Becoming You with Suzy Welch

How long can you do something uncomfortable to get the result you want? In Chinese, there’s a saying for that: eating bitter. 

This week on Becoming You, Suzy takes on one of the most admired and most contentious values: Achievement, the drive for success, ambition, and winning, often at the price of postponing joy. Suzy is joined by Vivian Tu, known to millions as Your Rich BFF. Vivian is a former Wall Street trader turned finance creator, host of the podcast Networth and Chill, author of two New York Times best-sellers, and founder of the personal finance app Ask Dolly. 

Vivian shares her story, and then, for the first time, her Values Bridge results, live. Together they look at what drives her, where her values work in harmony, why one of her results runs against the grain of how most successful people are described, and where her life doesn’t match what she says she wants.

This is part of our 16-part series on the values that govern our lives. It’s a conversation about ambition, scoreboards, and the trade-offs every value carries.

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Check out Ask Dolly: askdolly.com/suzy

Listen to the Networth and Chill podcast here. 

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Stop everything you’re doing and do not take these three jobs. This is part two of our series featuring Becoming You Labs Chief Economist Sania Khan, all about the jobs that look good on paper, but may not be worth saying yes to.

This week, Suzy and Sania take on the final three. First, the job that only makes sense if you get promoted, including the two-year rotational programs that used to be the golden ticket. Then the job where you may be training your own AI replacement. And finally, the job that exists because of a single line item in someone else’s budget. For each one, they share what to ask before you say yes, and how to protect yourself if you’re already in it.

Along the way, Suzy tells the story of her own two-year program at Bain, a glass factory in Toledo, and the steel dumpster assignment that taught her more than any classroom. Plus, Sania introduces her “three Ms” framework for looking beyond today’s job boards: markets, movements, and megatrends. If you know someone future-proofing their career, or you’re in that position right now, this episode is for you. 

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Description: Welcome to The We Do Not Care Club Podcast hosted by Melani Sanders, content creator,  founding member of the WDNC, and New York Times bestselling author of The Official We Do Not Care Club Handbook. What started as Melani’s hilarious and all-too-true social media declaration that she simply did not care much anymore has become a global movement centered on sisterhood, laughter, honesty, and understanding that we are not alone, and we are enough. From menopause to marriage, motherhood, sex, relationships, changing bodies, mental health, work, money, food, and the everyday chaos of midlife, no topic is off-limits.

Available now: link.pscrb.fm/f0281/wdnccfdby-bec23

How much of yourself should you actually bring to work? You hear it all the time: “Bring your whole self.” Then again, “Don’t bring your whole self.”

This is the season finale of the first season of Please Advise, and your host Suzy Welch is flipping the script on advice-giving. After Suzy told a young woman to stop giggling, stop touching her hair, and overall stop being bubbly at work, her newsletter readers did not hold back. Two of them join her to disagree live: Elena, who fired off an email titled “Too bubbly???” and Jodie, a trauma surgeon and former cheerleader whose own email to Suzy was epic.

What follows is a debate about whether authenticity at work is a right or something you earn, how gender changes the answer, and how to tell a company that wants your real self from one that only wants the polished version. 

Thank you for an incredible first season of Please Advise! Suzy will be back with a new one soon, so if you have questions, submit it through the link below. 

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“Do not, under any circumstances, take that job.”

Everyone’s always telling you what job to take. This week, Suzy and Becoming You Labs chief economist Sania Khan tell you about the six you should think twice about, in a two-part series on the jobs that look good today but may leave you without a life raft tomorrow.

With hiring slowing and people clinging to the jobs they have, the temptation to say yes to any offer is real. But some of the most appealing roles come with risks that don’t show up on a resume: jobs where you’re indispensable but can’t prove it, jobs at companies that keep AI out of your hands, and jobs where you’ll take the blame for what AI gets wrong.

This week, Suzy and Sania take on the first three jobs, with real examples, current data, and practical ways to protect yourself if you’re already in one of them. You may even have one of these jobs right now. And if you do, there’s still realistic hope.

If you know someone who might be in one of these roles, forward them this episode. 

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What if the thing everyone compliments you on is your greatest professional gift, and you’ve spent your whole career trying to outgrow it?

