Sex For Couples with Heather Shannon

This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, we explore how aligning with your authentic feminine energy can transform not only your confidence but your sex life. With the help of Inna Segal, an intuitive energy healer and award-winning author of The Secret Language Of Your Body, we break down how polarity builds sexual attraction, why balance within is magnetic, and how shifting your energy can reignite that spark in your relationship.

Check out the video version of this episode at https://youtu.be/V98D5jC5_Yo

Find out more about intimacy coaching with Heather and her team at https://HeatherShannon.co

Learn more about Inna Segal's books and programs at: https://www.innasegal.com/

Chapters

0:00 - About the episode

1:37 - Inna Segal (guest)

9:21 - The importance of feminine energy

14:51 - The importance of sexuality related to age

20:36 - How to have a good sex life with your partner

24:44 - Color as a way to explore your feminine energy

32:16 - Teaching the feminine love

40:16 - Reconnecting with feminine energy after a breakup or divorce

51:21 - Ways to embrace the feminine

59: 18 - Healing with Inna's heart-based card deck

Keywords

creativity, self-discovery, societal expectations, personal growth, emotional expression, sex therapist, energy healer, intuitive healing, best selling author, award winning author, color therapy

Certified Sex Therapist answers questions about strap-ons for double penetration, managing mismatched sex drives, psychological erection issues, and the importance of emotional intimacy in relationships.

Heather provides insights and advice on how to navigate these personal challenges, emphasizing communication and mindfulness as key tools for improving sexual health and relationship satisfaction.

00:00 Listener Q&A Introduction

00:27 Exploring Double Penetration with Strap-Ons

05:07 Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives

12:36 Understanding Psychological Erection Issues

19:50 Reclaiming Sexual Desire in Long-Term Relationships

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Stop feeling like roommates and start feeling like lovers again! Figure out how you fell into this rut and how to change up your patterns.

This solo episode gets into the themes of social dynamics, charisma, and embracing healthy obstacles as a good thing for sexual attraction.

Host and Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon discusses the importance of healthy boundaries, having your own thing going on and putting your best foot forward no matter how long you've been togehter.

She also explores the allure of open relationships, emphasizing the excitement that comes from seeing a partner embrace their sexuality and the dynamics of attraction involved.

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Watch the video version on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Bp9YZ4e6et4

Chapters

00:00 From Roommates to Lovers: Understanding the Shift

02:30 Creating Attraction: The Equation of Desire

10:05 Seeing Each Other as Sexual Beings

17:10 Solutions to Rekindle Passion

24:25 Creating Polarity and Space in Relationships

Takeaways

• Being social and charismatic can enhance personal interactions.
• Compliments can boost confidence and encourage social engagement.
• Flirting can be a playful exploration of attraction.
• Open relationships can provide new perspectives on partnership.
• Seeing a partner's sexuality can be a turn-on for some.
• The idea of attraction from others can enhance relationship dynamics.
• Embracing one's own sexuality is important for personal growth.
• Social interactions can lead to deeper connections.
• Understanding the nuances of attraction is key in relationships.
• Exploring boundaries in relationships can lead to fulfillment.

Keywords

social dynamics, charisma, open relationships, sexuality, flirting, compliments, partner attraction

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EPISODE SUMMARY

In this conversation, Shannon Curtis shares her profound journey of healing from sexual trauma, emphasizing the importance of reclaiming personal power, understanding shame, and fostering intimacy. She discusses her experiences with trauma, the role of forgiveness, and the significance of body awareness in healing. Shannon also highlights the need for curiosity in recognizing signs of trauma and the importance of connecting with nature. Through her work, she aims to empower others to find their authentic selves and heal from their past experiences.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Healing Sexual Trauma

