This week, Eric is joined by Emily Karp! Emily is a 33-year-old entrepreneur, asexuality activist, and fan-work creator!  She embraced her ADHD around age 30 and quit her tedious job to become self-employed as a funeral celebrant and memorial slideshow editor who crafts personalized funerals and celebration-of-life events for non-religious individuals.  Emily went through the ADHD reWired coaching program in spring of 2021 and became a peer mentor in 2022.   Emily is also one of the authors of the book Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing your Asexual or Aromantic Identity, and is a lead organizer of the Washington DC Metro Area Ace and Aro meetup group!  Learn more about Emily at griefpictured.com! Questions/Topics: [00:01:39] Introducing Emily [00:02:41] Diving into the start of Emily’s ADHD journey [00:03:37] The stakes of getting an ADHD diagnosis [00:04:47] Life as an administrative professional before treatments  [00:08:47] Burnout, becoming an entrepreneur, sleep struggles, and coaching  [00:10:30] The “why” behind becoming a non-religious Funeral Celebrant  [00:13:24] Helping others grieve and heal, family estrangements, memorial gatherings, and closure  [00:17:17] Grief to acceptance with ADHD  [00:24:07] The basics of asexuality and aromantics [00:26:04] Nuances of ace relationships, significant others, attraction, and more   [00:28:25] Physical desire, libido, and other statistics in the asexual community  [00:30:44] A discussion on dysfunction, orientation, sexual trauma, and gatekeeping  [00:33:20] ADHD and neurodivergence in the Ace community  [00:42:07] The positive impact of community and relationships  [00:45:01] Emily’s facilitated sessions in the ADHD reWired community spaces  [00:46:54] Sharing more wins  [00:48:43] Emily’s work, website, and closing thoughts Resources & Honorable Mentions: Podcast: Aceterpretations Website: TAAAP - The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project @ taaap.org Book: Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic Identity Want to go to CHADD this year?  Go to chadd.org to learn more! 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!   You’ll also find the bonus Q&As from this recording and can listen in ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon!   Questions/Topics:  [00:01:49] “For those who have done some individual coaching work on ADHD, how can groups offer to help with further progress if we’ve already learned some (ADHD management) strategies?”  [00:03.06] An ADHD moment: introducing the panelists + sharing group-coaching experiences  [00:08:21] Saying vs. Knowing  [00:09:22] A listener asks about creating processes: “How do you draw the line between a useful process, but when it’s so complex, it becomes dreadful, then ends up getting in the way?” [00:13.49] Dare to start small [00:14:55] Decluttering your processes  [00:18:22] “As parents with ADHD, what are the dos and don’ts with a potentially neurodiverse child in school?”  [00:20.39] A discussion on advocating for your child  [00:23:07] The importance of managing emotions while advocating  [00:30:21] “Because ADHD sometimes comes with emotional dysregulation, which sometimes happens to me at not-so-opportune times, do you have any tips or strategies for coaching oneself beforehand or ways to get oneself out of dysregulation when it’s happening?”  [00:30:55] DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), interrupting dysregulation in the body, and emotion in the body [00:32:38] The importance of knowing your tendencies  [00:33:54] A discussion and sharing experiences with EMDR  [00:35:21] The before, during, and after-care of emotions in certain situations; noticing physical responses [00:37:30] A listener asks about the Alumni Community versus Adult Study Hall and ADHD reWired’s free Facebook community [00:37:50] Kristin shares her experiences of the Alumni community after coaching [00:38:58] Laura talks about the relationships and connections made  [00:40:05] Brian’s successes utilizing accountability and cultivating continuing growth [00:44:35] Closing thoughts & announcements  Resources & Honorable Mentions Learn more about Wrightslaw What is EMDR? Join ADHD reWired’s online body-doubling community at AdultStudyHall.com! Interested in going to the CHADD conference? Check it out at CHADD.org/conference! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Edward Savio!  Edward is a dad, has ADHD, wrote a musical, and grew up in Connecticut; after Howard University, Edward moved to Los Angeles to pursue screenwriting, where he became a 10-year overnight success!  