the importance of re-engineering productivity tools to suit ADHD brains, addressing both the emotional and practical aspects of task management. Stay tuned for next week's discussion on establishing effective routines and planning strategies. Hosts: Eric Tivers Kristin Marts Brian E Join us next week as we delve into the foundations of daily and weekly planning to enhance productivity and reduce the stress of managing tasks. *This summary was generated using Ai.*

Description: In this episode of the Coaches Roundtable, hosted by Eric Tivers, the team gathers to reflect on the progress and insights from Week 2 of their coaching group, where we explore the relationship that we have with our ADHD. Listen in to the end to find out which coach says "F*uck You" to their ADHD and why. ADHD Letter Writing Exercise Discussion Eric initiated a discussion about the personal relationship with ADHD and the exercise of writing letters to ADHD. Kristin shared her experiences, emphasizing the therapeutic effects of externalizing her ADHD through writing, and how it helped her come to terms with her condition. Brian, on the other hand, initially found the exercise strange but later appreciated its value in processing and communicating with ADHD. Both Kristin and Brian agreed on the idea that this exercise has helped them build a deeper understanding and develop a more authentic relationship with their ADHD. Exercise for Enhancing Intimacy Awareness Brian shared his initial struggles with a particular exercise but emphasized its ultimate value in helping him become more aware of his vulnerabilities and issues with intimacy. Eric highlighted the power of the exercise in creating a sense of connection and normalizing experiences. A question arose about whether participants should be informed about the exercise's content in advance, with Kristin clarifying that such information could potentially alter the performance and resistance of participants. Personal Letter Sharing and Community Trust Eric and Kristin discussed the shift in approach towards sharing personal letters within their community. Eric expressed that he no longer insists on sharing, but encourages those who wish to do so, while Kristin emphasized the importance of respecting individual privacy and the value of vulnerability within their sharing process. They also noted that they revisit this exercise throughout the community's engagement, observing that participants continue to share and show trust in others' privacy. ADHD Experiences and Perceptions Discussion Kristin, Eric, and Brian discussed their experiences with ADHD and the impact it has on their lives. They talked about the tendency to view the current moment as a representation of the entire journey, and how this can lead to inaccurate perceptions. They emphasized the importance of acknowledging both the positive and negative aspects of their ADHD, and how this can help them stay motivated to use their tools and strategies. Eric shared his recent experience of writing a letter to his ADHD, expressing both gratitude and frustration towards it. The conversation also touched on some ongoing challenges in Eric's business. Eric Addresses Financial Struggles and Adhd Eric expressed his frustrations regarding the recent financial struggles of the business and the perceived lack of attention to financial health. He also acknowledged the emotional toll the challenges have taken and thanked the team for their support. Eric emphasized the importance of addressing the emotional issues related to having Adhd and how it impacts productivity and time management. Kristin and Brian appreciated Eric's candor and reflection. Eric ended the conversation by looking forward to the next roundtable discussion on planning and to-do lists. *This summary was generated by Zoom Ai.

The team discussed the success of the new coaching program, focusing on the importance of adjusting to the economy and offering affordable opportunities. They also emphasized the need for self-care and work-life balance, with personal anecdotes and reflections shared. Lastly, they reflected on their recent emotional challenge and the progress made in improving boundaries and overcoming workaholic tendencies. And Finally, Eric shared his ADHD moment of the week with group. If you're interested in joining us this summer, add your name to our interest list at www.coachingrewired.com

