At Peace Parents™ Podcast by Casey

05.03.2024

Ep. 57 - Conversation with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical Psychologist

In this episode Dr. Alex Klein and I answer questions that families submitted. If you'd like to submit a question for one of our future conversations, here is where you can do so: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/submit-question-klein-ehrlich Here's some of the questions we...

04.24.2024

Ep. 56 - PDA Children Avoiding Writing and Drawing

Does your child refuses to write or draw? In this episode I share my story of my son's avoidance of both and how supporting his nervous with PDA accommodations enabled him to come back to them over time. The...

04.12.2024

Ep. 55 - Boundaries vs Rules with Your PDA Child or Teen

Knowing the difference between boundaries and rules, and when to use each, can be really helpful when parenting a PDA child or teen. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can...

03.19.2024

Ep. 54 - Play Therapy and PDA - A Conversation with Therapist Lauren Stern Noel

In this episode I reconnect with my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. We talk about playing with PDA children, and how it...

03.12.2024

Ep. 53 - Parenting vs Caregiving for a PDA Child or Teen

In this episode I discuss how as parents of PDA children or teens we do both parenting and caregiving, and how that relates to a "Gentle Parenting" approach. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen...

03.04.2024

Ep. 52 - Rhythms versus Routines when Parenting a PDA Child or Teen

In this episode I talk about how I view parenting a PDA child or teen as distinct from "Gentle Parenting" by focusing on rhythms instead of routines. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is...

02.26.2024

Ep. 51 - Signalling Safety to Your PDA Child or Teen

Signalling safety - often non-verbally - to your PDA child or teen can be a really impactful way to accommodate their nervous system. In this episode I provide seven tips on how to do it. To learn more about...

02.23.2024

Ep. 50 - Sensory Processing Disorder or Pathological Demand Avoidance?

In this episode I discuss my two sons, the differences between SPD and PDA, and how those differences impact parenting. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE...

02.14.2024

Ep. 49 - Conversation with Lauren Stern Noel, Developmental Therapist (and great friend!)

When my PDA son was four-years-old and we were in crisis I called my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. She invited...

02.05.2024

Ep. 48 - Siblings and PDA (Again)

I always get questions about how to handle dynamics between a Pathologically Demand Avoidant child or teen and their sibling/s. And with good reason - it can be REALLY hard to navigate these dynamics in ways that support all members...

01.29.2024

Ep. 47 - What skills do we need to parent our PDA children?

In this episode I discuss the practical skills we need as parents to support the nervous systems and health of our PDA children and teens, and how it relates to my morning's yoga session... To learn more about and figure...

01.24.2024

Ep. 46 - "Strewing" to Accommodate your PDA Child or Teen

I explain strewing as an accommodation that can help PDA children and teens. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass. You can also connect...

01.16.2024

Ep. 45 - First PDA Discussion with Dr. Alex Klein, Clinical Psychologist

Casey and Dr. Klein discuss PDA in their first podcast (of many to follow) and he shares some of the insights of PDA he's gained as a clinical psychologist. Disclaimer: Dr. Klein does not provide any clinical, medical, or...

01.08.2024

Ep. 44 - Five places parents get stuck

Casey discusses the five most common ways she's found parents of PDA children and teens get stuck in bringing their family to stability.

12.21.2023

Ep. 43 - Guilt and second arrows as parents of PDA children

Casey discusses the ways parents of PDA children shoot themselves with the "second arrow" - often guilt - and ways to transcend it.

12.12.2023

Ep. 42 - Service Dogs and PDA

In this episode Casey discusses having a service dog to help her PDA son, and some of the ups and downs she's been through.

12.04.2023

Ep. 41 - PDA and Taking a Research Perspective

Casey discusses her identity, her role as a researcher rather than an advocate, and how this informs her objective approach - and openness -to helping each unique family find what works for them and the PDA child or teen without...

11.28.2023

Ep. 40 - If I accommodate now, what will happen when they grow up?

