Christmas is supposed to be joyful. Magical. Simple. So why does Becoming You host Suzy Welch feel so…troubled…by Santa Claus?

This week on the podcast, Becoming You is celebrating Christmas with a conversation about one of the most misunderstood of the 16 values in Becoming You’s Values Bridge system: Cosmos. 

Cosmos represents religion or spirituality—not any specific religion, but the degree to which faith shapes how someone experiences the world. And here’s what the data tells us: Cosmos is the most polarized value there is. You either have it…or you don’t. Suzy does.

In this episode, she explores what it’s like to live as a high-Cosmos person in a largely Santa-forward, faith-agnostic culture—especially at Christmas. Why suppressing your #1 value can be exhausting. Why faith can feel disconcerting to people who don’t share it. And why understanding this value—whether it’s yours or not—may be one of the most important acts of respect we can offer each other.

Along the way, Suzy shares her own unexpected faith story, why she almost left Cosmos out of the Values Bridge entirely, and what Christmas means to her. 

This is not a sermon. It’s not an argument. And it’s definitely not a typical holiday episode. It’s an invitation: to understand a value you may not share, to see the people who hold it more clearly, and to consider whether the greatest gift this season might be learning how to honor each other’s differences—with compassion, curiosity, and a little grace.

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In this special episode of Becoming You, your host Suzy Welch does something few mothers-in-law would dare to do: she cold-calls her daughters-in-law and asks that question – Am I a good mother in law?

Suzy is joined by clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of You, Your Husband & His Mother, for an honest, deeply human conversation about values and family. Together, they ask: What does a good mother-in-law really look like? Why do the holidays so often expose unspoken power dynamics and values conflicts? And how does insecurity – especially in family systems – cause us to lose curiosity, shut down, and stop asking the questions that actually build connection?

Dr. Tracy explains why staying curious about a daughter-in-law (or any new family member) is one of the most important – and hardest – skills to develop, and how inquiry can replace control without sacrificing your values. 

They also explore whether couples can thrive with differing values and why sometimes the healthiest move isn’t pulling harder on either side, but dropping the rope entirely and accepting that not everyone in your family will see the world the way you do. Suzy shares a moving story about her son and daughter-in-law – a seemingly simple moment – that reveals what it really means to face family pressure together.

This episode is for anyone navigating in-laws, holidays, or family tension, and wondering how to stay true to themselves without losing the relationship.

Find Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

https://drtracyd.com/

https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/?hl=en

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What makes a relationship truly work? Is it chemistry, shared interests, or something deeper – something that holds when life gets complicated? In this special installment of Becoming Us, where host Suzy Welch applies the Becoming You values methodology to couples, Suzy sits down with media and reality TV personality Sam Feher and her boyfriend William Hayden, co-founder of the startup Bags. Together, they explore how aligned values create the real foundation for a strong, lasting partnership.

Using the proven, data-driven Becoming You values framework, Suzy helps Sam and William illuminate exactly where their values naturally align and where meaningful gaps appear. They dig into one of their biggest value contrasts: Cosmos, the value of faith, which sits at the very bottom of Sam’s list but in William’s top tier. They discuss navigating conversations about religion and spirituality with respect instead of friction. And they unpack the reverse dynamic with Belonging – a core value for Sam, but one of William’s lowest – complete with a hilarious story about a competitive game night that revealed exactly what Belonging looks like in action for them as a couple.

Throughout the conversation, Suzy shows how understanding these contrasts through The Values Bridge can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for connection. And she also reveals the “green flag” of all green flags: the one value Sam and William rank nearly identically – and how that shared priority quietly strengthens their relationship every single day.

This episode is a masterclass in how clarity about your own values – and your partner’s – can turn “me” and “you” into a thriving, unstoppable “us.”

Find Sam on Instagram and CAPS LOCK podcast

Find William's company, Bags

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Only 11% of Americans rank family as their #1 value.

That's not a guess. It's data from nearly 100,000 respondents of The Values Bridge—the largest values data set ever compiled.

On this episode of Becoming You, host Suzy Welch breaks down the research from Becoming You Labs behind her widely discussed Wall Street Journal op-ed, "For Americans, Family Comes First—Or Does It?" And she's brought in the perfect person to help make sense of it: renowned family therapist Vienna Pharaon.

What The Values Bridge reveals about family challenges nearly everything we've been told about what matters most—and raises profound questions about how we're actually living our lives. That's why this conversation feels so personal—and important.

Suzy and Vienna explore:

• Why our childhood experiences and the messages we absorbed growing up shape our values more than we realize.
• The values that consistently outrank family, like self-care and flourishing.
• How to honor your real values and design a life around them—without the guilt that comes from not living up to others' expectations.

This conversation isn't about whether you love your family. It's about understanding what genuinely drives your choices, your energy, and how you spend your days.

If you've ever felt guilty for not wanting to go home for the holidays, or wondered why you don't feel about family the way you think you should—you're not alone. And this conversation will help you understand why.

Where to find Vienna Pharaon:

Workbook: https://viennapharaon.com/wound-workbooks-opt-in/

Quiz: https://1wsm6geg69z.typeform.com/to/d981R7Cl

Website: https://viennapharaon.com

Instagram: @mindfulmft

Facebook: MindfulMFT

TikTok: mindfulmft

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Happy Thanksgiving, Becoming You community. This podcast exists to help you think deeply about your purpose—and today, our host Suzy Welch is doing exactly that in one of her most reflective episodes yet.

