What helps you build sexual confidence? Sex is a vulnerable act, and fear and self-doubt can often arise in situations where things don’t go according to our expectations.   On this thoughtful FAQ episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After (https://happyeverafter.asia/) answer your most pressing questions around building sexual confidence. Topics on this episode include:  

1. How do I feel sexy in my body after a double mastectomy for breast cancer?
2. How can I stop being anxious about my small penis size?
3. I’ve noticed a pattern in my relationships that sex with my partner usually stops after 1-2 months of dating. How can I overcome feeling undesirable?
4. I suffer from vaginismus and have low sexual confidence. How can I stop worrying that my partner isn’t getting the intimacy he craves?
5. How can I be more confident around initiating sex?

 

Throughout the episode, we offer countless tips on how to make the shift from performative sex to pleasurable sex. Anyone can be sexually confident, but it does take practice, care and patience.

 

At its core, sexual confidence is about feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy.

 

Learning to accept and be grateful for our bodies as “good bodies” can make a huge impact on our perception of any sexual situation, and help to boost our sexual confidence.

 

Identifying our desires (and fears) and then discussing them openly with our partners can also help to prevent our negative self-talk from taking over in the moment.

 

Sex is as much of a mental activity, as a physical activity. So start building your sexual confidence by tuning into this episode!

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Is three always a crowd? Apparently not when it comes to group sex encounters - since studies say that having a threesome is one of the most popular sexual fantasies.    On this episode, Sara and co-host Jannus sit down with model and sexy lifestyle events host Vonny Lang (http://instagram.com/vonnylang), to chat about our personal experiences around group sex. We explore the different benefits and dynamics of group sex, and why its such a common fantasy. We also discuss the common fears that people may have when approaching group sex, and how to overcome them. 

 

We give guidance around how newbies can bring up a group sex fantasy to a partner and navigate their first group sex encounter at a play party or a sex club. 

 

This episode will inspire you and give you some useful tips if you’re figuring out how to have a sexy, fun, drama-free threesome (or moresome) of your wet dreams!

 

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Curious to try an open relationship, but don’t know quite where or how to start?

 

On this episode, Sara chats with relationship coach Valentina Tudose (http://happyeverafter.asia) to answer your most common questions about open relationships, such as:

 

1. What basic ground rules should I set if I’m just starting out with open relationships
2. How can I handle my intense attraction to a new lover since I started to open my relationship with my spouse?
3. I want to have an open relationship, but how do I manage my jealousy?
4. How do I bring up an open relationship to a partner that has been previously unreceptive?

 

Some ground rules that Valentina and I discuss for an open relationship include: prioritizing your partner, having regular check-ins, communicating your needs with compassion, and a strong commitment to radical honesty.

 

We also share tips around managing jealousy and how when used constructively, jealousy can be a useful tool to help us address issues and get what we need.

 

We also offer reminders and tips for couples who are in the process of opening up their relationship to think about it as if they're embarking on a joint adventure or an exciting journey together. 

 

If you're interested in open relationships, we suggest bringing up the conversation regarding your values and beliefs around non-traditional relationship models early in the dating process to avoid a future mismatch and heartbreak.

 

This episode is a must-listen if you and/or your partner are curious about non-monogamy or trying to work up the courage to open your relationship.

 

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Ever been in a sexual situation where your - or your partner's - penis wasn't doing exactly what you wanted it to do? 

 

Penis issues are incredibly common, yet they are often accompanied by stress, fear, anxiety, and shame. The penis-owner can feel like a failure, and they can make sex a task instead of a pleasure.

 

That’s why Sara and Jeff Abraham, CEO of sexual health company Promescent (http://promescent.com) sit down and answer your most pressing penis questions on this Sex FAQs episode. Topics include:

1. How do I overcome performance anxiety?
2. What can I do to keep my erections strong with age?
3. How can I last longer during sex?
4. How can I improve my male masturbation sessions? 
5. How do I maintain an erection with condoms? 
6. What if I struggle to ejaculate during sex?

 

Sara and Jeff shed some light on the causes of common penis issues, and talk about what to do if, or when, things go south in different situations.

 

Penis challenges are very common, and they don’t have to signal the end of your sex life. After all, there’s so much more to sex than just erections and ejaculations, so shifting away from a penis performance mindset and finding creative ways to satisfy each other is key.

 

As communication is the most important tool to solve any kind of penis issue, speak up and seek help with any challenge you may be experiencing. Ultimately, penis issues are nothing to be ashamed of. 

 

Tune in to the episode to get tips on keeping your penis healthy and happy in any S.O.S situation. 

 

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How does self-love help us have a better sex life?

 

On this uplifting episode, Sara sits down with co-host and relationship coach Valentina Tudose of Happy Ever After to discuss the principles of self-love and how they apply to the bedroom.