Savio’s first novel, Idiots in the Machine, was picked up by Sony Pictures from the academy award-winning producers of Forest Gump. After more deals with Sony, Disney, and others, Edward shifted his focus  writing novels so he could spend more time with his family.  He wrote his first three novels in the home overlooking San Francisco Bay, where Danielle Steel wrote her first two breakout novels.  He also once nearly drove Val Kilmer off a cliff!   Learn more about Edward at his website: EdwardSavio.com 🌟 Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show!  You’ll also catch the full content of today’s episode and Eric and Edward’s extended discussion when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more!  You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month!  Questions/Topics:  [00:01:32] Introducing Edward Mentioned here: Book - Idiots in the Machine   [00:02:50] How Edward became successful and a writer and managing ADHD  [00:04:45] Routine, resistance, novelty, and plateauing [00:06:03] How to revisit a project that’s been put away for a while  [00:09:10] Misunderstandings in writing and why inflection matters [00:10:50] Struggles with transitions  [00:14:09] Getting help and taking action  [00:15:04] Edward shares some of his writing process and mitigating distractions  [00:21:23] Systems, built-in overhead, and a question about calendars  [00:25:37] Planning for and putting fun stuff on your calendar, and guilt when not engaging with goal-directed behavior  [00:29:04] “Do you know how many people said they wished they worked more?” and a creative person’s struggle  [00:31:04] “I want to make sure [...] my writing does not overtake my ability to interact with people.” - Edward  [00:33:00] Goals, good ideas, and basketball in the office  [00:37:43] Tips for when your brain is faster than you can write and organizing thoughts  [00:41:51] When you don’t want to write, do this.  [00:42:52] What else has Edward been up to?  Mentioned here: Book - The Velvet Sledgehammer [00:47:11] Closing thoughts & where to find more from Edward  Resources & Honorable Mentions: ADHD reWired: Episode 497: Succeed in College with Hannah Choi Book: The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Danielle Sullivan joins the podcast! Danielle is the founder of Neurodiverging Coaching, which offers sliding scale neurodiversity-affirming coaching options for the community.  Danielle is also a certified Positive Psychology coach, a certified Parent Coach, and a certified trauma-informed specialist!  They had intended to remain in academia to work on gendered disability and religion, but then pivoted after she was diagnosed as autistic around age 30 after her eldest child was also diagnosed.  In looking for resources for herself, she found very little, and began producing the Neurodiverging Podcast to try and develop and offer resources for others like her. In this episode, you’ll hear about communication nuances and unpacking the challenges and adaptability for people with both ADHD and autism across different social contexts, managing the home, exploring home dynamics and practices for managing a neurodiverse household, and the importance of non-judgemental regulation. Then, you’ll hear discussions about advocacy, ableism, confronting ableism, burnout and understanding burnout with sensory overload, burnout strategies and prevention, and explorations with technology and ADHD.  Learn more about Danielle and find their podcast at Neurodiverging.com Questions/Topics:  [00:01:36] Episode Summary [00:03:21] Introducing Danielle [00:06:29] Sensory differences, being the “difficult child”, stereotypical presentations, and exploring autism as an adult [00:09:53] A discussion on politeness norms and how environment can affect presentation  [00:13:28] Coping with variables and novel situations  [00:15:08] Managing a neurodivergent household, sensory mismatches, overwhelm, and regulation strategies  [00:19:34] “What if I just do one more thing?”  [00:23:53] Raising awareness around autism in adults: What is Neurodiverging all about?  [00:27:53] Industries attempting to accommodate [00:29:13] A discussion on internalized ableism  [00:33:04] Overly formal speech, chronic ear infections, and asynchronous development  [00:37:37] A discussion on burnout: neurotypical vs. neurodivergent burnout  [00:41:33] Recognizing burnout, autistic behaviors, and the effects of a dysregulated nervous system [00:45:19] “If you can name it, you can tame it.”  [00:46:30] Danielle’s go-to strategies for managing burnout and burnout prevention  [00:47:03] Learning about your own sensory systems and triggers  [00:48:49] An ADHD moment…   [00:49:42] Addressing physical stress, emotions in the body, and closing the stress-cycle  [00:53:29] Words of wisdom and closing thoughts  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Burnout - The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA   🌟 Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month!  🌟 Looking for real-time accountability? Want weekly check-ins to keep your momentum going on your most dreaded tasks or projects? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Ali Arena!  Dr. Ali is passionate about social cognition, language processing, executive functioning, and creating meaningful friendships and relationships.  She is both a speech and language pathologist and a board-certified behavior analyst, has a doctorate degree in educational leadership, is becoming a licensed educational psychologist, and uses a neurodiversity- and trauma-informed lens when working with all clients.   Dr. Ali’s doctorate focus was unique, to say the least, as it addresses the dating intricacies of autistics, which led her to develop her private practice for anyone who wants help socially navigating in their workplace or relationships.  Lastly, Dr. Ali feels social support is a biological necessity and wants to help all neurodivergent individuals to reach wholistic communication.  Find out more and get connected with Dr. Ali at Connection-Squared.com Questions/Topics:  [00:01:36] Introducing Dr. Ali  [00:03:26] Eric asks Dr. Ali how she got into focusing on relationships and the dating intricacies of neurodivergent people  [00:05:04] Emptying the dishwasher and other themes in neurodivergent relationships [00:06:40] A discussion on parentification [00:07:53] Ways to bring up difficult conversations with a partner  [00:11:31] Cleaning up 99 percent, not assuming negative meanings, and shame responses [00:18:27] Listening, eye-contact, and different ways of processing while listening [00:22:35] “How do you cope with going out to eat in a noisy restaurant?” and other sensory challenges when communicating [00:24:41] Setting yourself up for talking with your partner  [00:26:02] Communicating via text [00:32:47] A discussion on neurodivergent relationships and sex  [00:36:57] Neurodiversity and the LGBTQ+ community  [00:39:00] Explaining neurodiversity as part of one’s identity in a relationship [00:42:54] The impact of being in a relationship with someone who understands your neurodiversity [00:45:31] Finding support for neurodivergent relationships and how to get in touch with Dr. Ali  [00:46:20] One more question for Dr. Ali & closing thoughts  🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month!  🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Brooke Schnittman joins Eric on the podcast!  Brooke is a professional coach who understands, first-hand, the challenges of living with ADHD.  As an adult with a late ADHD diagnosis, she knows what it feels like to feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and ashamed.  But, instead of giving up, Brooke decided to use her personal experiences to help others with ADHD.  She left a school system in 2018 to create a specially-tailored program for individuals for ADHD, called 3C Activation, which focuses on the importance of boundaries and small actions to activate potential and achieve continued success through maintaining momentum!  Listen to Brooke’s Podcast: SuccessFULL with ADHD Check out Brooke’s website and find her book: CoachingWithBrooke.com Find Brooke on Instagram: @coachingwithbrooke Questions/Topics:  [00:01:25] Introducing Brooke, a little ADHD tangent, and a relatable discussion about paperwork [00:04:12] What is 3C Activation?  [00:06:10] The importance of intentionality behind small changes and habits vs. making many changes all at the same time [00:08:09] 3 steps for tasks and setting up the readiness for behavioral change  [00:10:07] A moment of reading chicken scratch and controlling the chaos of your own ADHD brain  [00:17:07] Consistency, resiliency, self-compassion, and persistence  [00:19:41] The importance of sharing and acknowledging your wins   [00:21:40] Overcoming negativity bias  [00:22:26] A framework of boundaries, questions to check in with yourself, and saying “no”  [00:25:21] The nervous system and its effect on decision-making  [00:28:43] Discussing the resistance to delegation [00:32:43] “People actually want to help.”  [00:35:09] Delegating creative tasks  [00:36:46] ChatGPT, anyone?  [00:41:14] Brooke talks about her book  [00:45:01] Closing thoughts & announcements  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Website: Dan Sullivan 🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month!  🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  You’ll also find bonus Q&As and can listen to this episode ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon!   Questions/Topics: [00:02:39] A listener asks the panelists for advice on how to help others take steps to get an ADHD diagnosis [00:05:02] Discussing online assessments  [00:07:51] Red flags when seeking help for ADHD  [00:10:07] “How do you all overcome the difficulty of transitions? I know what needs to be done, but why does transitioning from one thing to another feel like such a chore?”  [00:12:17] Habit stacking and buffer space  [00:17:14] A listener chimes in with suggestions for overcoming the difficulty of transitions  [00:20:57] Resources, tips and tricks for a listener who was diagnosed with ADHD at 61 [00:24:52] A discussion about medication and side-effects [00:26:54] More resources and how coaching can help  [00:29:54] The multi-pronged approach to ADHD management  [00:35:53] “I am pretty burnt out at work, and I was given/voluntold to take 2 weeks of rest; I was wondering what can I do in these next two weeks to improve my burnout and ensure I continue to improve when I return so I don’t get burnt out again?”  [00:38:14] A helpful resource on burnout and processes of introspection  [00:44:51] Discussing health definitions and healthcare  [00:47:24] Tips and strategies to engage with self-care and being “ready” for self-care [00:49:58] “ADHD is a performance disorder.  We know what to do - that’s not the issue.  The issue is doing it.”  [00:52:03] Self-awareness, dealing with compounded shame, and trauma [00:57:45] “Do you have any suggestions on how to communicate with someone who doesn’t understand that the reason why I do something that doesn’t make sense to them, and defending my stance, how can I still show accountability and not be so defensive?   [01:00:43] Closing thoughts & announcements  Resources & Honorable Mentions ADHD reWired episode 342: Transitions and Balancing Work & Relationships with Adison Smith Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear Book: Still Distracted After All These Years by Kathleen G. Nadeau  Book: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov Website: The Gottman Institute at gottman.com The 6 Ways of Closing the Stress Cycle Loop (from Burnout by Emily & Amelia Nagoski): Physical Activity, Creativity, Laughing. Crying, Physical Affection, and Deep Breathing  “Burnout is… the nervous system and body taking the rest it needs by force.” - Brian Entler  “ADHD reWired Coaching is about iteration, reflection, feedback, and keep doing that over and over again.” - Eric Tivers “An ADHD diagnosis doesn’t change the past, but it does change our understanding of the past.”  “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” - Brene Brown 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Shell Mendelson joins Eric on the podcast!  Since January 2021, Shell’s Your Next Career Move MasterclassSM  has empowered ADHD adults to create confident career options and was trained by Richard Bolles, the author of “What Color is Your Parachute?”   With a Masters in Career Counseling, Shell offers more than 35 years of client experience while bringing her counseling, coaching, teaching, training, and nurturing gifts to help others clarify and focus on a well-defined direction and abundant livelihood.  Following her own diagnosis of ADHD later in life, Shell profoundly understands how ADHD can impact one’s work and to reliably choose the best career direction: one that takes our “interest-based ADHD brain wiring” into consideration. Get in touch and find out more about Shell’s Next Career Move MasterclassSM on her website at CareerCoachingWithShell.com Questions/Topics:  [00:01:23] Introducing Shell [00:02:35] Training with Richard Bolles and how it changed Shell’s life  [00:07:13] What are some examples of some of the questions Shell might ask when someone is trying to figure out a career direction?  [00:09:32] Looking beyond money and Safekeeping Self  [00:10:32] Addressing potential deficits in self-awareness and answering self-assessment questions   [00:25:44] So what is the “best” career for someone with ADHD?  [00:26:55] If you were to ask 100 people if they knew exactly what they wanted to do for work, what is the percentage of people who could actually answer this question?   [00:30:11] The role of stepping-stone jobs and the difference between someone who doesn’t know what they want and someone who does know what they want  [00:31:44] Addressing the person who holds a marketable skill set in a lucrative profession but hates the work [00:32:19] Stories that Shell hears from people who reach out to her  [00:34:40] Looking at other career options: “How do we figure this stuff out?”  [00:36:36] Once you discover your “what,” the “how” appears, and a discussion next steps and different types of research  [00:47:40] What is Shell’s 8-Week Masterclass and who is her class for?  [00:52:21] How to get in touch with Shell, closing thoughts, and words of wisdom  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: What Color is Your Parachute by Richard Bolles 🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month!  🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In today’s show, Eric is joined by Jessica Ovadia! Jessica, who has a Bachelor of Science in communication from New York University and a Master of Public Health from Emory University, is a healthcare communicator and a problem solver with a decade of experience helping clients articulate their message through engaged interactions, artful language choice, and thoughtful strategy. Her love of healthcare and deep passion for effective clear communication naturally led to the foundation of her consulting firm - Jessica Ovadia: Healthcare Messaging! Having grown up with parents as physicians and being a parent herself, you’ll hear about Jessica’s struggles with the growing demands of life.  Then, you’ll also hear about simplifying complexities, motivation and burnout, creating your own structure, and overcoming tendencies to overcomplicate the way we communicate.  Finally, you’ll hear discussions on the importance of clarifications and knowing the audience, self-esteem when owning your own business, what communicating the ADHD experience can look like, and more!  Learn more about Jessica at her website jessicaovadia.com! Questions/Topics:  [00:01:25] Introducing Jessica [00:03:03] Jessica talks about ADHD and how becoming a parent brought her challenges to the surface [00:04:46] Getting reacquainted with ADHD and unlearning developed patterns  [00:06:01] Eric asks Jessica about being a business owner with ADHD and what led her to her passion of clear communication around healthcare  [00:09:49] A discussion on motivation and burnout  [00:14:08] Managing scheduling, structure, and accountability when being your own boss  [00:23:23] When it comes to communication, how do we recognize when we’re overcomplicating things, then how do we simplify what and how we’re communicating?  [00:28:19] Read-receipts and challenges around writing and responding  [00:29:26] What to think about when you have a message and keeping it simple [00:31:53] What can we do to make sure we are coming across clearly and are being understood?  [00:34:15] “I would have written less if I had more time.”  [00:35:00] Eric asks Jessica for a helpful reframe or a framework to think about effectively communicating different parts of  ADHD in shorter-form content. [00:41:24] What has Jessica learned about her own brain through having her own business?  [00:44:38] How can we communicate and get better public understanding and messaging about what ADHD really is? What would that messaging campaign look like?  [00:47:31] A discussion & sharing thoughts about ADHD as a superpower  [00:51:05] Closing thoughts  🌟 Want to hear the bonus question and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more!  🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this episode, Eric is celebrating ADHD reWired's 500-episode milestone. Joining him are members of ADHD reWired's Coaching & Accountability Group Alumni Community, where they will be sharing their Dear ADHD Letters. A huge thanks to the members who shared their letters and their stories. Whether you're new to the show or you've been listening since episode 1, thank you for being here for 500 episodes. We hope you'll keep joining us for the next 500 episodes to come. Special thanks to all of our coaching group members, Alumni members, coaches, volunteers, Patrons, Facebook community members, listeners of the show old and new, the ADHD reWired team, all the wonderful guests that have been on the show, and everyone everywhere around and in between. Thank you so much for your support. We wouldn't be here without you. We CAN do hard things, and you are not alone. ❤️ 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get on our Fall interest list or to stay up to date on the most recent upcoming season if you're listening to this in the future!