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Why are writers for The Gospel Coalition coming after the dad in the cartoon series Bluey? He’s an involved dad who loves his kids. Why are they so offended? Rick Pidcock joins Rebecca and Connor Lindenbach for a deep dive—and then Rebecca and Connor talk more about our anemic view of fatherhood.

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Things Mentioned

• Rick Pidcock’s article about coming after Bluey
• Jeremy Pryor’s article about Bluey turning fathers into mothers
• Rick Pidcock's blog

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Christa Brown was sexually assaulted dozens of times by her youth pastor when she was 15. She was made to repent and apologize to his wife. The pastor just got moved around from church to church for decades. When Christa’s daughter reached the same age Christa was when she was assaulted, she went public—and started the movement to push the SBC towards accountability for the sexual abuse crisis in their midst. She’s written a memoir called BaptistLand, and today we talk about Christa’s fight—and how SBC megachurch pastors today are still demonizing “little girls” rather than holding men accountable.

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

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IMPORTANT LINKS:

• Christa Brown’s book BaptistLand
• Christa on Twitter
• Christa on Substack
• Read the Guideposts report
• The original Houston Chronicle article
• News article about the amicus brief filed by SBC entities AGAINST a sexual assault victim
• Josh Howerton sermon clip
• See the documentary For Our Daughters
• Follow the Sons of Patriarchy podcast about Doug Wilson on Spotify

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• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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Talking to your kids about sex & puberty is awkward! And over the years the church has made some big mistakes. Today we talk about how to avoid the biggest ones--and some encouragement for how to do this with as little awkwardness as possible.

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Check out our revamped version of The Whole Story--our sex and puberty course for parents to share with kids. It's video-based, and it makes covering all the info much easier. It's on sale until Monday, October 28 at midnight.

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THINGS MENTIONED:

• Our book She Deserves Better

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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We aren’t going to fix the abuse crisis in the church until we deal with the underlying beliefs that actually enable abuse. Today Kristin Kobes Du Mez joins us to talk about her new documentary For Our Daughters, which shows how beliefs about gender, power and politics that are rampant in the church actually contribute to abuse. And Pastor Trey Ferguson joins us to comment on a recent article he wrote explaining how evangelicalism’s views of sex, which ignore intimacy, contribute to abuse too.

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Dr. Camden’s wonderful new book Recovering from Purity Culture launches this week! Learn the 5 myths of purity culture, how they affected you, and best of all—how to heal from them. Highly practical and insightful!

Plus Sheila wrote the foreword!

https://drcamden.com/book/

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THINGS MENTIONED:

• Check out our Hazardous Materials stickers to go on your books!
• Kristin’s documentary For Our Daughters
• The website for the film
• Jesus and John Wayne
• Pastor Trey’s article on Reframing Sex
• Trey Ferguson’s Online Church
• Trey Ferguson’s book Theologizin’ Bigger
• Andy Savage’s bio on his new church’s website
• My video about Andy Savage not returning to ministry

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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We know purity culture hurt so many of us. But how do we actually move on and recover from purity culture? Today Dr. Camden Morgante joins us to look at the 5 myths of purity culture, and how to heal and get to the other side!

OUR FREE WEBINAR!

Join Rebecca and me as we host Camden for a FREE webinar looking more into these myths, where we find them, and where we go from here! It'll be a super fun hour with some prizes, games, and lots of inside scoop!

Monday, October 14, 8 pm EST. Sign up here

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THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

• Dr. Camden's book Recovering from Purity Culture
• Get Dr. Camden's pre-order bonuses!
• Follow Dr. Camden online
• Find Dr. Camden on Instagram

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Ever heard the stat from “a recent study” that found that, when a husband comes to Christ first, in 93% of cases the wife and kids follow, but when the wife comes to Christ first, it’s only 17%? Today Beth Allison Barr and Miranda Zapor Cruz, both academics looking into gender relations in church, join me to try to track down the source. Spoiler alert: People seem to have made this up about 30 years ago—and they keep quoting it! We look at what happens when churches assume this stat is true.

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THINGS MENTIONED:

• Miranda Zapor Cruz’: The Myth of the 93% 
• Julie Roys’ podcast with Amanda Cunningham
• Tim Clinton Clip
• Danny Akin citing the “stat” 
• Josh Howerton clip (around 20:15)
• J.D. Greear clip 
• The Baptist Press article
• The Orthodox Barbie clip 
• The Christ Church of the Valley handbook with the “stat” 
• Matt Chandler saying he preaches to men:  (around 36-37 minutes)

ABOUT MIRANDA ZAPOR CRUZ:

• Find Miranda Zapor Cruz on Facebook 
• Order her book Faithful Politics 

ABOUT BETH ALLISON BARR:

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• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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We're all about healthy advice for marriage and sex. But what if evangelical teachings around parenting have also been messed up? And how can we parent in a healthy way? David and Amanda Erickson join us to talk about their new book The Flourishing Family, based on Scripture, brain science, attachment theory, and more. THIS is how we should parent!

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THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST

• The Flourishing Family
• Follow David and Amanda on Instagram
• Follow them on Facebook
• The clip of the Baptist pastor talking about spanking
• Our post where we look at the research about spanking
• Pre-Order The Marriage You Want (our new book coming in March!)

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• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
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And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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The evangelical world has an orgasm gap of 47 points between husbands and wives. Only 48% of women orgasm almost always or always, and 33% orgasm never or rarely.

The good news is that if you're in that 33%--you can still get to the 48%!

Today Rebecca and I look back at all the other episodes we've talked about orgasms, and have a great time discussing how we can learn to help couples prioritize her pleasure!

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It's on sale until Monday, September 23 at midnight! When you purchase the regular course, you'll get the men's version added for free!

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Things Mentioned in the Podcast

• The Great Sex Rescue
• Episode 74: You're Not Broken if Orgasm Is Elusive
• Episode 92: All about Orgasms
• Episode 129: Where Emerson Eggerichs Ignores Marital Rape (and doesn't understand women's arousal)
• Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef Boyardee
• Episode 168: The Myth of the Magic Penis

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Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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We know it’s not all men who are predators. But it’s far too many. And a recent horrible court case in France is reminding women all over the world that far too many men are willing and eager to do the unthinkable. The only way to tell who is safe is to look at their words and their actions. And the words of far too many evangelical leaders and authors and pastors are straight up rape culture. After what happened to Gisele Pelicot, I’m not willing to put up with it anymore. No more Every Man’s Battle rape culture mindset in the church!

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Rebecoming: Come Out of Hiding to Live as Your God-Given Essential Self.
This amazing book is one of the best I’ve read to explain basic counseling concepts, and gives you practical exercises to work through as you try to get unstuck. Highly recommend!

Things Mentioned

• The 7 Point Evangelical Confession of 2024
• Josh Howerton’s sermon clip
• A synopsis of the horrible ordeal of Gisele Pelicot
• The Great Sex Rescue
• The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit
• The Every Man’s Battle one sheet download
• Coinswallow's post on Instagram

Check out Sheila's books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Co

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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It’s a complete therapy session—in one book and one podcast! Dr. Merry Lin joins us to explain why we so often feel stuck—and how to move forward. If you’ve been confused by terms like trauma, attachment theory, the Stone Age brain, and more, Dr. Merry Lin joins us for a primer that can help us get unstuck—and rebecome who we were meant to be!

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About Dr. Merry Lin:

• See her book Rebecoming
• Find Dr. Merry’s website
• Find Dr. Merry on Instagram

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

• The Orgasm Course
• Self Awareness Test

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.