This week on season 1 of Please Advise on the Becoming You podcast, Suzy’s guest is a friend who casually asked a question over dinner: what if my greatest aptitude is my personality? Allison Avery is a longtime HR professional and trained Jungian psychoanalyst figuring out what comes next. Now they’re taking it live, with a conversation about why we trust the skills we’ve had to earn, more than the ones that come naturally, and what changes when you stop treating your biggest gift as a consolation prize.

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Love hurts. Love heals. Love is blind. Love conquers all. So which is it? And should you give your whole life over to finding that one special person, or treat romance as just one part of a full life?

This week on Becoming You, Suzy takes on the value of romantic love, or Belovedness: how much you want to organize your life around one special person. This is part of our 16-episode series on the values that drive how we live, and the data on it might change how you think about love.

Suzy shares how Americans actually rank romance right now, and why the answer looks very different depending on whether you’re married, divorced, or single. Then she goes back in time, with a surprising history of marriage and the idea that the version of romance we’re all raised on is a very recent invention.

Then dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and NYT bestselling author of "Why Am I Like This?" joins Suzy to talk about the state of dating in 2026, why so many people have lost hope, and what happened when she stopped waiting to be chosen and started choosing.

And Suzy closes with a personal story about love, loss, and the value she almost left out entirely.

Take the Values Bridge to find out where Belovedness falls for you. Link and discount code below.

Find Sabrina Zohar’s new book, NYT bestseller “Why Am I Like This? Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create The Life You Want” here, find her on Instagram, and listen to her podcast The Sabrina Zohar Show.

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Dominique is heading to business school this fall to pivot from PR and communications into venture capital, and she wants to know: How do I turn my non-traditional background into a differentiator instead of something I have to explain away?

This week on Please Advise, the call-in show of Becoming You, Suzy knows exactly how Dominique feels. When she arrived at Harvard Business School in 1986 as a Miami crime reporter, nobody wanted her in their study group. Suzy’s non-traditional background made her an outsider, until it didn’t. Suzy shares how she turned that outsider status around, then looks at Dominique’s Values Bridge results and finds something that changes the way she answers the question.

Then Suzy gets to the question Dominique actually asked, with advice for anyone making a career pivot: Stop leading with your resume, and tell your own story, values, aptitudes, and interests included.

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Is this the best town in the world, or do you need to get out of here? For some people, there’s only one answer, and it’s never negotiable.

This week on Becoming You, Suzy skips the scholar and brings in someone who lives the value of Place, which is the value of location, out loud: Fabrizio Brienza, the “Door God” who decides who gets into Paul’s Casablanca, one of the hottest clubs in New York. Born in Campobasso, Italy, and shaped by Miami and Los Angeles, Fabrizio is clear that after New York, everywhere else feels like going from a Rolls-Royce to a Toyota Corolla. Yes, with the rats and all. 

In this latest installment of a 16-part series on the values that drive how we live, Suzy tells the story of how Place became a gatekeeping value in her scientifically-validated assessment, The Values Bridge: Where you live is one of the first things to figure out before you plan anything else.

Where does Place fall for you as a value? Found out with a special discount code below. 

Find Fabrizio Brienza on Instagram and TikTok.  

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How long can you hold your breath? That's what it feels like when you're not living one of your top values: like being underwater, searching for a surface you can't see.

This week on Please Advise, Suzy talks to Michelle, an architect and firm partner in her early 40s with three kids in first, second, and third grade. Michelle took the Values Bridge last year and found the results transformational, but one thing surprised her. Her top values are a tie between Eudemonia (wellbeing, self-care, balance) and Beholderism (a love of beautiful things), yet work has always felt central to her life. Her question: can work or family be how you live your values, even if they aren't values themselves?

Then Michelle shares a number that stops the conversation: a 72% Authenticity Gap on Eudemonia, which is the distance between how much she wants to live that value and how much she actually does. Suzy's rule of thumb is that anything over 50% means the house is on fire.

Why is the gap so big, and what closes it? Suzy's diagnosis comes from a value Michelle barely mentioned, and the prescription is surprisingly doable.

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