Beyond Affairs

How do you find forgiveness?  
This is a common question that seems to be the very thing every betrayed spouse wants to know.  We find that many professionals and even pastors or leaders can give advice around this topic that is NOT the most beneficial perspective.  Forgiveness might not be what you think it is; we find that forgiveness is a process...not necessarily step one.  Listen to Anne (and guest speaker Jaylene) as they discuss what forgiveness looks like.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Knowing how to navigate conversations with your partner in a productive fashion can be really difficult, especially in the midst of betrayal recovery.  Listen to Anne as she points out some of the most important concepts to think about before you engage in that hard discussion.  Be in a mindset that has a clear goal in mind - and remember, anger is RARELY productive, so don't let this emotion overshadow your intent!

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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The life Brian had built, the family Brian had raised, the friends he'd made and the church he'd been attending were all about to be damaged as a result of his actions.

Brian had an affair. 
It was the very thing that only a few months earlier he would have held others in contempt for.

“How did he end up doing the very thing he thought he never could?”

Brian discusses his choices and the things that led up to him having an affair.  Listen to part two his story, as he paints the unfaithful's perspective.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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The life Brian had built, the family Brian had raised, the friends he'd made and the church he'd been attending were all about to be damaged as a result of his actions.

Brian had an affair. 
It was the very thing that only a few months earlier he would have held others in contempt for.

“How did he end up doing the very thing he thought he never could?”

Brian discusses his choices and the things that led up to him having an affair.  Listen to his story, as he paints the unfaithful's perspective.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com  360.306.3367

We have boundaries around our property. If you have a fence between your yard and your neighbor’s yard, it is very clear, which part belongs to you, and which part belongs to him. We respect these boundaries. I can’t just suddenly decide I’d rather sit in my neighbor’s yard on a hot summer day, without getting his permission.  And if I do sit in his yard, without his consent, I have violated a boundary.  Likely my neighbor will enforce his boundary and ensure that I leave. If he doesn’t, he may begin to experience stress.

Other boundaries are less visible, but they are no less real.  In life it's as if we all have our own private front yard and backyard. It is the part of our lives that belongs to us and it is our responsibility. The problem is... other people have a tendency to throw their garbage in our yard.  It doesn’t belong in our yard.  It is their responsibility.

Listen to Anne, as she helps you navigate and understand "boundaries."  Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle; they define who we are and who we are not.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com  360.306.3367

We have boundaries around our property. If you have a fence between your yard and your neighbor’s yard, it is very clear, which part belongs to you, and which part belongs to him. We respect these boundaries. I can’t just suddenly decide I’d rather sit in my neighbor’s yard on a hot summer day, without getting his permission.  And if I do sit in his yard, without his consent, I have violated a boundary.  Likely my neighbor will enforce his boundary and ensure that I leave. If he doesn’t, he may begin to experience stress.

Other boundaries are less visible, but they are no less real.  In life it's as if we all have our own private front yard and backyard. It is the part of our lives that belongs to us and it is our responsibility. The problem is... other people have a tendency to throw their garbage in our yard.  It doesn’t belong in our yard.  It is their responsibility.

Listen to Anne, as she helps you navigate and understand "boundaries."  Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle; they define who we are and who we are not.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com  360.306.3367

Listen to episode two of Anne and Brian's story of their affair journey.  Anne shares the brutal details via healing from betrayal; and provides the honest truth to what it took for her to realize her own strength.  Affair recovery is unique to every story and the steps an individual takes depends on numerous factors.  Anne shares her perspective and provides you with many resources that can be applicable to one's own story. 

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com  360.306.3367

I had been married for eighteen years when my unwanted infidelity experience began.  I was shocked. There had been no warning signs.  Words cannot begin to describe the intense pain I felt when I heard my husband say the words, “Anne, I've been seeing someone else.” There was physical pain, not just emotional pain.  

Chaos ensued.  Wrong reactions made a bad situation worse...and from that broken place, we rebuilt our marriage.

Today, I want to share with you my story.  Journey with me as I go back to my own personal nightmare; listen to me as I share with you the "nitty-gritty" details of betrayal and the intense pain that superseded our marriage.  Learn from my mistakes and let my story help you find your own personal victory. 

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
www.beyondaffairs.com  360.306.3367