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We saved some of our most important findings from our men’s survey for this special podcast!
Andrew Bauman, a licensed counselor and author of the new book How Not to Be an *ss, and Carl Thomas, who runs xxxchurch.com, come on to talk about our new stats. And then Keith and I tackled two reader questions about libido issues!

Links to things mentioned:

The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
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Andrew Bauman
Carl Thomas

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• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Does waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast!

Links to things mentioned:

Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook Group
The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the all new Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
The podcast on the Sexual Response Cycle
This week's post on vaginismus and wedding night sex
Here is the link with Knix.com 

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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It’s the one year anniversary since The Great Sex Rescue was published!
Rebecca and I want to talk about what we’ve rescued and how it’s been rescued–plus Elizabeth Fisher Good joins us to talk about fighting sex trafficking.

Links to things mentioned:

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Knix.com 
Elizabeth Fisher Good
The Great Sex Rescue
Articles this week about men and how the teachings affected them:
How Can Men Fix Their Sex Lives if They've Gone Downhill 
Who Believed the Toxic Sex Teachings More: Husband or Wife?

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Because our church culture teaches guys that they need sex the way newborn babies need to be fed in the middle of the night or the way an invalid needs water brought to them, men often don’t realize that they are being the selfish ones. They’re taught this is an absolute need they have, a life and death need, and so if she doesn’t want sex, that must mean she’s being selfish.

Links to things mentioned:

When Shame Gets Real by Carl Thomas
XXX Church

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Special thank you to our guest Patrick Weaver for joining us today! We look forward to having him on the podcast again in the future!

Links to things mentioned:

Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and help us get our research into peer reviewed journals. Plus you can join our rocking Facebook group and get unfiltered podcasts!
The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex
Our original birth control series plus the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility
Patrick Weaver’s Facebook Page and his Instagram

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Too many people don’t understand the sexual response cycle–so let’s spell it out and figure out why this lack of info has become so prevalent in evangelicalism!

Links to things mentioned:

The Intimately Us app!
The podcast where we dissected Emerson Eggerichs’ reply to the woman crying in the shower; and the podcast where the woman crying in the shower responds
The Dunning Kruger Effect: Article 1 and Article 2
The Good Guy’s and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
The 990 Tax Forms for Emerson Eggerichs’ non-profit for 2019

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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We are so honoured to have on the podcast today the woman who wrote that letter we discussed back in episode 129. She joins us to share her story, give some updates, and shed some light on what toxic teachings in practice actually resulted in.

Links to things mentioned:

The Intimately Us App! Download the free version right now–and there are special sexy challenges for Valentine’s Day!
CT Article about Domestic Violence in Brazil
Podcast about Emerson Eggerichs

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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At what point do we realize that something is terribly off with the way the evangelical church sees women?
Keith talks about his manifesto from yesterday and encourages men to see what is happening and jump out of the boiling water.

Links to things mentioned:

Research study about remarriage after divorce
Great Sex Rescue
Keith's article on the boiling water
Owen Strachan's tweet

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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• Our wonderful sponsor the Intimately Us app! A-so-much-more-than-foreplay app. Helps you communicate about sex, have awesome bedroom games, discover what you like (and communicate about it), and more! Clean and totally non-creepy too.
• Our Patreon--support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts and help support our research!
• Connor's post detailing all our problems with Emerson Eggerichs' podcast episode
• Our Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Emerson Eggerichs and Love & Respect
• Our original series about Love & Respect
• Pre-order The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the new and revamped Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex--with tons of detail about the sexual response cycle (and, no, housework is not an element of the sexual response cycle, Emerson Eggerichs).
• The Great Sex Rescue--the book we were inspired to write when we saw how toxic Love & Respect was
• Our Love AND Respect merchandise (mugs, stickers, tote bags, T-shirts, and more--because healthy people need both love AND respect).
• Our Duty Sex isn't Sexy podcast, all about obligation sex and marital rape

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Should you stay in such a church? Some people should, because the church is changing, and you feel called to be a “missionary” of sorts there. But maybe more should leave. I know I stayed too long, and Rebecca shares some passionate thoughts about her opinion on going to a church “because it has a good kids’ program” or “because it has a good youth program.”

Links to things mentioned:

Open Letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect
Download our scorecard and rubric for how we scored the books
Ngina Otiende's blog, Intentional Today
My post about Christopher
The Great Sex Rescue
Lucy Maud Montgomery’s short story The Strike at Putney

To Support Us: 

• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
• For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
• And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue 
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
•  The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
•  and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.