Casey talks about the theory of change she uses in her work, and the common fear parents have that if they accommodate their PDA children and teens they will not be able to succeed as adults. To connect with...

11.21.2023

Ep. 39 - Parenting through the holidays

In this episode Casey discusses the challenges and strategies of parenting a PDA child or teen through the holiday season. (This episode was pulled from a recent Instagram Live video.) To connect with me, find me here: Instagram ...

11.13.2023

Ep. 38 - Is PDA on a spectrum?

Casey discusses the variability among PDA children and teens. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an...

11.07.2023

Ep. 37 - Let's talk about empathy

PDA children and teens have empathy, and in this episode we talk about why and how to help their nervous systems so they can access it. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For...

10.30.2023

Ep. 36 - Are you a PDA parent of a PDA child?

In this episode we discuss the unique experience of parenting a PDA child for parents who are also pathologically demand avoidant and offer some simple tools and insights that may be helpful. To connect with me, find me here:...

10.24.2023

Ep. 35 - 6 Tips for Making Halloween More Manageable for your Family.

In this episode, we discuss why the Halloween - and the holidays - are so tough on PDA children and teens, as well as their parents, and I offer some tips to help you get through the beginning of what...

10.23.2023

Ep. 34 - The fawn and freeze responses

In this episode Casey talks about the fawn and freeze responses to nervous system activation. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks...

10.17.2023

Ep. 33 - Behavioral approaches and why they don't work

Casey discusses why behavioral approaches don't work for PDA children and teens. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You...

10.09.2023

Ep. 32 - Is therapy good for PDA kids?

Casey talks about therapy for PDA children. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent....

10.02.2023

Ep. 31 - What does it look like long term if we don't correct our children's "bad behavior"?

This episode explores what I call "The Theory of Change" of parenting a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen through an accommodation approach over the long term (years!). We talk about the logic behind lowering demands and making...

09.27.2023

Ep. 30 - Have you "radically accepted" your PDA child or teen?

This episode discusses what it *actually* looks like to radically accept your PDA child or teen. For many parents this is where the rubber hits the road and it is less about a nebulous or theoretical "acceptance" of a...

09.18.2023

Ep. 29 - Can you "heal" Pathological Demand Avoidance?

In this episode, we discuss the difference between trauma and Pathological Demand Avoidance, as well as the overlaps in terms of your child's or teen's behavior. We talk about how you can heal trauma, however you cannot heal a neurotype,...

09.08.2023

Ep. 28 - OCD, Anxiety or PDA?

This episode is designed to do three things:Give you clarity on how to figure out the root cause of your child's controlling and avoidant behavior - Is it Anxiety, OCD and/or Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)?Help you notice subtle differences in...

08.03.2023

Ep. 27 - Is My Child PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?

"Is my child Autistic with Demand Avoidance OR is my child PDA?" This is a question I get often from parents, so this is a free training to help you discern the answer that question for yourself. We will...

06.15.2023

Ep. 26 - What is the difference between PDA and trauma?

In this episode, I answer this very commonly asked question: What is the difference between PDA and trauma? As part of my answer, I discuss five things: 1. Why there is so much confusion between PDA and trauma. 2. Why there...

06.06.2023

Ep. 25 - Reframing Progress as a Parent of a PDA Child or Teen

This episode is an excerpt from the "Progress with PDA" workshop and is a way of looking at progress, even when you feel your most stuck as a parent. This perspective is the "yin" side to the "yang" of tracking data...

05.23.2023

Ep. 24 - Finding your unique PDA child or Teen's Edge.

In this episode, I answer the question: "What do I do when my PDA child or teen really wants to do something - see friends, play a sport, engage in an activity - but there is a big fallout afterwards?" ...

04.25.2023

Ep. 23 - Sticker Charts and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

In this episode, Casey shares the logic behind why sticker charts, laminated schedules, strict routines, and many of the supports used with children who have social communication differences and executive functioning differences actually backfire with PDA kids and young adults. ...

