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Have you ever heard the name Josephine Butler?
If you were alive in London in 1880 you likely would have. In her time, she was as well-known as Florence Nightingale, but history has largely forgotten her.
Joanna and I sat down and read Josephine Butler: Patron Saint of Prostitutes, and discussed it today!

Links to things mentioned:

Josephine Butler, Patron Saint of Prostitutes (it's a great read for the summer!)
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If you haven't read The Great Sex Rescue yet, you need to. It seriously will change your life. And then buy it for a pastor or counselor you know!

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What if your wife has been taught toxic things about sex–and you don’t even realize it?

Links to things mentioned:

The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have been
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Our "Do All Men Struggle with Lust" podcast
Our open letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect (at the bottom of this post is links to all of the other things we've said about this book)
The study on complaining and maladaptive worry and status

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Links to things mentioned:

Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/

And his book The Sexually Healthy Man: https://amzn.to/3p4JmyF

Benjamin Young's Twitter Thread: https://twitter.com/BJYoung1990/status/1353521004073652224

Benjamin Young's ministry Guard the Gift: https://guardthegift.com/

The Great Sex Rescue: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/great-sex-rescue/

Our Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and Consent: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/podcast-marital-rape-consent/

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Links to things mentioned:

The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com

4 Stages of Porn Recovery: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/04/4-stages-of-porn-recovery-what-porn-recovery-in-marriage-looks-like/ 

The Bell-curve Modesty Rule: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/new-look-at-christian-modesty-guidelines/

The Whole Story: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/

The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827

Andrew Bauman: https://andrewjbauman.com/

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Unconditional respect isn’t a thing.
And yet we’re often told that men need unconditional respect, just like women need unconditional love.

Links to things mentioned: 

Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire 
Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall
Paul and Gender: Reclaiming the Apostle's Vision for Men and Women in Christ
The Great Sex Rescue
Psychology Today article 

To Support Us: 

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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We wrap up what can cause women’s libidos to plummet–and what men can do about it!
Because it isn’t always men’s fault (in fact, it’s often not). But guys can still be a big part of the solution. And if libido differences are a huge issue in your marriage, it doesn’t mean that there’s nothing that can be done.
Asking the hard questions can really help!

Links to things Mentioned in This Podcast:

The Great Sex Rescue
Our totally revamped Boost Your Libido course
Elora Dodd on Instagram , plus her Reel on Men’s Purity books and Women’s Purity Books
Our What’s Killing Women’s Libido series

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• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Recently John Piper had a podcast telling a woman how to deal with a “harsh” husband.
It was atrocious advice–especially since women in emotionally abusive relationships would listen to this advice and think that it pertained to them (since most women in abusive relationships would describe their husbands as harsh).

Links to things mentioned:

John Piper article on harsh husbands
Our original Facebook Live (expanded content from this podcast, extra 13 minutes on end)
Our article talking about John Piper and harsh husbands
Dr. Alison Cook on Turning the Other Cheek
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Our Merch!
Gretchen Baskerville on the effect of divorce on kids if husbands are abusive

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Let’s face the fact that fundamentalist Christianity in North America is basically a sex cult.
That’s Alyssa Wakefield’s conclusion in Part 2 of her story on the Bare Marriage podcast!

Links to things mentioned:

Part 1 of Alyssa's story
Wendy Snyder's FREE Parenting Workshop Registration
TraumaMAMAS app
Sarah McDugal:
Instagram
Facebook
Natalie Hoffman's book Is It Me?

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What if you grow up in what you now call a sex cult, and you marry because your dad told you to?
Did you really consent to that marriage? And how does it even happen in North America today that girls are being pushed into arranged marriages?
Today's podcast sounds more like one of those True Crime documentaries.

Links to things mentioned:

Our podcast on the Gothard movement with Emily Elizabeth Anderson
Our podcast on positive parenting with Wendy Snyder
Register for our free webinar with Wendy!

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Have we made sex–and marriage–into a “Yes Space” for men?
And if so, how does this affect libido?

Links to things mentioned:

The Orgasm Course
Podcast where we talked about postpartum sex
Review of Married Sex
Mental Load Podcast

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.