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Can we have a nuanced discussion about porn and the likelihood of recovery?
One of our goals for what we do is to help people have “informed consent”–in other words, before they make a decision, they need to know all the facts. We can’t be afraid of data and evidence.

Links to things mentioned:

Find Sarah!
Trauma Mamas App
Sarah's full Noticing vs. Lusting video
Knix in the U.S.
Knix in Canada
The Great Sex Rescue

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• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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How do our attachment styles–or love styles–affect our marriage?
So often we think that our marriage problems are about communication, or habits, or normal conflicts. But what if they’re rooted in how we learned to connect with people?

Links to things mentioned:

 Yerkovich's Website
How We Love
The Orgasm Course
Our Post on the 5 Love Styles
Knix in the U.S.
Knix in Canada
The Great Sex Rescue

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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What if discipline and spanking aren’t synonyms?
What if there was a much more effective way of disciplining your kids where you connect with their heart and it actually BUILDS your relationship?

Links to things mentioned:

Fresh Start Family Podcast
Episode 122
Episode 123
Wendy's site
Discipline Class
Strong Willed Kids help
Logical Discipline Planning Guide
Jesus the Gentle Parent
Heartfelt Discipline
The Mask You Live in Documentary
The Whole Story Puberty and Sex Course
Angry Me by Sandra Feder
Knix in the U.S.
Knix in Canada
The Great Sex Rescue

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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In the last of our three podcasts with Joanna where we talk stats, we tackle a few more ways that research is often handled poorly, using the research around spanking as one example.
And then we bring on Wendy Snyder from Fresh Start Families to talk about how to use discipline that connects with your child!

Links to things mentioned:

Find Wendy!
Our articles on Spanking Babies and the research on spanking
The Gershoff Meta-Analyses of Spanking
The problems with the book Love & Respect
The problems with how Focus on the Family talks about divorce and kids
Knix in the U.S.
Knix in Canada
The Great Sex Rescue

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Attachment research is the science of how we relate to others. We can all have different attachment styles, based on whether we’ve got insecure attachment or secure attachment with our primary caregivers or loved ones (or even God!)

Links to things mentioned:

Knix in the U.S.
Knix in Canada
The Great Sex Rescue
Attachment Theory in Religion, Current Opinions in Psychology (2021)

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Last month Josh Howerton, lead pastor at Lakepointe Church in Dallas, wrote a Twitter thread sharing research with 5 reasons Christians are doing better than the media gives us credit for. Matt Chandler, head of The Acts29 Network and lead pastor at The Village Church, retweeted it.
The problem? The research he uses doesn’t say what he says it says.

Links to things mentioned:

Josh Howerton's article
The Institute for Family Studies report that he references
Knix in Canada
The Great Sex Rescue
The Gilad study that found that religious women had difficulties with domestic violence
The Life Saving Divorce analyzing what the Institute for Family Studies found about religiosity and abuse
The Whole Story Sex and Puberty course for parents and preteens

To Support Us: 

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Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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We misunderstand women in the Bible–and we misunderstand gender aspects of research!

Links to things mentioned:

Mary DeMuth
The Most Misunderstood Women of the Bible
Our podcast on the problems with the original Love & Respect question:
The podcast with the problems with For Young Women Only’s question on 82% of boys going too far, and our post fixing that question
The Podcast exploring the problems with misusing neuroscience research
The Great Sex Rescue
Here is the link with Knix.com 

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Today Emily Elizabeth Anderson from Thriving Forward joins us to tell her story, and to tell what she’s passionate about now. And especially how she found the actual Jesus after she left what she now sees as a cult.

Links to things mentioned:

Emily's blog Thriving Forward
Emily on Facebook
Stories about the lawsuit against Bill Gothard:
New charges allege religious leader, who has ties to the Duggars, sexually abused women
Where’s Justice For Bill Gothard and IBLP’s Victims?
Knix.com and Knix.ca

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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We talked about the findings from our survey, as described in this post last week on how many Christian guys are sexually safe.

Links to things mentioned:

Keith's post
The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex 

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Rebecca noticed that in Focus on the Family’s PluggedIn movie review for Turning Red, they had put references to menstruation under “sexual content”, including cramps and pads. And they warned that some people may hear an “echo of menstruation” in the title of the film.

Links to things mentioned:

Side by side screenshot of original review and edited review
Current review of Turning Red
The Whole Story Puberty Course
Our Period Series
Kyle Howard on Twitter

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.