 

We start off with a definition of how self-love is about accepting and integrating all parts of ourselves, even the parts that we might ordinarily hide, reject or be ashamed of.

 

When we love ourselves enough, we stop performing in the bedroom, we have more pleasure, and we give ourselves permission to fully express our sexuality.

 

If you’re someone that’s looking to empower yourself with self-love in the bedroom and beyond, this episode will give you practical tips to change unhelpful narratives around sex, deal with your inner critic, fully express your sexuality and more!

 

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How can we rekindle the sexual desire for a long-term partner? Or is desire always destined to fade?

 

On this pre-Valentine’s Day episode, Sara chats with Dr. Kristin Zeising, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist, and co-host Mo from the Ho Ho Hong Kong podcast, and we tackle all things sexual desire.

 

Kristin shares the latest scientific thinking on the sexual response cycle, and we discuss the different styles of sexual desire - spontaneous vs responsive.

 

We learn that sexual desire doesn’t have to fade in long-term relationships, the nature of desire just changes over time.

 

By managing the biggest drivers and brakes that impact our sexual desire, we can take back control of our sex drives, and sex lives.

 

We also challenge the most common myths surrounding sexual desire, such as whether men really do want sex more than women and whether libido always drops off with age.

 

This episode offers practical strategies for lovers who are looking to spice things up and rekindle their sexual spark. So if you’re struggling with sexual desire in your relationship due to the pandemic or simply life’s daily challenges, have a listen! 

 

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How are you incorporating erotic touch into your sex life? On this sensual episode, Sara chats with sex educator and founder of Confident Lovers, Christina Antonyan and co-host Kat Leung about the art of erotic touch.

Touch is fundamentally important to all of us, as a love language and form of communication. It is also one of the key skills to the art of lovemaking.

We discuss the different types of touch that lovers typically use to communicate, from sensual, affectionate to sexual.

We also share simple, practical tips around how to enjoy erotic touch, from slowing down, using a blindfold and applying mindfulness.

Finally, Christina offers some specific erotic touch techniques for approaching the different body parts such as the breasts, vulva and bum that will help take your sensual exploration to the next level.

 

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Can sex toys be good for our sexual - and overall - health?

Many of us regard sex toys as tools of pleasure, but this informative episode will help you to rethink the possibilities of sex toys, and how you’re using them.

Sara chats with Dr. Soum Rakshit, co-founder of Mysteryvibe, a brand that aims to solve big topics in sexual health in an accessible way. Mysteryvibe creates FDA-approved medical devices for sexual health, which also do double-duty as sex toys and pleasure products. 

We explore how sex toys can be used to aid with sexual health issues such as scar tissue after childbirth, menstrual pain, painful sex and even premature ejaculation.

Many people are reluctant to see a doctor to seek solutions for common sexual health issues, but are more open to using a sex toy or would happily to receive it as a gift.

We also discuss the benefits of introducing sex toys into your relationship, whether it’s to improve orgasms, overcome an obstacle, or simply to assist in opening the conversation about sexual health.

Dr. Soum offers countless suggestions on improving your sexual health, including tips on specific toys to use and how to use them.

Regardless of whether you’re looking to overcome issues or enhance your enjoyment in the bedroom, tune into the episode to find out how sex toys can make sexual health easier and more fun.

 

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How can you be more sexually assertive and dominant in the bedroom?

Sara co-hosts this episode with kink coach Jannus, and we chat with guest Mistress Eva Oh, a professional dominatrix about her journey into BDSM.

We discuss the psychology behind being assertive and dominant in a BDSM context and the dynamics that come with it. We learn where sexual power comes from, and what we can do to step into that power or give it away.

Whether or not you’re into BDSM, sexual assertiveness is something that we can all practice by simply knowing what we want and being confident enough to ask for it in the bedroom.

We all then share some practical tips and ideas around bringing more kink into the bedroom - from training subs, doling out rewards and punishments, initiating sex and more!

This episode is a must-listen if you’re interested becoming more sexually assertive and if you want to incorporate more BDSM into your sex life.

 

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Why is sex always so hot when you’re on holiday?

In this hilarious episode, Sara chats with sex-positive friends Kat and Will, about some fun and exciting holiday sex encounters.

Holiday sex brings out a sense of adventure in all of us, it allows us to break from routine and explore something new in a completely different setting. We tend to be less inhibited and experience more anticipation.

While the sex may be hotter, we also talk about some of the potential drawbacks of holiday sex and what to do to avoid them.

We also share tips around how to prepare for a sexy holiday, and what we can do to bring that holiday magic to our sex lives even when we’re not traveling.

This episode will have you laughing, reminiscing, and planning your next sexy getaway!

 

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