At a Total Loss

Andrea is the mother of 6 children. Her 5th baby, her beautiful daughter, Terra, died at 38 weeks in July of 2021. Terra's two vessel cord has not been to blame but Andrea wonders why there isn't more research on this. We discuss Andrea's experiences with loss & grief.  She has since had another daughter after Terra and is coming up for air getting the help she needs. We talk very openly about the aftermath of death, the panic attacks, the fears, the inability to function and getting medications to assist with coping after your world comes crashing down. Death keeps going after you leave the hospital without your baby and we shed light in this very dark space....We also laugh a lot in this episode. This is how we roll now! :)

To shop Andrea's store, go to her IG @thegriefcloset

Her personal page is @grievinglikeamother and she'd love to hear from you.

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Y'all asked and I'm answering! I polled my IG audience to see what topics you wanted me to address.  So it's just lil ole me on the mic giving you my perspective. Please note that I am not a professional, I'm just a loss mom who has had A LOT of conversations with professionals and other moms. Here to help!

What I talk about:

• The months after the trenches
• Trying to Conceive and seeing Negative tests
• Pregnancy after loss and connecting with the baby
• What was it like to hold the new baby after loss
• Fear of loss
• Guilt 
• Fear of other's judgment
• Triggers Triggers Triggers
• Age as a factor in pregnancy
• and so much more.

Make sure to message me after and let me know what you think! I will be taking more questions next month to do this again!

Follow me on Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Facebook @thekatherinelazar

Website: katherinelazar.com

Email: [email protected]

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Jessica Correnti has been a Certified Child Life Specialist for 15+ years. Jessica's daughter, Maggie, was stillborn at 22 weeks nearly 7 years. She is the author of Forever Connected, a children’s book for bereaved siblings, and The ABCs of Grief, which will be released in Fall 2023. Jessica is the founder and owner of Kids Grief Support, a private practice that provides virtual and in-person sessions to grieving children and families across the globe through play, therapeutic activities, and emotional support.

We discuss so many things pertaining to parenting before stillbirth and after it. How children process it is explained and how we can navigate the conversations is broken down and simplified. Jessica, being a loss momma herself, provides invaluable insight on parenting after loss and opening the conversation about death and grief with young children.

We discuss:

• Talking very factually to children about death
• Looking for their grief coming out in behaviors
• Kids using their imagination regarding their dead sibling
• How kids process as they get older and how it changes
• Outsiders opinions regarding your parenting a dead child decisions
• Breaking the stigma in society about loss and grief
• Simple ways to start the conversation about death
• Creating something as the parent of a dead child.
• IT gets SO good at the end...so much we cover!

Her IG handle: @kidsgriefsupport

Her book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/44ICNa3

Here is Forever Connected: https://amzn.to/44ICNa3

Her book recs: https://www.amazon.com/shop/kidsgriefsupport/list/2RRQI076UAM8R?ref_=aipsflist_aipsfkidsgriefsupport

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

 Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Maria lost her first son Rylen James Laxer on October 12, 2022 due to an umbilical cord accident. Maria was 39 weeks pregnant & her world was completely shattered.  She is doing the work in order to pick up the pieces. 

The day Maria came home from the hospital without Rylen, she put on a bracelet with his name & felt instantly more connected with him. From that moment on, she designed jewelry that reminded her of her son & started @shoprylenjames to provide the same feeling to other mamas throughout the world.  The shop is beautiful and helps so many mommas with broken hearts. Show your support and purchase some jewelry for yourself of a bereaved momma like Maria.

Maria and I connected right after Rylen's stillbirth. She wanted some insight on how to navigate this. So, seeing how far she has come in her grief makes me truly proud of these incredible mommas whose hearts are so big even though they are completely broken. 

You will hear two instagram friends chatting about all things life after loss. What we talk about:

• Different Phases of loss
• Trying to conceive after loss
• Relationships and how they change
• Passing the torch to others after us
• Connecting with loss mommas and how it helps
• Cutting people off
• Creating purpose from your pain
• Her cute little jewelry shop in honor of Rylen
• "Choosing" to be happy
• Putting in the work to making life worth living again
• And so much more!

Shop! @shoprylenjames

Connect with Maria on IG: @mimosaswithmaria

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Holly is a mother of 4 children: her 3  girls and her son Harry, who was born still on January 31, 2023. Holly is unapologetically navigating this loss life how she wants to just 8 months after his death. She has put in the work to make the best of the new life she is stuck with now, one where she can be happy and honor her son. She is a ball of positive energy, and I think it radiates through the episode. She is a working mom, new dog mom, Reality TV aficionado and self proclaimed "Culturista". While navigating life after loss, She has learned how to live in the now, enjoy the moments and still have her son close to her heart.