02:00 Shannon's Personal Journey with Trauma

05:58 Understanding Shame and Its Impact

10:08 The Role of Forgiveness in Healing

12:16 Teaching the Next Generation

16:26 The Importance of Body Awareness

19:40 Healing Through Connection with Nature

22:32 The Power of Intuition in Healing

25:33 Finding Your Path to Healing

29:26 The Journey of Self-Discovery

33:41 Reclaiming Power in Relationships

38:22 Recognizing Signs of Trauma

42:58 The Importance of Curiosity in Healing

47:28 How to Work with Shannon Curtis

KEYWORDS

sexual trauma, healing, intimacy, forgiveness, body awareness, empowerment, personal growth, trauma signs, self-discovery, coaching

In this conversation, Heather Shannon discusses the themes of loss, heartbreak, and the resilience of the human spirit. Drawing from her personal experiences, she emphasizes the importance of finding inner security and embracing vulnerability in relationships. Heather shares insights on how to navigate grief, the significance of community, and the necessity of self-reflection in fostering intimacy and connection with others.

Takeaways

We are wired to find balance and resilience.

It's crucial to change the narrative we tell ourselves about loss.

Life is short; we should seize opportunities for love and connection.

Heartbreak is inevitable, but we can choose how to respond.

All relationships eventually end, but that shouldn't deter us from starting them.

Embracing vulnerability is essential for deeper connections.

Grief can slow us down and remind us of what matters.

Building inner security helps us to love more openly.

Understanding our parts can aid in healing from loss.

Community support is vital during times of grief.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Loss and Heartbreak

05:16 Finding Inner Security and Resilience

10:33 Embracing Vulnerability in Relationships

15:32 Understanding and Healing Through Grief

Keywords

loss, heartbreak, resilience, vulnerability, relationships, grief, inner security, personal growth, intimacy, healing

Go deep on how to be a great lover! It's not the surface level stuff that we often get hung up on that makes someone "good at sex."

Learn about the importance of presence and attunement for higher quality sex and better connection.

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Keywords: Better sex, sex therapy, sex coach, better intimacy, attunement, listening, paying attention

Join me and amazing guest Emily Nagoski as we discuss the complexities of maintaining intimacy in long-term relationships. Emily uses the metaphor of a garden to illustrate how sexuality requires ongoing care and attention. We cover the importance of communication, overcoming shame, and understanding the impact of upbringing on sexual expression. Emily emphasizes the need for playfulness and adaptability in sexual relationships, as well as the significance of scheduling intimacy to prioritize connection. And you'll especially love emily's floorplan concept for accessing lust when it feels far away.

Grab Emily's Books Below:

Come As You Are

Come As You Are Workbook

Come Together

Burnout

Keywords - long-term relationships, sexuality, communication, shame, gender roles, emotional health, intimacy, pleasure, responsive desire, sexual connection

Join us at The Desire Revival to get past low or mismatched libidos keeping your sex life stuck. Register here: https://TheDesireRevival.com

In this episode, I introduce the Target Zone Framework, a tool designed to help people evaluate their relationships based on two key dimensions: spark energy and home energy.

I define both dimensions with an emphasis on the idea that home energy is foundational for emotional safety and intimacy.

We'll talk about how to assess current relationships, the significance of communication and emotional intelligence, and the need for novelty and playfulness to maintain attraction.

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In this episode, join Heather and guest Sexologist, Amy Rowan, to explore Amy and her husband's exciting evolution from a mostly vanilla sex life to having "hard points" in the basement dungeon for rope suspension.

Learn how trust, vulnerability and emotional intimacy led to sex life 2.0 for Amy and her hubby despite cancer and 3 kids and how you can create this dynamic yourself.

Is it time to explore kink and BDSM in your own relationship? Tune in and find out!

Keywords

kink, intimacy, relationships, sex therapy, vulnerability, trust, communication, pleasure, sexologist, suburban intimacy

In this episode, Heather discusses the concept of mental foreplay, emphasizing non-touch ways to get in the mood for sex.

Chapters

00:00 Exploring Mental Foreplay

09:40 The Power of Laughter and Fun

13:41 Physical Activity and Its Impact

16:46 Grooming and Style for Confidence

18:29 The Allure of Availability and Independence

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Keywords

mental foreplay, emotional intimacy, sexual attraction, relationship dynamics, self-perception, physical activity, novelty, grooming, emotional closeness, relationship advice