Welcome, everyone, to a somewhat different episode of the ADHD reWired Podcast. If you're new here, I'm your host, Eric Tivers, and today we're going to dive into a topic that's both personal and universal. And I',m gonna get kinda vulnerable with you here. But before we get into that, I wanted to let you know, that our spring Coaching groups which start on thursday, is experiencing lower than typical enrollment this season, which is why with group starting this Thursday, April 11th, 2024, we're giving you the the chance to join us for only $999. That's 50% off my section, and $650 off Coach Brian and Coach Kristin's section. Sign up by this Wednesay, by attending our last registration event wedneday at 12 pm pt / 3 eastern, or by going to coachingrewired.com and scheduling a 1:1 registration interview. Come join us for our lowest price since 2017, only 999. And with if you qualify for paypal credit, you can break it up over 6 months interest free. That's only $166 a month. It's the same great program, at a shockingly low price. Go to coachingrewired.com to get started with pre-registration. Add your name to the interest list. And we'll be in touch. Our episode is titled "When What Was Working, Stops Working," and it's a reflection on the journey of ADHD reWired over the last decade, where we are now, and we're going to end this short reflection with 10 tips that you can use when what was working, stops working. For those of you who have been with us from the beginning, you know that we've experienced an incredible journey together. We were the #1 ADHD podcast for 8 consecutive years, a title that we held with pride and gratitude. Our coaching groups grew consistently, and we were even featured as one of the innovative programs at the international conference on ADHD back in 2019 and we built a community that has been a source of support, inspiration, and transformation for so many. But as with all journeys, there have been twists and turns, unexpected challenges that have forced us to reevaluate and adapt. In the world of ADHD, this is a familiar theme. We find strategies that work for us, routines that bring stability and productivity, and then, for reasons often beyond our control, those strategies stop working. It can feel like hitting a wall, and it's a feeling that many of us in the ADHD community know all too well. In the past year, ADHD reWired has faced its own set of challenges. The landscape of ADHD support has changed dramatically, with a surge in new podcasts and coaching programs. When I started ADHD reWired in 2014, I beleive there were 7 or 8 other ADHD podcasts. I just counted on apple podcasts, 120 ADHD specefic podcasts! This influx, combined with the economic uncertainties that have affected so many, has made it more difficult for us to fill our coaching groups as we once did. And from talking to a number of other ADHD coaches out there, it looks like this is happening across the board. It's a situation that has prompted a lot of reflection and reevalution and has required me to make some really difficult decisions. For a decade, we've been on a trajectory of growth and success. We've built something truly special. During the peak of the pandemic we were doing 5 groups, and built a team to support this heightened demand. And over the last year or so, things have have changed. Over the last few seasons, due to decreased demand, we've went back to 3 groups, and even those have not been easy to completely fill. So we've lowered prices, which have helped, but I think between the economy and the current influx of other ADHD programs out there, what was working is no longer working. And, man, it's hard when when what had been working for so many years, just stops working. But it's also an opportunity, a chance to revisit what we stand for and how we can continue to serve our community in meaningful ways. Our mission has always been to provide a space where individuals with ADHD can come together to learn, grow, and support each other. It's been about more than just strategies and tips; it's been about building a community that understands the complexities of ADHD and offers a sense of belonging. As we navigate this period of change, we're reminded of the importance of resilience and adaptability. We're exploring new ways to reach and connect with our audience, to provide value and support in a changing world. We're looking at how we can innovate both within our coaching groups, and in other ways to ensure that ww continue to meet the needs of our community. And most importantly, we're reaffirming our commitment to you, our listeners and community members. Your stories, your struggles, and your successes are what drive us to do what we do. We're here to navigate the ups and downs of ADHD together, to celebrate the wins and learn from the challenges. So, if you've been thinking about joining our coaching groups, or if you've been a part of our community in the past, know that we're here for you. We're evolving, we're adapting, and we're optimistic about the future. Is it uncomfortable? Sure is. But I still believe that we can do hard things. So "When What Was Working, Stops Working" is not just a reflection on our journey, and a check in about where we are at right now, it's a call to action for all of us to embrace change and continue to grow. And now, I'd like to share with you 10 strategies that can be helpful when what was working stops working: Pause and Reflect: Take a moment to assess what has changed and why the old strategies are no longer effective. Seek Feedback: Reach out to your community or a trusted advisor to get a fresh perspective on the situation. Embrace Flexibility: Be open to trying new approaches and adapting your strategies as needed. Break It Down: Simplify your goals into smaller, manageable tasks to regain a sense of control. Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure you're taking care of your physical and mental health to maintain resilience. Revisit Your Values: Align your actions with your core values to stay motivated and focused. Set Boundaries: Define clear limits to protect your time and energy as you navigate change. Practice Gratitude: Focus on what is working and express appreciation for the progress you've made. Stay Curious: Approach challenges with a mindset of curiosity and a willingness to learn. Celebrate Small Wins and practice gratidue: Acknowledge and celebrate each step forward, no matter how small. And here's one more: And i'm serious about this one. Don't struggle alone. Remember, change is an inevitable part of growth. When what was working stops working, it's an opportunity to explore new possibilities and deepen our understanding of ourselves and our journey with ADHD. Want to talk about this or any other ADHD related topics with me? Join us for Tusday's live q & a. You can register at our newly designed website at www.adhdrewired.com