04.20.2023

Ep. 22 - Timelines, Pre-PDA Awareness, and My Son's Burnout

In this episode, Casey shares her story from the perspective of a parent as she experienced the time leading up to her son's burnout (3.5 years old), her son's burnout (5.5 years old), and the current moment (8.5 years old). She...

04.06.2023

Ep. 21 - Marriage and Co-Parenting with a PDA Child or Teen

In this episode, I share an excerpt from the Paradigm Shift Program session that focused on Marriage, Co-Parenting, and Communication dynamics while raising a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen. I share my personal story, how raising a PDA...

03.27.2023

Ep. 20 - Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) vs. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

In this episode, I outline the ways in which the description of Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM)-5 overlaps with some of the surface-level indicators of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) or "Pervasive Drive for Autonomy." Although there...

03.16.2023

Ep. 19 - Identity: Yours, Your Child's, and Mine

In this episode we explore identifying with a particular neurotype - whether it is Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA), Autistic, Neurotypical, ADHD, or none at all- and the choices we have for ourselves and for our children. At the core, we discuss...

03.08.2023

Ep. 18 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Hard to Understand? - Part II

Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life? In this episode, I answer the following questions: How do I know whether it is "defiance"...

03.06.2023

Ep. 17 - Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so Confusing? - Part I

Why is Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) so hard to understand as a parent and for therapists, pediatricians, teachers, and people looking in on your child's life? In this episode, I answer the following questions: My child doesn't seem Autistic, can they still...

02.15.2023

Ep. 16 - Toileting and Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

In this episode on Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and Toileting, we discuss the impact that cumulative nervous system stress has on toileting, through two mechanisms: The nervous system's fight/flight or freeze response and how it impacts the metabolism, cortisol, and adrenaline,...

01.26.2023

Ep. 15 - Siblings and PDA

In this episode, I tackle the complex and often difficult topic of managing siblings and a PDA child at the same time, as well as the impact on siblings of raising a PDA child or child with a sensitive nervous...

01.18.2023

Ep. 14 - Your "Secret" and "Inappropriate" Questions about PDA

In this episode, I answer questions that parents submitted as "secret and inappropriate" about PDA. I answer as honestly and objectively as possible! The five questions were: ✨ Can you have “PDA Lite”? ✨ Is PDA always Autism? ✨What happened to an older generation...

01.12.2023

Ep. 13 - The Three Stages Parents of PDA Children and Teens Go Through

This episode describes the three stages of the journey that parents of PDA children and teens go through on their path to peace. First, the "Doing Everything" phase where you learn and do everything you possibly can to help your...

01.09.2023

Ep. 12 - Parenting a PDA Child or Teen with an Experimental Mindset

This episode describes why allowing yourself an experimental mindset while trying new approaches and accommodations with a PDA child or teen is so important.So you stop judging or paralyzing yourself with a fear of "doing it wrong" or not following...

12.28.2022

Ep. 11 - "Aren't You Just Rewarding Bad Behavior?"

In this episode I answer the question I get over and over on social media, in my coaching containers and in the programs I run: "Are you just rewarding bad behavior by using an accommodation approach with your PDA child?" It...

12.16.2022

Ep. 10 - Masking, PDA Children and Teens, and YOU!

This episode explores "high masking" in PDA children and teens, across both the introverted and extroverted expression. It discusses the importance of recognizing masking, both for the sanity of parents, your child's well-being, and getting access to the structural support...

12.08.2022

Ep. 9 - How to Manage the Holidays with a PDA Child

This episode teaches you a new way of thinking about how to approach the holiday season with a PDA child or teen. First, of course, you will want to think about accommodations and lowering demands, but you also need to set...

12.01.2022

Ep. 8 - How do I know if my child is PDA or Autistic with Demand Avoidance?

This episode outlines four things to look for as a parent to help you determine whether your child is PDA or is Autistic with Demand Avoidance. Ultimately, I tell you that what matters most is not the diagnosis or lable,...

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