Those of us who have a tendency to be people-pleasers usually want the best for other people. However, the other, more well-known part of being a people-pleaser is the need for everyone to like us, which often leads to anxiety, worry, and ultimately self-compromise. When we can give up people-pleasing, we can start thinking about the pleasure of speaking our minds, the pleasure of achieving our goals, and the pleasure of taking control of our own lives by letting go of the pain involved in trying to control other people.