Becoming You with Suzy Welch

Jes is 27, works in the nonprofit sector, and has a not-so-secret dream: she wants to be a writer. The problem, as she sees it, is a values conflict — she wants her work to be seen, but she doesn't want to be famous, and she wants to make money, but writing doesn't pay unless you're willing to put your whole life on display.

This week on Please Advise, Suzy starts down that path with Jes, but the conversation doesn't stay there. Underneath the values question is a harder one nobody had asked yet: does Jes actually have the aptitude to be a writer, or does she just love the idea of it? Suzy calls in some radical candor to find out.

What emerges isn't "don't chase the dream." There’s a sharper, more useful answer, and Suzy helps Jes map out a path that actually aligns. It's a conversation about ambition, honesty, and the difference between an interest and an aptitude. As Suzy puts it, an interest without the aptitude to back it up has another name: a hobby.

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There may be no value more contentious than this one — so contentious that Suzy Welch almost didn't include it in her own methodology at all.

This episode is the next installment of an epic 16-part deep dive, one episode for each of the 16 values in the language Suzy created with the Values Bridge, her scientifically validated assessment tool. This week's value is Cosmos — faith, in any tradition, not one in particular — and it's the most polarized value on the entire Values Bridge at that. 

Suzy sits down with Ryan Burge, professor at Washington University in St. Louis, author of “The Vanishing Church,” and the researcher behind the Substack “Graphs About Religion,” to unpack the state of faith in America today. Suzy also gets personal, telling the story of her own faith journey since age 14, and confessing something she's never said on the podcast before. Tune in for more.

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Lily is 68, newly retired, and bored out of her mind. What she really wants now is to do something so scary it keeps her up at night.

This week as season 1 of Please Advise continues, Suzy talks to Lily, who's had more lives than most: news anchor, reporter, road manager for a band touring Quebec, medical claims specialist, full-time felting artist (yes, a piece of hers once went to Stevie Nicks), and, most recently, a coordinator at the VA. She's got the courage, the resume, and even a vision board, but one thing keeps holding her back: a very low tolerance for financial risk.

Suzy digs into Lily's values, aptitudes, and interests, and lands on the breakthrough — which isn't even the idea itself. It's Suzy's reframe of how to get there. Stop imagining the five-day version and start with the five-hour one. Small experiments, low risk, real data, one step before the next.

It's a conversation about courage at any age, the difference between dreaming big and starting small, and why it's never too late to place the chips on yourself.

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Christina hates office politics. Who doesn't? But after 20-plus years in corporate marketing, she's started asking herself a much harder question: What if the problem isn't the politics — what if it's her?

This week on Becoming You, Suzy talks to Christina, a brand management veteran who recently quit her job, unsure whether she's actually cut out for corporate life at all, or just tired of playing a game she never wanted to play. Suzy shares her own bruising run-in with office politics from her early career days, before turning diagnostic on Christina's story.

And it points toward one particular next move: Stop trying to survive inside a culture that will always clash with who you are, and go build the one that won't. It's a conversation about self-awareness, entrepreneurship, and the difference between throwing in the towel and finally stepping into your authentic self.

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Two Suzy’s walk into a podcast. One of them has had 30 jobs. The other is here to help sort through what job is next. 

This week on Please Advise, your host Suzy Welch talks to a fellow Suzy — Atlanta's own "Suzie Sunshine" — who has found herself stuck with where to turn next. Now in her mid-50s, with her children grown, and with over 30 jobs in her lifetime, Suzie Sunshine is nowhere near ready to slow down, but isn’t sure which is the best path to take. 

Your host Suzy goes straight into diagnostic mode, tracing the story back to a seventh-grade dream of acting, a magazine article that scared her off it, and a quiet, decades-long override by one of the Four Horsemen of Values Destruction. Suzy walks through Suzie Sunshine's top values and lands on an answer that actually has nothing to do with another job title at all.

It's a conversation about entrepreneurship, courage, and betting on yourself when you think the clock is running out — and a reminder that it is never too late to become you.

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How do you make a fun, upbeat podcast about a value that makes literally everyone uncomfortable — the people who have it and the people who don't? That's the challenge Suzy Welch sets for herself this week on Becoming You.

This episode is the next installment of an epic 16-part deep dive, one episode for each of the 16 values in the language Suzy created with The Values Bridge, her scientifically validated assessment tool. We all hold these values, ranked 1 to 16 in a different order for each of us, and understanding the language can change everything. That's because values aren't virtues like happiness or honesty — they're choices about how you live your life, and there's no good or bad, right or wrong, about which ones you hold.

