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On this month's Deep Dive interview, Brat Whisperer Lola Jean joins me to talk all about how to find your inner brat and, more importantly, negotiate the conditions that will allow (controlled, joyful) chaos to reign. You are a cute puzzle!

Going patreon at $11/month to get the full hour-long interview here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/brat-motivations-79112905

Or join at $5/month to join us live for our next Deep Dive interview with @safeslut all about STI's, safer sex, and her life as an HSV+ queen! https://www.patreon.com/askasub

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected]

More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

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Free & Public Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/AvkZ9f6BtY

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Lina ponificates on curating kinky community beyond the algorithm, then stands at the crossroads with a listener who wants to go from book learning to street smarts. And finally, some thoughts on overthinking, and the perfectly nice orgasms it chases away.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to [email protected]

Free & Pubic Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/AvkZ9f6BtY

More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

Subscribe to the subby substack for free short form content: https://askasub.substack.com

To join our live Q&A with Lola Jean all about Brats, join patreon starting at $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/askasub

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

New weekly episodes of ask a sub coming 2/17. Send your voice memo questions, comments, prompts, anecdotes and success stories to [email protected] <3

Masculinity and Dominance - some say they cannot peacefully coexist. But the men and masc-identifying folks of the ask a sub discord community say different. These are their voices on a deeply important and under-discussed topic. Together let's explore the ways Dominance can transform toxic masculinty into mindful masculinity, and bring men and masculine people deep healing and joy.

Join Patreon here, or at patreon.com/askasub. Once we hit 2K subscribers the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force!

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Every wondered how to find a good therapist? And actually get your needs met by said therapist? What about sleeping arrangements for your 4 person polycule? Non-Monogamous therapist Rachel Wright has your back in this lovely interview.

Join Patreon here, or at patreon.com/askasub. Once we hit 2K subscribers the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force!

Our next Deep Dive with Gaby Herstik all about sacred sex and witchcraft is on 10/20 at 5PT. Join Patreon at $5/month to listen live, and at $11/month to get the recording.

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Socials / Links:

https://www.instagram.com/thewright_rachel/

https://twitter.com/Thewrightrachel

Rachel also hosts donation based non-monogamy support groups which can be found here:

https://rachelwrightnyc.lpages.co/nm-support-group-landing-page/

It's official! Once we hit 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE.

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

Pain is a sensation that is heavily stigmatized in our culture. It can be hard to understand why masochists do what they (we) do when you're working from that cultural understanding alone. Which is why I brought in Leigh Cowart, science reporter and self-proclaimed masochist, to explain to us not only why humans pursue pain on purpose, but how it all works in your brain and body. And they have all the answers, having written one of my favorite books on a kink-related topic, Hurts So Good: The Science And Culture Of Pain On Purpose.

As as we put it in the interview, we're all just goopy primates trying to have some fun in our meat sacks. So cue up this interview and let the goop between your ears understand a little bit more about itself :)

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Socials / Links:

http://www.instagram.com/voraciousbrain

http://www.twitter.com/voraciousbrain

It's official! Once we hit 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE.

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

What does it take to scandalize Lina Dune you ask? Cory Bush and Adam Rei Siegel's sex life. These two people have the most remarkable scene planning energy and I can't wait for you to hear about all their exploits in great detail. Do not listen in public unless you're ready to BLUSH. HARD.

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Socials / Links:

Cory: http://www.instagram.com/thecorybush

Adam: http://www.instagram.com/adamreisiegel

The Library: http://www.instagram.com/thelibrarynyc

It's official! Once we receive 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE.

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

May's Deep Dive was with Shamanatrix Dia Dynasty, and William the founder of kink space Temple NYC. We talked about co-topping, their favorite scenes, why responsible tops love newbies, and how kink allows us to resist the influence of capitalism. They also invited us into the magical world of FemDom Farm, a kink-influenced commune-style space that is resurrecting the Matriarchy.

Sign up for patreon at http://www.patreon.com/askasub

To access the full length recording of this episode go here:https://www.patreon.com/posts/66799037

Socials / Links:

Dia: Instagram / Twitter / Website

William: Instagram / Twitter

Temple NYC: Instagram / Website

FemDom Farm: Instagram / Twitter

Media Recs:

Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and The Teachings Of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer

Your Relationship Is A Garden: Codependence & D/s Dynamics by Lina Dune

While I work on bringing you a second season of Ask A Sub, in the meantime I want to share a teaser of a patreon-exclusive series I'm doing called DEEP DIVE.

Deep Dive is a monthy series wherein I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink community, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work.

In April I had the honor of kicking off this series with the legendary nightlife curator Venus Cuffs. We covered play parties from every possible angle, from the organizing side to the attendee side, and gave listeners tips and tricks for attending kink events. Then Venus told us all about female-led D/s relationships and the beauty therein.

Sign up for patreon at http://www.patreon.com/askasub

To access the full length recording go here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/venus-cuffs-on-65023115

Our next patrons-only Q&A will be on May 19th at 5pm PST with will be with with dominatrix Dia Dynasty and William of @tiemetightly / the founder of Temple NYC. They will talk Dominance, rope, and FemDom Farm. See you there!

In our season finale, we wade into the waters of respect, romance, and all things mushy gushy. First, hear Lina's thoughts on training collars and creating contracts – how to set up expectations, needs, and all the rice-kneeling moments in between, including a little peek into Lina's accidental protocol misinterpretation at the start of her own dynamic! Next, Lina talks about something we don't hear covered often – the romantic side of D/s dynamics and what happens if you fall in love with your Dom(me). Finally, Lina offers advice on how to kinkify a wedding and marriage as a whole. And make sure to stay tuned to the end for the big, juicy reveal y'all have been waiting for!

Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon to show your support for the show and to join the kinky party as we wait for season 2! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

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Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad

Art by Kayleigh Denner