Before turning to the four things she's happily thankful for right here and now, Suzy examines three significant mistakes she's only grown grateful for over time. A highly specialized (and utterly impractical) college major. Her painful first marriage. A spectacular termination. Three consequential missteps—and the wisdom each eventually revealed may not be what you'd anticipate.

This is an unusually candid conversation. The path to purpose, it turns out, isn't always paved with achievements. Sometimes it's forged through the decisions we initially wish we could undo.

This Thanksgiving, we're sitting with the paradox of gratitude—for the detours that redirected us, the lessons that only time could teach, and the unexpected places where meaning takes root.

Happy Thanksgiving. Let's keep becoming us, together.

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It's time once again for a mailbag episode of Becoming You, in which host Suzy Welch tackles three "I feel stuck" moments that couldn't be more different—except they all demand the kind of honesty that stings a little before it sets you free.

First up: a stay-at-home mom who adores her kids but has completely lost herself in the process. Suzy unpacks the deep, painful ironies of motherhood and what it really means to reclaim your identity without guilt.

Next: a listener who wants permission to quit a job after just two months, citing her "values." With compassion—but also clarity—Suzy draws a crucial distinction between values and virtues, and gently pushes back on what's really happening here: breaking a contract, letting down a friend, and maybe engineering a little vacation time. "This is not about values," Suzy says. "This is about right and wrong." It's tough love, delivered with heart.

Finally: a 73-year-old listener asks whether Becoming You even applies in retirement. Suzy's answer? An emphatic yes. The clock isn't ticking backward, and purpose doesn't come with an expiration date. In fact, "third halfers" might be the most ideal Becoming You audience of all.

Plus, a final lightning-round question about Suzy's workplace pet peeves. Warning: a pun may be involved. Tune in to find out—and while you're at it, hear a few messages that may strike home, and heart.

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Yes, they’re painful. But so is being unemployed.

First of all, surprise, this is a podcast that is, at its core, about ageism, a real and painful dynamic faced by way too many people in today’s hyper-fierce workforce. But in the course of coming up with solutions for fighting ageism, our host Suzy Welch realized her advice was something that applied to everyone. Because the five questions she wants you to ask yourself – and answer with brutal candor – are all about relevance, the greatest single competitive advantage you can take with you to an interview.

Each week, Becoming You endeavors to help listeners discover their purpose, at home, in life, in love, with careers. Today’s work-focused episode is possibly more intense than usual. OK, not possibly. It is. The questions it urges you to ask, and the tough-love commentary Suzy provides about them, may make you cringe. But as Suzy says, “Getting the job you love can sometimes feel like one big humiliation machine.” We cannot let that scare us off.

So take a deep breath, grab something to take notes, and get ready for what could be the most unexpected 30 minutes of job search advice you didn’t know you needed to hear, but did.

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“You’ll be judged no matter what you do.”
“No one is coming to save you.”
“Most people secretly want you to fail.”

We’ve all heard the so-called hard truths about success—but are they actually true?

In this special Career Confidential edition of the Becoming You podcast, host Suzy Welch and her inimitable, sometimes-cohost Dustin Liu—associate director of the Initiative on Purpose and Flourishing—put twenty of life’s toughest “truths” on trial. One by one, they debate whether these cynical mantras are wisdom… or just noise.

It’s fast, funny, and fiercely honest—a lightning round of reality checks that might just change how you think about work, ambition, and what it really means to become you.

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A Becoming You Conversation with the Icons Behind Excuse My Grandma.

This week on Becoming You, Suzy Welch welcomes one of social media’s most beloved cross-generational duos: Kim Murstein and her grandmother, Gail Rudnick — the stars behind Excuse My Grandma. Their humorous and heartfelt take on dating, modern life, and generational differences has captured millions of fans, and now they’re bringing that electric dynamic to a values conversation like no other.

Suzy invited Kim and Gail to take The Values Bridge, the science-based assessment at the heart of the Becoming You methodology. What follows is a candid, funny, and surprisingly emotional deep-dive into where their values align — and where they couldn’t be further apart. There are moments of honesty, discovery, and plenty of laughter as this duo talks through what truly matters to them.

Becoming You is a podcast about purpose — and how understanding our own values, and those of the people we love, can transform our relationships. Each week, Suzy brings warmth, candor, and years of experience helping people align their lives with who they really are.

This episode is a reminder that generational clashes don’t have to be battles — with the right language, they can become the bridges that unite us all.

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A Special “Becoming Us” Episode with Erin and Abe Lichy

At its heart, Becoming You asks one big question: What should I do with my life? But sometimes that life is bound up with another’s — a marriage, a family, a partnership that tests where “you” end and “we” begin.

In this special “Becoming Us” episode, Real Housewives of New York star Erin Lichy and her husband, Abe, join Suzy Welch for a revealing, funny, and deeply human conversation about love, ambition, and identity. Guided by Suzy and the Values Bridge — the Becoming You method for uncovering what truly matters — the couple discovers how their shared and differing values shape their relationship in ways they hadn’t fully seen before.

With Suzy’s signature mix of empathy, insight, and candor, the conversation becomes something rare: an honest exploration of how two people can grow together without losing themselves. By the end, Erin and Abe — and everyone listening — see how understanding your values, and your partner’s, can turn even the hardest conversations into moments of connection and possibility.

If Becoming You helps you discover who you are, this episode shows how to stay true to that person inside the partnership that defines your life.

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