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We all know about Fake Doms, people on dating apps who co-opt the language of BDSM to push a misogynistic agenda, but what about when the messaging of manipulation is more subtle, and even uses sex positive language to confuse subs? Enter: Fake Dom 2.0. In this episode, Lina shares signs you may be dealing with a Fake Dom 2.0, vetting questions to try to weed them out, and solace for those who have been victimized by these creeps.

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Why are subs and kinky people so prone to tripping out on what the future could be? Well, as the saying goes, subs plan and Doms laugh at our anticipatory anxiety. Lina also discusses how marriage and society are a weird mindf*%k combo to navigate (and not always in the nice way), and how we all need more space to increase our capacity for change and ability to accept more things into our orifices.

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Dogs and cats, living together, mass hysteria! When can a sub be a Dom? A caller wants to know when their Dommy tendencies qualify them to start switchin', and how their neurodivergent brain can deal with the ambiguity. Answer? BDSM loves getting all up in your cracks to make you stretch all the parts of yourself. Just don't forget the lube. The lube is you loving yourself.

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In this preview of Deep Dive, Lina chats with Casey Tanner, @queersextherapy, about their new book Feel It All. Topics covered include defining secure sexuality and the origins of insecure sexuality (aka why are we so messed up about sex?!). In the full Deep Dive, available to paid members, hear them discuss how to support queer people in straight passing relationships, whether sexual preferences or attraction can be problematic, how to negotiate accommodation for neurodivergent and disabled people, and other ways of being sexual secure, filthy (if that's what you want!), and thoughtful freaks.

"Well, hi!" Cat

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What happens when you're criss crossing all your red string a la Charlie Day while researching D/s to broaden the scope of your dynamic, but your Dom just won't click the links you send? Lina talks the three-legged race of a longterm relationship, how the patriarchy doesn't support men in self improvement, and what to do when you suspect you're a koi fish in a goldfish bowl.

Get in on the new Ask A Sub Office Hours offering!

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This month for pride, join your very own fave bisexual goblin for a wide ranging AMA! That's right, I answered your q's in real time just like the old days.

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This week, a married couple struggles with the ways D/s sometimes outwardly looks like the oppressive gender roles they were raised with, and have been fighting their whole relationship.

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Lina gives some tender yet protective advice to a 20-year-old sub looking to start their kink journey.

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R.O. Kwon stopped by the pod this week to talk about her new book Exhibit, a tale about kink, queerness, and what happens when people pursue that which they truly desire.

Catch R.O.'s Thirst Inventory here.

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Our Deep Dive guest this month is many things — a kink/rope organizer, an amazing friend, a top-tier emoji-reactor, and a Ask A Sub discord moderator that has been with us since the beginning of the server. Dollie and Lina talk community building and maintenance, and how they curate the best (dare we say??) kink space on the internet.

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CREDITS

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Music by Dan Molad