This is one of THE most powerfully inspiring episodes I've done to date. PLEASE, if you are a loss parent and even if you are not, listen to this episode....Dr. Joanne Cacciatore is a bereaved mother to her daughter Cheyenne born still 30 years ago. She is also the founder of the MISS Foundation, an international NGO that serves families whose children have died. She is also a tenured research professor and senior Wrigley Institute of Sustainability Scholar at Arizona State University, spearheading the Graduate Certificate in Trauma and Bereavement. Her best selling book, Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief, is a national award winning best seller that has helped revolutionize the way our culture thinks, and feels, about grief. She works with and counsels families from all around the world who have experienced catastrophic deaths. Dr. Jo, believing that current practices around food production are a social, ethical, and environmental justice issue, is a vegan and hasn’t eaten meat since 1972.  She also teaches meditation, mindfulness, and compassion and ahimsa practices to students and clients from around the world.  

Dr Jo started The Selah Carefarm just outside of Sedona, AZ. It is the first carefarm for the traumatically bereaved in the U.S. It is a very special place on 20 acres of beautiful farmland where bereaved family members can come to both give and receive connection, compassion, and understanding. All the animals on the carefarm have been rescued from abuse, neglect, torture, or homelessness. Our grieving families know what it means to suffer, and so do these animals.

Dr Jo is truly a power house and a dream guest of mine, I am a different person after getting to speak with her.

To get more info on the carefarm: The Selah Carefarm

I mention her Open Letter to Grievers. I saved it to my phone screen and read it almost every day after losing Brody. Read it here: Open Letter To Grievers

This pod is brought to you by LossLink 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Tallia Deljou is a fellow loss mom and life coach specializing in healing emotional wounds. Her loss journey includes 2 recurrent miscarriages followed by the loss of her son Araam, who was born prematurely at 22 weeks and 3 days and joined us earth side for 15 hours. She takes a gentle and compassionate approach to healing after loss, teaching us how to welcome every emotion and feel it all.

I won't lie to y'all, we do a mock session and some things that I'm feeling do come up. It's raw, it's real, it's a no judgement zone. This is how it is...for me at least. If you want to contact Tallia for your own session, the info is below...

Links to instagram @talliadeljou and workshop replays:

On managing triggers after loss: https://talliadeljou.myflodesk.com/lossreplay

On protecting your peace and setting boundaries after loss: https://talliadeljou.myflodesk.com/protectpeace

On navigating anger after loss: https://talliadeljou.myflodesk.com/anger

Podcast is brought to you by LOSSLINK.COM

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Liz from Episode 1 is back to check in about where she is 2 years after our first recording ( I cannot believe it!) At the time, I was 6 months out from losing Brody and Liz was 9 months out from losing her Harrison. We talk about anger, and owning our grief, how it's managed now, and how we've gotten stronger and able to handle our grief. Being advocates for shaping our own loss life, we talk about how we have done that as well as what we continue to struggle with in the specific stages we are in. We hope to shed some light on how grief can progress over time. This is real talk, y'all we don't hold back on our thoughts and experiences and hope that this helps <3

This Podcast is brought to you by LOSSLINK. Go to LossLink.com to find other mothers to connect with in your home town or anywhere in the world. Loss Life is tough, find others to do it with who get it.

Thank you Liz for coming back on to catch up. Follow her on IG @lizmyers19 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Helena's beloved daughter, Maila, was born still at 36 weeks and 5 days on December 29th, 2022 despite being in "perfect health" during her pregnancy.  She is the inspiration behind creating personalized baby loss keepsake books because babies like Maila deserve to be remembered. Maila’s Presents are thoughtful baby loss gifts, offering bereaved parents a tangible way to honor their precious children and keep their memories alive within their families for generations. If you are searching for meaningful baby loss keepsake gifts, Maila’s Presents provide a beautiful and heartfelt way to commemorate the lives of babies gone too soon.

This episode is very raw and real. We talk a lot of truths about what happens when we lose our babies.  Helena is courageous and such an inspiration. If you are looking for a sign to create something for your baby, this is it. 

Find these beautiful books here: https://mailaspresent.com/

You can also find them on IG at https://www.instagram.com/mailaspresent/

Helena also has a podcast which you can find here: https://www.instagram.com/remembermeourbabies/

The book Spirit Babies: https://www.amazon.com/Spirit-Babies-Communicate-Child-Youre/dp/0385338120

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

*Recoded prior to Halloween*...Holidays after baby loss are so weird. I'll also share insight from other mamas on how they've dealt in the past and the advice they have moving forward. Ways to honor our babies will also be shared as this is a huge struggle, especially in the beginning.

Here's what I tackle:

• Declining invites to holiday events
• Handling Triggering people
• Halloween and all the death
• Having living kids while mourning during the holidays.
• Thanksgiving and how I've handled it so far
• Christmas and ways to honor.