For those that are looking for a sign to make the best out of this nightmare, this is it.

What we talk about:

• Doing the work it takes to get on a healing path.
• Being HBIC (Head Bitch in Charge)
• Navigating relationships after loss
• How we have to choose to be happy (as cliche as that is)
• Changing the way our brains work through therapy
• Light at the end of the tunnel
• Still being ourselves
• Different phases of grief and life after loss
• And so much more!

Follow Holly on her Personal IG: Hollygirl8

And Harry's page at Harry’s “Diary” IG: harrys_h0use

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another drops!

Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Kelly is a mom to 2 living children and her son Owen, who died in January 2021 at 38 weeks after a placental abruption. To honor Owen, Kelly created #OwensLight to share his story and support her initiative to create and donate birthday cake kits to celebrate his birthday. The support group, SHARE has been instrumental in her grief journey and pregnancy after loss. She is currently working with other parents in her community to plan a walk during Pregnancy And Infant Loss (PAIL) Awareness month. 

Kelly talks about her traumatic birth, her grief with living children, and how she has continued to parent Owen from earth.

If you'd like to reach out to her, find her on instagram @Morankn11

Her walk in Naperville, IL linked here: https://eehealth.ejoinme.org/2023ShareWalk

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Sarah is behind the rainbow skirt that you may have seen on social media, Project Finding Your Rainbow. She is a mother to three living children and a daughter, Jasmine, who died before she was born in 2018. This skirt has been worn by almost 300 loss mommas to celebrate their rainbow babies. The community she has created has helped so many.

We also touch on the subject of gender disappointment and the challenges of pregnancy after loss. Sarah had a tough battle with infertility and hopes to shed light on this topic, something we discuss as well.

Sarah now works to help other loss parents through her Journey for Jasmine pages, Project Finding Your Rainbow, and the Finding Hope After Loss Podcast.

Where you can find her:

www.journeyforjasmine.com

anchor.fm/findinghopeafterloss

instagram.com/findinghopeafterloss

facebook.com/findinghopeafterloss

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram : @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Alissa lost her first daughter, Anna, in 2018 to a placental abruption that almost took her life too. She talks about her experiences not only losing her daughter but also almost losing her own life. The changes that happened after and the magnitude of the experiences have shaped her in every way.

We discuss:

• Parenting after loss
• Kind nurses that are angels
• The impact of our experiences on our partners
• Almost losing your own life after stillbirth
• The death of your baby and what that looks like through the years
• Having a NICU rainbow baby
• Keeping sense of humor
• Finding light after loss

You can follow her at @lissables on instagram, as well as @a.missing.stitch where she honors the names of those missing from our families.

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Charmell is an IVF Warrior whose first child, Harper, died and was stillborn just a few months ago. I found Charmell's the way she speaks of her loss and copes inspiring. She loves to use her life and faith to motivate women all over the world with what she called Moments with Mell. Moments with Mell is just a transparent, sneak peak into her everyday life with hopes of encouraging others. Charmell and her Husband, Martin, have also created the Harper Grace Foundation to award scholarships to deserving girls of color; that is how they parent Harper.

She has also created a way to help others daily. If you’re looking for empowerment and encouragement, checkout her book entitled “I Am: A 30 Day Guide for Devine Empowerment” . Available on Amazon.

Connect with Charmell on her Socials:

IG: moments_with_mell.p

FB: Moments with Mell P

TikTok: @iammellp

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar

Nicole is the momma of two. A 3 year old son on Earth and her daughter, Cameron, in heaven. An unrecognized virus spread throughout older son’s daycare class a week prior to Cameron’s birth. She was born via C-section at 35+2 but was not showing signs of sickness. Cameron was admitted to NICU for monitoring. She lived for 29 days and passed from Enterovirus.

Nicole and her husband have started "Planting Memories", memorial tree planting, small business, for those people grieving the loss of a loved one by planting a tree in their honor.

Nicole is a the definition of badass loss momma, and you can hear in her voice how much she loves her babies. Her spirit, energy and grief vibe I dig very much and I hope you can feel it radiate through wherever you are listening. It's mommas like this that keep me going and I hope she can provide some insight on how to navigate this horrible loss life.

Find her on IG https://www.instagram.com/nikuhns614/

Support her small business: https://plantingmemoriesnc.com/

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real life, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone.

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another drops!

 Instagram https: @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Follow me on Social Media:

Instagram and Facebook: @thekatherinelazar