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Links to things mentioned:

• See the study!
• Want an easier way to read a summary of the study? Read yesterday's post.
• Previous podcast: are men and women's brains really that different? 
• Previous podcast: Let's talk MODESTY.
• Follow Meghan Tschanz on Instagram
• Learn more about The Great Sex Rescue

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Links to things mentioned:

• Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and fund our ongoing projects
• The Great Sex Rescue, our book that showed the issues with a lot of evangelical teaching about sex, based on our survey of 20,000 women
• Our Merch: Check out our Be a Biblical Woman collection
• The other times we've talked about Josh Howerton, specifically with Josh Howerton plagiarizing others; and Josh Howerton misrepresenting research. 
• Download our rubric of healthy sexuality teaching that we used to score the books--and this Instagram Live!
• Listen in to the podcast where we talked about how other authors have responded to The Great Sex Rescue, including the Tim and Kathy Keller anecdote

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Links to things mentioned:

• Our Patreon! Our patrons have helped us have the time and flexibility to write She Deserves Better (out in April), along with the stats for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex. Right now Joanna is working on two different peer-reviewed papers, and our next big project we'd like to fund is creating a database of good and bad books. You can support us for as little as $5 a month, and get behind-the-scenes access! Support us here. 
• Our Merch! Check out our merch, including our Be a Biblical Woman merch, and you'll help support us too!
• Our Marriage Misdiagnosis Series. Start here, and then you can follow the links on the bottom of the posts for everything else.
• Our rubric and scorecard of how the different books fared, including The Power of a Praying Wife.
• My Instagram post of John Piper's horrible advice. Follow me there for more Fixed it For Yous!

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Links to things mentioned:

Natalie’s Flying Free site, and Natalie’s awesome Facebook Page, Instagram, and YouTube channel. Plus listen in to her podcast!
Natalie’s book “Is It Me”?
The terrible books Natalie mentioned: Our post about Created To Be His Helpmeet; Julie Anne Smith’s review of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
The book that helped Natalie: Leslie Vernick’s Emotionally Destructive Marriage
Patrick Weaver’s I Hate Divorce t-shirts
Patrick Weaver on the Malachi verse that is too often translated “God hates divorce”
My post on how marriage was made for us, not us for marriage
Support us on Patreon! Or check out our awesome merch!
Our Marriage Misdiagnosis series! My mental load series: With thanks to Eve Rodsky and Fair Play!
Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are
Krispin Mayfield’s podcast on attachment, and his book Attached to God
The awesome men who have helped my thinking on sexual habits and the pornified style of relating–Andrew J. Bauman and Michael John Cusickᐧ 

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Should pastors be allowed to plagiarize in their sermons?
I’ll be frank: I think evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity, as we talked about on last week’s podcast. And I think plagiarism is part of that celebrity. It’s rampant among pastors and authors in evangelicalism, and it allows people to give a false sense of themselves to others to boost their status. It needs to stop.

Links to things mentioned:

Scot McKnight's book A Church Called TOV
Scot McKnight's New Testament Everyday Bible Study Series
Scot McKnight's previous podcast with us
Warren Throckmorton on Mark Driscoll's apparent plagiarism
David Dzimianski on Tim Keller's apparent plagiarism
Aaron New on Tim Clinton's history of Plagiarism
Christine Caine's plagiarism
Josh Howerton's Twitter Threads
Original Twitter Thread (long) about how plagiarism by pastors is fine
More recent Tweet about ethics of using someone's material without naming them if you disagree with them
Articles on Controversy with Josh Howerton and Andy Wood
Article Explaining Andy Wood controversy with Mark Driscoll
Andy Stanley's book The New Rules of Love, Sex and Dating
YouTube sermon where Andy Stanley goes over the central points of this book, which Josh Howerton seems to have used
(start at around 22:00)
Steven Furtick sermon with "two halves don't make a whole"
(start around 6:30)
Josh Howerton sermon where he says arguing with him is like arguing with God
(start around 12:20)

Note: The sermon we're referring to I originally saw because it was listed on this page. That sermon has since been removed. It is the only sermon from 2022 that can no longer be found on the Lakepointe Church site, on YouTube, and on their podcast archives. It was there a few weeks ago; it's now gone. I have no idea why, unless he got wind of what we were doing (some people did know, and there have been "breadcrumbs" in the last few podcasts). I hope to see a public statement from Lakepointe and Josh Howerton apologizing for plagiarism, and saying this is why they took the sermon down. If so, I will let you all know and read it out to you!

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity culture.
I mean, everyone has a problem with celebrity culture. But it can be worse in the church because we’re supposed to put Jesus front and centre, and too oten we’re protecting celebrity and ignoring the way of Christ.

Links to things mentioned:

Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to an awesome Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more. Or if you don’t want to support long term, considering leaving something in our tip jar!
Katelyn Beaty’s book Celebrities for Jesus! Plus find Katelyn on Twitter ! That’s where I got to know her.
Our evidence-based courses: The Orgasm Course and the Boost Your Libido course and the Honeymoon Prep Course!

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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One of the most frequent questions I’ve had since The Great Sex Rescue was published has been: “Have any of the authors responded to your critiques?”
People want to know–has anyone owned their mistakes and made changes?
And the quick answer is no. 
I wanted to have a central place where I can show you what the authors who HAVE said something have said. 
And I need to say something. 
This is a personal podcast.

Links to things mentioned:

The Great Sex Rescue
Download our rubric and scorecard!
The blog post where I include links for everything I talked about, plus write out the email we sent to Gary Thomas

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
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• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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We’ve got some wonderful inspiring stories to share with you today–plus a new research study with implications for dating.
 Today Rebecca and I tell you about two modern day heroes, plus two young women using the gifts God gave them to try to change their world!
Then we analyze that Psychology Today article we told you about–the rise of lonely, single men. Listen in!

Links to things mentioned:

Patreon 
Our Whole Story Sex & Puberty course
An article about Chief Theresa Kachimondoto
The All the Books YouTube video
The Rise of Lonely, Single Men
Pew Research Study they cite
Study on loneliness in men
Our emotional maturity series

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Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Time for another hero of the faith! Well, three, actually!
This month we’re telling amazing stories of women that God used in history to fight against injustice and show that God values women. This week Kristin Kobes Du Mez, the author of Jesus and John Wayne, joins us to talk about her biography of Katharine Bushnell.

Links to things mentioned:

The New Gospel for Women: Katharine Bushnell and the Challenge of Christian Feminism
On Purpose: Understanding God's Freedom for Women Through Scripture by Julie Zine Coleman
The Great Sex Rescue

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.