And holidays change and evolve as time moves forward. I recorded one of these the holidays after I lost Brody. And I'm entering into my 3rd season and things are very different. So no matter what phase you're in, it might help to hear how it does change with time. Main point: YOU'RE SO NOT ALONE

These are my viewpoints and topics that I sought out information about. This is the advice I give and share with you all based off hundreds of conversations I've had. I hope that i helps as we navigate one of the hardest times of the year.

PODCAST BROUGHT TO YOU BY LOSSLINK.COM, I private community of bereaved mothers looking to connect through DMs or Discussions with those in their area or about similar loss experiences.

Helpful mentions: @andthatsgrief on IG and @talliadeljou

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Rio is a psychotherapist and grief integration coach, specializing in helping individuals and couples navigate the profound and complex journey of loss and trauma. With a somatic and psychodynamic lens, Rio helps clients heal and rebuild using both the power of the mind and body for long-term resilience and change. Her mission is to help those who feel stuck and powerless in the aftermath of tragedy find their way to a new version of themselves with radical compassion and unapologetic clarity.

Y'alllll this episode is just so so needed. It shines light on what A LOT of us deal with when it comes to relationships after loss and how we are impacted by the secondary loss of them.

What we discuss:

• How to deal with people who don't get it
• Trauma dumping on people we love
• How grief affects the body
• How people treat you and those that don't show up
• Secondary losses
• Other cultures and their grief
• How society treats grievers
• Her grief therapy and Somatic EMDR therapy.

She is just wonderful! Here is how you can access her amazing services:

Contact her for 1:1

On Instagram:  @andthatsgrief

She is constantly doing free workshops so follow her for the latest!

THIS PODCAST BROUGHT TO YOU BY LOSSLINK. Join here: LOSSLINK.COM

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Jillian is the founder of Courage in Time Inc., a nonprofit supporting families who have experienced stillbirth and infant loss through curated bereavement boxes, grief and postpartum resources, and connection to other bereaved families. She established this courageous space after her son Lorenzo died in the NICU at 12 days old. She is inspirational and relatable and all things that show how much she loves her son and is willing to help others walking this horrible path of life after baby loss.

JOIN LOSSLINK to connect with other mothers with similar loss: https://www.losslink.com/

Check the website here: https://www.courageintime.com/

Purchase boxes here: https://www.courageintime.com/courage-box

Fine her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/courage_in_time/?hl=en

Email her at [email protected]

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop 

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

• https://countthekicks.org/
• https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
• https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
• https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

I chat with Lyndsay about her precious second son, Kove, who was born still at 37 weeks just a little over a year ago. That is when her grief and baby loss journey began. Since then she has started Kove's Keeper, a bereavement care package for parents suffering stillbirth & infant loss in the local hospitals. Devastation has since happened again as Lyndsay suffered a miscarriage since Kove's death. She is now currently pregnant for the 4th time and we discuss the challenges of pregnancy after loss. Lyndsay is also very open about her faith in God & how she has managed this relationship.

Lyndsay is a sweet soul just wanting to parent Kove the best way she can and to help other Loss Moms out there. If you'd like to speak with her, find her on IG @_lyndsburns_ or shoot her an email at [email protected]

Find other Loss Moms to connect with at LossLink.com! Use code BRODY18 to get your first month for $1.

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

• https://countthekicks.org/
• https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
• https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
• https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Kimberly Isburg, Communications Manager for Count the Kicks and Healthy Birth Day, joins me to discuss the importance of tracking fetal movement and the mission that she is on with her team to make preventable stillbirth a thing of the past.

I of course chime in with my own personal experiences regarding Brody and tracking movement in my subsequent pregnancies.

There is a lot of info in this podcast and it is good for anyone who is pregnant or planning to become pregnant, even without loss. VITAL information!

We mention a lot of great resources. Check out the links below:

• Here is the Evidence page for Count the Kicks: https://countthekicks.org/why-we-count/evidence/
• Here is the App Download page: https://countthekicks.org/download-app/
• Healthy Birth Day Website: https://healthybirthday.org/
• Stillbirth Prevention Act page: https://healthybirthday.org/advocacy/stillbirth-prevention-act/

Watch us on the At a Total Loss podcast YouTube channel! https://youtu.be/JPYrIiMfe2U

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

• Some helpful resources:
• https://countthekicks.org/
• https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
• https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
• https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

I break down 3 popular topics after baby loss.

• What triggers us & how we react to it
• The grief spirals that come out of nowhere & how they are not setbacks
• Having zero tolerance for others complaining

Y'all talk to me about these things ALL the time on instagram and I'm diving in to explain my thoughts as well as the feedback I've gotten from 100s of mommas about them. I may or may not go on a small rant (lol) but hey whatever, that's how I roll. So, whether you agree or not on everything, I hope that some of it helps you feel less alone & validated for the complicated experiences and feelings we have after we lose our babies.

Want to connect with other Loss Moms? Go to LossLink.com to find those that have experienced similar loss and connect with like minded Loss Moms!

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/