This week's value is Radius: the drive to change the world in big, systemic ways. Suzy explains why so few of us have it (just 10%, ranking 14 out of 16 values) and reveals the single most shocking data point in the Values Bridge dataset about it. Suzy also draws a hard line between Radius and its frequently confused cousin, Non-Sibi — the value of helping people one-on-one — and explains why wanting to change the world doesn't necessarily mean wanting to help people individually.

Then Suzy goes to 20,000 feet with Dr. Jay Van Bavel, professor of psychology and neuroscience at NYU and author of The Power of Us, to debate whether Radius is a value or an identity — and to unpack why movements built around Radius so often turn on themselves. Finally, Suzy sits down with Kitty Block, CEO of Humane World for Animals, whose own Radius story involves twenty veterinarians, a runaway dog, and a face full of bruises.

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Find Jay Van Bavel on LinkedIn, X,  and his book, The Power of Us. 

Find Kitty Block at Humane World for Animals. 

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"I want the old you back." Sometimes that's how the people closest to you respond when you start actually living your values — and it's exactly what this week’s caller Brie is running into with her own family, on this episode of Please Advise.

Suzy takes two listener calls this week. First, Ana, 44, back on the job hunt after a sabbatical, doing everything by the book: networking, applying, staying intentional. Yet still hitting silence. Suzy walks through Ana's values and aptitudes and lands on the real problem: it's not her, it's her tactics. Suzy shares her advice after years of being on both sides of the desk. 

Then Brie calls in. She's gotten clear on her values and is living more aligned with them than ever, except her family isn't sure what to make of the new her. Suzy names what's actually happening: Brie's family is confusing values with virtues, and reading her growth as a rejection of them. Suzy walks through her own version of this story, including a hard-won truce with her own kids over Workcentrism and Achievement, and makes the case that naming your values out loud, to the people who love you, is what keeps you close instead of growing apart.

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Suzy continues her deep dive into the 16 values from the Welch-Bristol Values Inventory with Beholderism — our desire for beautiful things: our homes, our clothes, our stuff, ourselves. It's the #4 most prevalent value in the general population, #2 for women overall, and yet it's one of the values people are most likely to feel ashamed of.

Suzy walks through the data on who has it and who doesn't, shares the story of the time her Beholderism led her to knock on a Finnish mayor's door, and sits down with legendary interior designer Elizabeth Lawrence of Williams Lawrence. Then Dr. Evelyn Welch — historian, MBE, and Vice-Chancellor of the University of Bristol, and Suzy's friend of 52 years — joins to explain why beauty and consumerism have been linked since long before the Renaissance.

If you've ever felt silly for caring how things look, this episode is your permission slip.

Find Elizabeth Lawrence on Instagram @elizabeth_m_lawrence and @williams_lawrence_interiors.

Elizabeth Lawrence and Bunny Williams: Decoration available here.

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This week on Becoming You’s Please Advise series, your host Suzy Welch takes two more listener calls. Erin is a 55-year-old single mom of three, working a job in HR that's quietly hollowing her out, and she wants to know: does she stick it out until she knows exactly what to do next, or does she leave now? Suzy walks through Erin's top values and lands on a piece of advice that has nothing to do with a resume: Stop building the website, and start building the business.

Then Suzy talks to Parnian, an executive and entrepreneur navigating the "messy middle" of career, marriage, and family planning all at once, who asks how women can better lean on each other to get ahead. Suzy's answer takes an unexpected turn into a new definition of resilience, and a hard line she draws for her students: Don't network, make friends. It's Suzy at her most personal, weaving in stories from her own divorce, her PhD, and a friendship that changed the entire trajectory of her career.

Real questions, real answers, no scripts — Please Advise Season 1 continues.

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This week on Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch hits pause on the values deep-dive series for something urgent: the state of work today. After Suzy casually dropped the phrase "job hugging" on a recent appearance at the Today Show — which is the trend of people gripping their jobs because they're terrified of what's coming — the reaction was, in Suzy's words, an internet meltdown. So she brought in Chief Labor Economist Sania Khan, formerly of the Bureau of Labor Statistics and then an AI company, to separate the panic from the data.

They get into it: whether AI is coming for every job or about to create a wave of new ones, why "low hire, low fire" is quietly locking younger workers out of the labor market, and why a second-year analyst should be more nervous right now than almost anyone else in the building. Sania lays out the proactive work exercise she'd give any 22-year-old, or any 40-year-old, staring down a job that suddenly needs a rewrite.

If you've got a job, want a job, or are quietly panicking about either, this one's for you.

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