At Peace Parents™ Podcast

Lowering demands is how many parents start accommodating their PDA child or teen, and it's also where many get stuck.

In this episode I talk through the mindset work that parents can do to get unstuck and be more successful with lowering demands. I also explain why lowering demands is a necessary but not sufficient accommodation for our PDA children and teens.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

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YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

Does you child or teen often try to control you, criticize you and/or destroy your things or things around the house. This is very common among PDA children and teens, because they are equalizing.

Equalizing is a nervous system response - out of their control - in PDA children and teens whereby they try to regain sense of nervous system safety due to a perceived loss of autonomy and equality.

In this episode I break it all down, and share lots of examples. I hope it's helpful.

xo,

Casey

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

Este episodio está en español. This episode is in Spanish.

En este episodio hablo con Juliana Carrillo sobre PDA - la Evitación de Demanda Extrema - y como entender la discapacidad del sistema nervioso en niños y jovenes. Juliana es una psicologa y "coach" con At Peace Parents. Puedes leer más de ella y sus servicios aquí: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/Juliana-asesoria-personalizada

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

It's very common for two parents to be on different pages or trajectories with PDA understanding and acceptance. Sometimes this is because one parent wants more "evidence" that PDA exists at all, which can be very difficult given that academia has not yet caught up to our lived realities.

In this episode I provide a possible way forward - building your own evidence!

I hope it's helpful.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

In this episode I share the techniques for using declarative language that I've seen are most effective for parents of PDA children and teens. And I snuck in a suggestion on how to get your PDAer's teacher to use declarative language, too ;)

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

There are tons of misconceptions about if and how we set boundaries with our PDA children and teens (spoiler - we do!), and in this episode I talk through the most common of them.

I also explain the process I use - cost-benefit decision making within constraints - to help parents decide when they should set boundaries and how to do so with eyes wide open to the activation this will cause their PDAer.

I hope it helps you!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

Hi everyone - in this episode I share some of the many messy, awkward and (in retrospect at least) kinda funny situations I found myself in during the many months I was in the process of changing my parenting approach to better support my PDA son.

I share these as a reminder that this can be (almost always is) a chaotic transition, and that's ok. You're learning and implementing a new parenting paradigm, and it takes time for you, your family members, and you PDA child to get into a new rhythm.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

ABA is helpful for some PDA children and their families. For other PDA children it doesn't help or can make things worse.

With this in mind, I'd love to live in a world where ABA and additional options were available - and covered by insurance - to support PDA children and teens.

In today's episode I provide more information about ABA and the how parents of PDA children can better understand the research supporting it.

Also - here are links to the two articles I referenced:

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40614-022-00338-x

https://www.nature.com/articles/tp2017207

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

In this episode I share my experiences with the Safe and Sound Protocol, and also provide guidance on how parents can think about trying therapies with their PDA child or teen.

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey

This is a question I get frequently, and there's a lot of nuance that goes into answering it. I hope this is helpful to you!

Are you ready to start working to deeply understand and support your PDA child or teen and lead your family to peace? Join the waitlist for the next cohort of my signature Paradigm Shift Program at https://www.atpeaceparents.com/paradigm-shift-program

To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com.

You can also connect with me on:

Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents

TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents

Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents

YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents

And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at my At Peace Parents website, www.atpeaceparents.com

Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent.

xoxo,

Casey